A Mother’s Day Story – a Tribute to Aunt Margaret

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She bought me boots.  I was 7 years old.  I was a girl. Yet she bought me boots.

It was 1958. Girls wore frilly dresses.  Boys were “boys”, and collected frogs. My family just had all our possessions turned to ash when our interim warehouse burned down, during our move from Tuscon to Seattle.  We had nothing left except a worn copy of Childcraft, a spoon, and a bottle of Vidalin, which we carrried in our car en route to Seattle.

Our lives were gutted, so each of us 3 kids lived with a different relative that summer.  I was the lucky one.  I got to live with Aunt Margaret.

Margaret was cool.  Her VW bug always stunk from the crab traps she carried in the front trunk – just in case the tides were right – an adventure always in the making.  She smoked.  She told raunchy jokes – most of which I didn’t get. But I knew she could make my dad laugh.  Even my mom, who rolled her eyes at four letter words, unless they were in one of Margaret’s jokes- then they were perfect.

Margaret was ribald.  I didn’t know that word then, but she was it.  Wild. Hilarious. Outspoken.  Passionate. Full of life, and full of joy.  And willing to be who she was, which was far outside of the box.

The summer I spent with her was magical.  My cousin Walt and I spent our days in the ravine next to their home, climbing trees, digging tunnels, making forts, looking for forest fairies, and hiding from bandits.

That’s why she bought me boots.  “Every girl needs a good pair of boots” she said as she replaced my little white pattern leather Mary Janes with something akin to construction boots.  “Now you are set.”  They were the coolest things I had ever seen… even for a girl.

You see, Maragaret was a Woman of Substance. She went for it. She was bold.  She was big.  She loved me. I loved her.  And she died at 52, but not before she impacted me.

Fast forward 30 years. I am now an aunt to over a dozen nieces and nephews. Some are perfect.  Some have difficult parents.  Some have issues.  But all are special to me.  All have lives I have tried to touch.

Many I taught to drive a sand rail… “Feather the gas as you reach the top of the dune.  Veer right, finesse the steering brake, and roll over the top….. that’s it.  Great job.  You gave it just the right amount of gas.”

One I cried with under the bridge when her Dad left her Mom.  “One day you will understand that our parents are just kids who grew up and never figured out how to handle a relationship… it’s not your fault.  You job is to do better in your relationships. Pick the right guy the first time.”

One I marvel over at her ability to capture light and shadow with her photographs.  She’s amazing.

For another, I remain a bridge to his deceased father, who was my best friend…. my brother, who died way too young. He’s growing into an amazing adult. So hard working.  I’m so proud of him.  I tell him so.  I tell him I love him every time we talk.

I taught one to make videos.  How to edit.  Weekends on my Mac, trusting him at 10 years old with my $900 video camera, and my $2,000 computer.  Filming my cat as it wonders the house.  Showing him how to sync up the music.  TNT, it’s dynamite…” What copyrights mean.  We talk about life.  About friends. About yelling moms and college.  We talk.

Another I talk to every time life gets haywire. “I know who you are in there.  You will eventually make the right choice. Just know that you are trying on different behaviors now, but they are not who you really are.”

And always, I think of my Aunt Margaret, and how she taught me to be an aunt.  She taught me to care. To listen. To be involved. To speak my mind, and to be an advocate. A protector.  An Aunt of Substance. 

I know my Mom has forever missed her sister.  Margaret’s death, her only sister’s death, hit her hard.  But I wonder if she knows how Margaret lives on each time I reach out to one of my nieces and nephews.  Each time I get who they are.  Each time I care.

And it started with my boots.

 

 

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Scott Baker
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I had a favorite Aunt as well. She was my mom's sister. We had a great relationship, she was simply the best. Thank you for stirring the memory.

May 09, 2010 09:50 PM #15
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Hello:

No here is a Mother's Day tribute post that's really unusual, fun, and worth the feature treatment!

May 09, 2010 11:04 PM #16
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Tina Randler

Everyone could have used an aunt like Margaret and like you. So glad you are carrying on the family tradition. :) Happy Aunt's Day!

May 10, 2010 12:35 AM #17
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Joyce Dawkins

Sally, I love your tribute to your Aunt Margaret and the way she touched your life.  Creating memories with loved ones is what family and friends are all about.  You made me think about my own great Aunt Margaret.  It must be something about the name Margaret that makes them adventurous and strong. My Aunt Margaret rode with me on my first long distance road trip as a new driver.  She made the 250 miles seem so seamless and fun. And, she showed me the way to go too.  My Mom passed on the trip (LOL).  Aunt Margaret's brother was Uncle Joe, they were as close as they could be.  My brother and I call each other, Joe and Margaret because of their strength, wisdom and love for each other.

Thanks for sharing your wonderful story!

May 10, 2010 12:42 AM #18
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Inna Hardison
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Sally - what a beautiful story so sweetly told...  Everyone does need a great pair of boots and an awesome ribald auntie.  How very lucky for you to have had that and for your nephews and nieces to now have that in you.  Truly beautiful, dear, and congrats on the feature:-)

I would have very much liked to spend a day or a summer with your aunt!

May 10, 2010 12:54 AM #19
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Tina Gleisner
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What a wonderful story & how lucky you were to have this aunt, and to continue giving to all your nieces & nephews.

May 10, 2010 08:24 AM #20
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Michelle Gibson
Hansen Real Estate Group Inc. - Wellington, FL
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Sally - What an incredible story.  My aunt who is my God Mother is one of my best friends and even though she lives across the country we still talk once a week.  She has definitely played a big roll in my life and my families life.

May 10, 2010 08:39 AM #21
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Sally,

Not blessed with children of my own, I do all I can to emulate your Aunt Margaret and her legacy you share with your nieces and nephews. Thanks for sharing such a lovely post on Mother's Day!

May 10, 2010 08:45 AM #22
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Earlene Myers
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Sally - great post... I think your Aunt Margaret taught you well!

May 10, 2010 09:33 AM #23
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Sally Dunbar
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Ed - You are right, Margaret could have used a little fluffing in the presentation, but that was part of her charm, as well.  When you say what you mean, you offend some people sometimes.

Ellen - We each find our niche in the family.  How fortunate for your family to have a creative niche filled.

Michael, Scott, Aaron, tina - thanks for stopping by.

Joyce... er margaret..... margaret seems to be a popular name for fun-loving aunts.  I had an Uncle Joe too... Margaret's brother.

Inna - Margaret was an awesome writer, and would have loved to have spent the summer with you as well.  YOU are an awesome writer.

Tina - I guess this is "what goes around, comes around" in action.  Plus it shows how we can influence others by our simplest, most straight-forward actions.

Michelle - How lucky for you to have such a great God Mother.  Talking once a week is amazing. good for you.

Irene - I bet you are an amazing aunt, what with dinosaur bone hunting and other adventures...

Earlene - thanks.  She did a good job quite inadvertantly.

 

May 10, 2010 10:00 AM #24
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Gene Riemenschneider
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It is a shame to loose some one so close like that when they are so young.

May 10, 2010 11:57 AM #25
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Kathy Opatka
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What a wonderful story!  We all have our own "Aunt Margaret's".... mine was actually Aunt Margaret!!!

May 10, 2010 11:58 AM #26
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Jirius Isaac
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Sally, thanks for a truly wonderful true life story about your Aunt Margaret.  It is a shame she passed so young.  My wife's mother passed at 48 suddenly out of nowhere.  Every mothers day is a reminder for her.

May 10, 2010 01:30 PM #28
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Margaret Mitchell
Coldwell Banker Yorke Realty - York, ME
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Sally - I LOVED this post.  I was named for my Aunt Margaret, who was in turn named for HER Aunt Margaret.  Everyone girl should have one and hopefully, grow up to be one.

May 10, 2010 02:16 PM #29
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Sally Dunbar
Lyon Real Estate, Fair Oaks CA (Sacramento Area) - Fair Oaks, CA
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I am loving how Margaret is such a fun name within families.  Apparently it comes with a spunkiness that impacts nieces and nephews.  Way to go to all those Margarets out there!

May 10, 2010 05:43 PM #30
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Connie King
CK Staging & Design, Sevierville, TN - Sevierville, TN

Thank you for sharing this touching story.  Magaret sounds like one of a kind.   As an aunt,  but not a mother myself,   I try to impact my dear niece's life in only the best ways.   We may never know how far reaching our words or gestures may be.   Your nieces and nephews are blessed.

May 10, 2010 06:42 PM #31
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Christine Donovan
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This is a wonderful story, and how wonderful that you are giving back and honoring your Aunt Margaret by doing so.

May 11, 2010 01:38 AM #32
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Paula Swayne
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Hi Sally!
I think you got more that a memorable summer out of Aunt Margret...I think you got a lot of her personality too!

May 13, 2010 10:46 PM #33
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I thought of you and Aunt Margaret on Saturday, Sally. My brother & his family came to our new farm so I could teach the kids to fish.  Brian took 5 year old Ryan to pee in the bushes and 3 year old Juliana wanted to do the same. Her mom said "Girls go in the house" but Aunt Irene provided the outdoor option for girls. My niece now has a cool new skill and I remembered your Aunt Margaret!

May 28, 2010 08:53 AM #34
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Irene - I love it.  those little special skills can stick with you for a lifetime. Aunt Margaret must have been more lacking than I thought, however, as she never taught me how to do that!

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