Marley & Me - Released on DVD Today...DO NOT WATCH IT!!!

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Black LAbOK - we lost our black lab about 3  years ago...this was the most amazing dog...his name was Jake... you know, after that country song..."If I should die before I wake, feed Jake"...do you know it???  Well, years before the kids were born, this puppy literally came into the housing complex that my husband and I were renting our first home together in before we even got married.  He knocked at the door - ok, he probably pawed at the door...but still, it sounded like a knock.  My then boyfriend or fiancee...don't really remember...was taking a nap on the weekend in our bedroom.  I picked up the puppy, took him in and put him in the bed with my honey and told him that he had knocked at the door and I had to let him in.  He finished the nap with my husband and when they got up we said that as long as he got along with our young Rottweiler that we would keep him...so that the Rott would have a friend when we were at work all day.  They got along great...and that was the start of our time together.

Don't get me wrong - that lab wasn't all love and kisses...he was a terrible instigator!  Where as our Rott knew the rules of the house, the lab bent them until they broke!  He even escaped a couple of times, taking our Rott with him and it cost us over $300 each time to get them back from the pound.  Please understand, it's not like we were bad pet owners, we had a solid wood fence at least 6 or 7 feet high all around their yard.  But that lab had wanderlust...and every once in awhile he just had to escape...so much so that he would actually hurt himself trying to wedge himself through holes in fences that were really only small enough for a cat at the most.

Somewhere along the way, we had two kids...and after our dogs' second trip to the pound and the tongue lashing they got when they got home...they never left again.  Our Rottweiler made it until he was over 12 years old.  And it was quick, thankfully, because he was my first baby.  It killed me.  Truthfully, until my Rott passed away, I had always thought of my lab as the trouble making, pain in the butt child that we just kept to keep the "chosen one" happy.  Then, once my Rott was gone, the lab's true heart shone through.  He was so heartbroken at his friend being gone that he could not, would not stay in his yard...he would really shred his skin trying to squeeze out through the fences so that he could come lay on the front porch.  That's all he wanted was to be on the front porch - he missed his buddy too much to stay in the back yard. This isn't a rural neighborhood...you can't just let your dogs run wild like we could growing up in Vermont or somewhere.  So, after careful observation, and realizing that he would bark at anyone who came near the fence - but he would not charge them...I went to all the neighbors and told them that my dog was heartbroken over losing my Rott...and introduced them to Jake.  I told them that I was sure that 98% of the time he would stay on the front porch, since he was already an older dog himself (11 yrs. or so), but that occasionally he might come for a visit.  He became the neighborhood dog.  The neighbors didn't just fake it to be polite, they all loved it.  Daily he would go visit each of them for just a minute or so, and then he would come back to his porch.  Everytime we would come through our front gate, he would be there to greet us with his tail wagging.  He was even the first person that my neighbor, Diane, said "Happy New Year!" to one year.

About a year before we knew we were going to lose him, we got a Rottweiler / Boxer mix (Rider).  He's the newest love of my life.  I had hoped that by getting him early enough, Jake would teach him how to be a trustworthy neighborhood dog...but that didn't happen.  Rider has only one interest in life and that is to guard me and the children...so he's not suitable as a neighborhood embassador.  Finally, it happened.  I got a call on my cell phone at 6am or so from one of my neighbors, telling me that Jake was having a seizure in their driveway...it was like he was trying to see if anyone was awake to say good-bye to.  It was horrible.  I made my husband get up and load him in the truck and take him to the vet before my son (who had deemed Jake as HIS dog) got up for school...my poor husband was so upset.  Jake never came home, the vet said that a brain tumor had caused the seizure and he had probably had it for quite a long time. 

His death and absence affected the whole neighborhood, but of course mostly our family, more than I ever thought it would.  We missed him so much, someone we had taken for granted, he was always there...no matter what your mood, he was always there - happy to see you with a tail wagging and excited eyes.

My Rider dog will be 3 years old this summer, and Jake has been gone for 2 years.  My son has never gotten over it.  He loves the other dog, but the sight of a lab, any color, not just black, makes him so sad.  We all wanted to see the movie Marley & Me when it came out on Christmas day this year, but it was sold out...and we're stubborn.  If we couldn't see it on Christmas well we would just wait until it came out on DVD...that was today.  It's rated PG.  There is one scene in there that isn't bad - but I wouldn't want to explain it to my kids...but I had rented it tonight with the intent that hubby and I would watch it tonight and then since I have to drive on a LONG field trip for the kids tomorrow, that they could all watch it in the car on the way,  NO WAY!!!  That movie had me bawling for the last 1/2 hour!  My kids will never see that movie on my watch!  It's a great movie...and if I wasn't me...I would have loved it.

My son's 9th birthday is next week and I was really thinking of getting him another lab for his birthday - and also a friend for my Rider dog.  But how sad would it be if everytime we looked at this dog we were sad and thinking of Jake?  Or worse...we expected him to live up to a legend that just can't ever be again?

Well, now that I have had my personal melt down / rant...it really is a good movie...if you have a strong heart, I suggest you watch it...if not, save yourself and avoid it at all costs!

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Jen Anderson
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We lost our family's first dog in January of this year, Snowflake was 12 years and my daughter loved her.  We miss her so much. We do have Squeaky, who is almost 10.  We had them both since they were puppies.  They become such a part of the family. 

Thanks for the wrning on the movie--I'll get a box of tissues! 

Apr 01, 2009 06:07 AM #4
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We went to see the movie at the cheapie movie theater a few weeks ago.  I cried for the dog I lost to cancer over ten years ago, I cried for my aging mutt... I cried for the kids in the movie who grew up with Marley.

The day after we saw the movie  "our granddog"  a big old sweet black lab had to be put to sleep because of a tumor. 

I started reading the book but could never finish it. 

I walked out of the theater crying.

Apr 01, 2009 06:28 AM #5
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C Tann-Starr
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I am so sorry for your family. I loved my dog like a third child. We have never replaced him.

Apr 01, 2009 06:49 AM #6
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Apr 01, 2009 06:50 AM #7
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Mike Saunders
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Christine - it was painful sitting in the theater listening to the sobs at the end of the movie. I understand your pain. We lost Kismet 3 years ago and I was one of those sobbing. She was my friend for 14 years. If the dog is for your son, let him make the decision.Kismet in yard by Mike Saunders

Apr 01, 2009 07:10 AM #8
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Chanda Barrick
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Christine, your story brought tears to my eyes.  It is so painful losing a pet (family member in my eyes).  It sounds like Jake was a wonderful loving dog.  Just as others said, let your son decide if he'd like to bring another pup into the family.  I wish you and your family all the best. 

~Chanda

Apr 01, 2009 09:19 AM #9
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Thom & Ray - Nero looks so cool...maybe when, goodness forbid, my Rider dog goes over Rainbow Bridge, they can run and race together...Nero looks like a worthy opponent for Rider :-)  I'm sorry for your loss.  Thanks for writing.

Jen - I'm sorry to hear about your dog, Snowflake.  I am curious, has Squeaky taken on a whole new persona since Snowflake passed like our Jake did when my Rott passed away?  Thanks for stopping by!

Maureen - The bit about your "granddog" killed me...sounds like my Jake.  I'm so sorry for your family.

Carolyn - I don't think you can ever replace someone you loved...merely bring someone else new into your life whom you hope can provide some love and joy and make you miss the one that's gone a little less.  Thanks for sharing with us, oh - and for the Club Chaos feature.

Mike - So sorry you lost Kismet...he looks like a little cuddly ball of love.  I am glad you admit to being in that theater and choking up, makes you human.  My husband had to walk out on the end of us watching the movie because he couldn't stand to see me so upset and I think because secretly he was about to get distraught too!!!  Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

 

Apr 01, 2009 09:30 AM #10
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Mike & Chanda -  My son does want another dog...but I keep putting him off by saying, "We have Rider, we don't really need another dog."  But there is something deep down that tells me he does need another lab...  Our friends have a yellow one and when we go visit them, he'll just sit and play with that dog for the longest time with this yearning look in his eyes.

Apr 01, 2009 09:34 AM #11
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Christine - I was a little taken aback by the title, so I'm glad that I took the time to read your post.  Sorry to hear of your loss.  I cry at the drop of a hat, so "Marley and Me" may not be something I see anytime soon.

Apr 01, 2009 11:21 AM #12
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Pets really are like members of the family.  Just hope they go to heaven as well so we can see them again. 

Apr 01, 2009 12:00 PM #13
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You are very welcome, lovely. What you said is true. I keep thinking when the boys get a wee bit older I'll buy them a dog. Noah is animal crazy. Stephen is car crazy. This should be very interesting (LOL). ;-)

Apr 01, 2009 03:38 PM #14
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Jason - I guess the title was a little harsh for the message of the post...but it's what started all my emotional babble last night...so I guess I'll leave it as is :-)  Thanks for reading!

Brian - I hope, pray and believe that they do!!!  Although I think someone debated that with me once.  I don't care, in my heart I have to believe that we'll see them again.

Carolyn - Hey, count yourself lucky...my boy is both animal crazy and motorcycle crazy...and I don't just mean he like playing with them, he's been racing since he was 6!

Apr 01, 2009 08:48 PM #15
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Jean Terry
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Christine, We lost our dog on the day my husband retired. You never get over it.

Apr 01, 2009 11:30 PM #16
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Jean - I am sorry for your loss, thank you for stopping by and sharing with us.

Apr 02, 2009 12:34 AM #17
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I wanted to see this movie until I heard how it ends.  Im a big softy so I wont be seeing the movie any time soon.

Apr 02, 2009 12:37 AM #18
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We lost three of the loves of my live over the past few years. We have chosen not to get another dog. We just can't seem to get over losing our beloved pets. We do have a precious kitty. But I still miss having a puppy dog.

We had a black lab that looked alot like yours, only he had less white on his chest. His name was Zach. Labs are wonderful pets. You never know what they will do.

Apr 02, 2009 12:39 AM #19
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Christine Wade - Vista, CA

John - Yeah, it's hard to sit through the end.  If you're the stubborn sort and you can say that you're only going to watch the first 2/3 of the movie...than it's great!  LOL  But I couldn't walk away...and it was just sooooooo sad.

Sandy - Thanks for sharing...I did the same thing after my Rottweiler died...I mourned for a year (still had Jake though, which really helped)...but now Jake's been gone for over a year...and we all just have this hole - but honestly - I don't think it's fair to expect another dog to fill that hole.  Thanks for commenting.

Apr 02, 2009 03:36 AM #20
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Kathy Kooyman
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I rented it but haven't had time to finish it.  I fell asleep about the time Marley was started to show signs of aging.  We love cats in this family but a beloved pet is a beloved part of the family cat or dog.  So far it's a great movie, I appreciate them showing how the couple goes from newlyweds to real life, his dedication to his wife and his family.  There should be more family movies like this, only with hapy endings.

Apr 02, 2009 03:01 PM #21
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Christine Wade - Vista, CA

Kathy - Thanks for stopping by and commenting...I agree, we need more movies like this...but I also am a firm believer that ALL movies should have happy endings!  If we wanted reality we would walk out the front door and deal with life...not flip on a movie :-)

Apr 02, 2009 03:18 PM #22
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I love any good movie about dogs, cats, or any other pet. Marley & Me has been in my Blockbuster queue since the movie came out in the theaters.

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