The Things We Miss......Usually Seem Insignificant at the Time.

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...and most often are attached to the people that we love. This is the reason that we miss them. They remind us of how much we miss those people.

I've often heard it said that when you are old, and you sit on an old creaky rocking chair on a shady front porch, you will reminisce about the moments of your life; not the days, not the hours, not the years...just the moments.

Since my early days in Active Rain, back in the summer of 2007, so much has changed in my life.
I was never more aware of that than tonight after texting back and forth with my son Rob who is living on Big White in British Columbia and pursuing his dream of excelling at snowboarding. Snowboarding on Big White

He spent two years at the University of Guelph, my old university, and then, after a tragic occurrance in the life of one of his closest friends, he decided to take a break from university and pursue his dreams.
He says he's never been happier in his entire life and, for this, I'm very thankful and happy.

Tonight I was reading an old blog of mine, one of my early ones where I waxed philosophical about Grandmothers, Sons and The Book of Knowledge, and it hit home just how many things are different in my life now.

I no longer live near my Mom.
The bright red geraniums that I used to overwinter for her every year, no longer sit on my window sill.
Thinking of these geraniums and how many years she and I saw them through, brings a small ache to my heart and to this day, whenever I see red geraniums, I think of her.

I no longer have tons and tons of laundry to do from my son Rob and the echo of 'What's for supper?' no longer rings in my ears.
What I wouldn't give to be folding rugby gear and tons of Rob's shirts once more. Everything changes so much in time, and yet, when we are immersed in the present, we can't imagine things ever changing.

They can and they will.

One day you will be reading old blog posts, just like I did tonight, and you will recall another time.
A time when you lived somewhere else and different people and activities filled your time. It all changes in a relentless kaleidoscope of magnificent hues that we should all appreciate as much as possible while we have them close at hand.

As the age-old saying goes 'This too shall pass.'

I need to remind myself of that more often and take note of just how lucky I really am.

©2010JoSmith

Jo-Anne Smith, the author of this article, is a REALTOR® with Brekland Realty Group, Oakville, Ontario and welcomes your real estate inquiries. To contact her, visit www.oakville-burlingtonhomes.com

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Jo..thanks for reminding me stop, and remember parts of my journey. If only I could remember where I left my car keys.

Jan 19, 2010 09:10 PM #16
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Like the song goes Your Gonna Miss This( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vG9XfJxMY8A ) . Don't always realize till its not there what we do miss.

 

Jan 20, 2010 10:36 AM #17
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Kathy,

How true! I hadn't thought of that....gee, I'm getting so used to change.

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:39 PM #18
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Ty,

I'll tell my sons I have a friend here in Ontario that knows Big White very well...they'll be impressed!

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:39 PM #19
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Fred,

lol....I think I'm already there.  ((-;

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:40 PM #20
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Lynda,

Thank you for the reminder to cherish each day that I still have my Mom in my life....

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:41 PM #21
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haha Mike....

I often can't find mine...then I look in the place they are supposed to be and lo and behold, there they are!!

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:42 PM #22
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Glenn,

I'm not a huge C&W fan, but I do love that song...as sad as it is.  Good reminder to cherish the people who are in our lives while we still have them.....

Jo

Jan 20, 2010 08:44 PM #23
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Jo

I think when I need some words of encouragement and wisdom I always know my source and shelter from my dear friend. Oh how true that saying "And this too shall pass" I think I have said that in my sleep at times.

Jan 21, 2010 03:06 AM #24
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memories are  something that we can cherish forever Jo - beautiul post!

Sincerely,

Grace

Jan 21, 2010 02:05 PM #25
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Hi Jo,

Very heart warming post. I hear you on wishing for the son that has left. I went from having 3 kids in the house to moving and no kids overnight. I cried for weeks I love when they come for vacations it feels like a home again! Good for your son to follow his dream!

Trace

Jan 21, 2010 03:34 PM #26
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Jo, what a beautiful post. It made me cry. Living in the present sometimes gives us moment of remembering and allowing. It is all we can do. The memories are sweet and that we have them is the miracle!

Jan 26, 2010 07:34 AM #27
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Tom,

You're so much like me...I've said it in my sleep too...sometimes there are so many things going on it's all we can do to remind ourselves that 'this too shall pass'.

thanks for being you,

Jo

Jan 30, 2010 09:34 AM #28
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hi Grace,

How true.....it's so nice to reflect back and remember people we love who are now gone...

Jo

Jan 30, 2010 09:35 AM #29
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Trace,

That must have been incredibly hard for you....did you move away from the town where they were living?

Jo

Jan 30, 2010 09:36 AM #30
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Jeanean,

You've put it so well....it is a miracle that we have memories. I often wonder if the rest of the animal kingdom reflects back on times past too.

Jo

Jan 30, 2010 09:37 AM #31
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Hi Jo,

Yes, we were all living in Regina and they didn't want to move away from there. I begged and begged my oldest was living with her boyfriend and going to University as was my middle go to University and my baby was playing triple A hockey and didn't want to leave his father by himself(very long story there). As it turns out now he really regrets not coming with me.

Feb 03, 2010 03:47 PM #32
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Trace,

It must have been extremely hard for you....I'm glad you get to see them regularly now.

Jo

Feb 04, 2010 02:36 PM #33
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Hi Jo,

It was really really hard. I went back to Regina every month for a week to see them. I did that for the first 2 years then it was not as often in the winter as I don't like driving on the highway at that time of the year plus my son was done school then and working full time.  And when we were in Kelowna which was a very short peroid in 07! This summer will now be my 6th year away and I still miss them just like the first day I moved!! I still do see them 6 - 8 times a year. My son is coming this weekend as a matter of fact!!

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hi Trace,

It must have been very hard for you....I know I miss my sons every day since they moved out to Kelowna and wish they were nearby so much.

Jo

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