I'm taking my best client EVER out today!

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Real Estate Agent with Lyon Real Estate, Fair Oaks CA (Sacramento Area) DRE# 00809499

Today I have a client I LOVE.  I've been working on them for over 10 years, trying to get them to move to my area.  GRINDING on them that they should. Whining, pleading, arguing.... nearly bribing.... all to no avail.  But now it's happening.  Who is this all important super client?  My Mom and Dad.

If you read my post on how I learned to really like my Mom, you know that we are close.  But only emotionally.  They live out in the ginkly weeds, on a planet far, far away.  OK, sorry, Vegas Bob, but Las Vegas is another world away from Fair Oaks. They have a great view home, and a ton of friends and card groups that my Mom skins plays with regularly. My Dad has slowed down, and doesn't leave the house much.

My conniving, cajoling and whining finally hit home, however.  Their neighbor bought their home (in Las Vegas' tough market, that's a  huge win), and Mom is arriving here today to go search for a new home in Sun City Roseville.  

Those of you with aging parents know what a win this is.  Mine are both over 85, and I'm their closest support.  It doesn't work long distance.  What convinced them, is the realization that my Mom, who must have her network of card playing friends, is still peppy enough to get reestablished.  In a few years, she may have ground down enough that she wouldn't be able to.  Then what? That finally hooked her.

And this is cool.... my 86 year old Mom has tricked ME. Her crowning comment was "OK.  We'll move. But only if you go on another trip with me.... what do you think about Australia?"  Sheesh, I should be so inspired at 80 frikken six.

So how have you dealt with the aging parent thing?  Any advise?

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Sally Dunbar, 30 year Broker Associate, Lyon Real Estate, Fair Oaks, CA (916) 524-1548, SDunbar@GoLyon.com "Your Fair Oaks Realtor"

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Rainmaker
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Sally Dunbar
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Anna - bless you for taking care of your aunt.  And you are right.  We lead our lives so we have time of the things that are imporatant.  And family is tops.  That's one of the beauty of being a realtor, we can do our work in the middle of the night, if need be, in order to be there when family needs us.  I figure I was a top producer during the years I raised my kids.... my parents can't be more demanding of my time than that! My Mom was a Realtor for 17 years.  She asked me the other day if she could hold open houses for me!

I love spending time with them both, so it's fantastic that they will be here.  As we speak, my Mom has been delayed at the Las Vegas airport.  I should have picked her up an hour ago... but it's still 1 1/2 hours away.

May 30, 2009 02:10 PM #14
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My mom is 81 but about 5 minutes from me...she has my grown children helping her out (my new son in law too) Mom still works 4 days a week and golfs every Monday...Tuesday sometimes too. My mom surely is going to outlive me :)

May 30, 2009 02:39 PM #15
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Barb Szabo, CRS
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Sally, I worked on my parents for 5 years before they moved to a condo near me. It was very difficult for them and they did that at the ages of 75 and 76. Now they say it was the best move they ever made. That was ten year ago and my only advice is to call often and take them out as often as you can,  and go on that trip with your Mom!

May 30, 2009 03:34 PM #16
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Sally - Sounds like your travel partner has some big plans for the two of you.  Enjoy your time together.

May 30, 2009 04:53 PM #17
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Sally, no advice here. I am up to my eyeballs in old people.. old people with cows. LOL. My dad lives in GA and wants to move back to FL, all I can do is find him the help that he needs as in good realtors, which I have done.

Have fun with this one!

May 30, 2009 05:09 PM #18
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Hi Sally!
First, how wonderful for you to have your parents so much closer! And Sun City is a wonderful place!  We are nudging up to issues with one of our parents.  We know she shouldn't drive much longer and she is fiercely fighting every inch of aging...which is wonderful in one sense, but it also frustrates her and saddens her.  We are just watching for now...but taking away the car is going to be hard when the day comes.

May 30, 2009 05:14 PM #19
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We found a house she likes, and have made an offer.....

May 30, 2009 11:45 PM #20
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Sally, it is great that you still have your parents around. Cherish them while you can...

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May 31, 2009 04:37 AM #21
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Sally tha is fantasic!  Keep us posted and send pics.....espcecially when you go on the trip!

I'm on my way out this aftenoon to visit with my aunt in assited living. I wish she was doing as well a your folks. She's got parkinson's and goes in and out of depression. She's in  down phase right now and it so hard to see her so depressed.  But......hopefully we can find a way to make things better for her again.

 

Quality of life means everything!

May 31, 2009 02:27 PM #22
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Sally, how cool!

Oh, and Australia! Good on ya mate!

I'm so jealous. It's been a few years since I've been there.

May 31, 2009 10:15 PM #23
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Sally Dunbar
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Michael - OK, I will.  I promise.

Anna - What a jewel you are to take care for her, especially when it is so hard.  I think depression is the hardest of all to take care of.

Andrew - I don't kow if we'll be able to pull off a big trip.  But it's certainly a goal.

Jun 01, 2009 09:51 AM #24
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Sally - I am sorry I missed your post up until today, I have been quite busy. Better late then never, I think it's wonderful and featured at .................. HAPPY AT ACTIVERAIN

This post has happiness written all over it!

Vegas Bob

Jun 01, 2009 07:09 PM #25
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Andrew Haslett
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Sally, what do you mean by "a big trip"?

Granted, it does take a few more hours to fly to Australia than Europe or Hawaii, or Japan.

Fly Qantas. They are great. Air New Zealand is pretty good, too.

Once in Australia, it isn't bigger than the US. If you've travelled here, Australia is a cinch.

Jun 01, 2009 10:32 PM #26
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Vegas Bob - Thanks... I do have happy written all over me. I should know on Wednesday about the rental we're trying for.  At their age, I don't see buying, but we'll see about that, as well.

Andrew - I just mean that even thought I accepted her deal, I don't know how I'm going to pull off going anywhere big.  Australia is certainly big.  We'll see.  For now, I need to get them here.

Jun 02, 2009 12:24 AM #27
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Coleen DeGroff
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Hi Sally,

That's so cool that a) you've convinced your parents to move close to you and b) that you'd even want to!  :)

Maintaining a close relationship w/parents is a blessing indeed.

My dad passed away when he was 57, and my mom died 4 years ago when she was 70, so I am not as lucky....so please give your parents a hug from me and tell them I said way to GO!!

Jun 02, 2009 06:10 AM #28
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Carol Culkin
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I wish I were so lucky. My parents are in their 80's and having serious health issues but have decided to age in place. Myself and siblings all live out of town with me being the closest in proximity - 3 1/2 hours away. They always had a fear that if they moved closer we might have to relocate. Count yourself lucky that your parents will be nearby as they age, I can't begin to tell you how racked with guilt it can make you feel as a child knowing your parents are left alone frail and on their own.

Jun 02, 2009 12:52 PM #29
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Colleen and Carol - thanks to both of you.  I know I am lucky, in both WANTING and HAVING them near.

Jun 02, 2009 02:34 PM #30
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Good for you Sally! ~sigh~ my parents are STILL in Las Vegas in their eighties. We tried and tried and they come up with an excuse everytime.... we even had plane tickets and movers lined up and were there to fly with them the day before they were to leave....and they are still there.... It is extremely frustrating when one of them comes down sick or a unexpected trip to the hospital.... I hate the fact that I actually KNOW where all the hospitals are in Vegas and know my way around there.....some day maybe they will do it...

Jun 02, 2009 11:44 PM #31
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Valerie - Las Vegas must have some kind of draw, huh.  How frustrating for you.  I hope my parents don't do the same!

Jun 03, 2009 09:24 AM #32
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Sally!  That is awesome for both of you.  I only wish my parents would move nearby....they're in another country!  Making me think of them and wanting to go visit.  Have a great day!

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