Happy Father's Day, You Virile Studs

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with J. Philip Faranda (J. Philip R.E. LLC) Westchester County NY

A happy day to all of you titans of tadpoles, you efficacious fountains of fertility, you powerfully potent performers, you mighty ruffians of reproduction. I hope you have a great day. I'm taking Sunday off myself. 

Of course, getting one past the goalie really doesn't make a father in my book, and my own dad set the bar pretty high. He's been gone since July 8, 1993, and there isn't a day that goes by without my thinking of him. I still have my share of days when I ask myself what Dad would do. My father worked his way through Fordham in the Great Depression, fought in both the Second World War and Korea, raised and college educated 4 sons, one of whom nearly died at age 4, and was a devoted husband to my mom for 43 years. He always tried to do right. He cared that we'd do the same. I don't think my father ever had a selfish moment. 

Dad on the far right at 40th anniversary party

I know that fatherhood has changed me, and I have my kids to thank for that. If I weren't a dad I'd never do half the things I do, unless I suddenly decided that I liked earning a living in a field that is full commission, fraught with rejection and stress, and as challenging as anything else I have ever done. It is just human nature to go for the low hanging fruit. And kids change that. 

I was no walk in the park for my dad. I was born when my brothers were 16, 14, and 9. Dad was 46, and Mom was 41. My 9-year old brother was sick and they were afraid that I would be also. I was not. 

Me, Mom, Paul, Dad, Ruth, Jim and of course Dutchess

So when my brothers were grown, educated, married and employed, there was my father, in his 60s and retired, running me back and forth to wrestling meets, boy scouts, school functions, and things his contemporaries considered a distant memory. My college education cost what my three brothers cost combined. 

In 1987, when I spent the summer with my brother Paul in Texas, Dad flew down and drove back with me in my $900 Datsun 510 wagon, and I remember him talking to me for much of the trip about how it was in 1945 when he returned from the South Pacific. It was a big departure from his usual self, but we had 24 hours togther, and my mother was afraid we'd kill each other. I was 20; he was 66. We made it home just fine. He wasn't going to let me drive that far alone. I thank him for that. It was how he was- always looking out for me and not himself.  

As much as I think I challenged him, I always knew my dad loved me. 

So, to all you dads out there with your own stories to tell, have a great Father's Day yourself. 

Clockwise: Catherine, Luke, Phil, Ann, Gregory, Mark

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Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
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Philip,

What a wonderful tribute here. And photos, like a window to the  past, which has so much meaning and bring so many memories to you.

Thanks for sharing it with us

Jun 20, 2010 12:00 PM #1
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Karen Anne Stone
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Your post mentioned that fatherhood has "changed" you.  You mean you were worse than this before you became a father ?  Yikes... LOL.

Philip... it sounds like your Father was quite a Dad.  From reading your description of him... I don't know how he could have been a better father.  No wonder you miss him so.

Isn't it funny how the older WE get, the smarter our Fathers appear in the rear-view mirror.  I am sure that is true for many of us kids.

By the way... I would love to know which one was you... in the two pictures above.  That is always a fun thing to find out.

Jun 20, 2010 12:04 PM #2
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J. Philip Faranda
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Karen, Hard to believe, huh? I seem to recall you writing a rather touching thing about your dad last year. 

Jun 20, 2010 12:07 PM #3
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J. Philip Faranda
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Yes, Karen, you did. I never forgot that post!  

Happy Father's Day, Dad. I Miss You...

Jun 20, 2010 12:08 PM #4
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Karen Anne Stone
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Philip:  I still find tears in my eyes when I read that... my own post.  I miss him so much.  And such a nice thing for you to say.  Perhaps I should re-write my comment above, and be more than a little nicer.  LOL.  Thanks for your sweet comment about my post about my own Dad.

Note:  I did go back, and was actually quite nice... LOL.  Not blunt... just nice.  :)

Jun 20, 2010 12:42 PM #5
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Karen,  I love blunt. It must be the teacher in you. 

I am in the grey shirt in the first (3rd from left) and on the far left in the 2nd. 

Jun 20, 2010 01:00 PM #6
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Barb Szabo, CRS
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Philip, Even though you may have challenged your Dad, clearly he had a positive effect on you as a father and a human being. Happy Father's Day!

Jun 20, 2010 01:10 PM #7
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Susan Mangigian
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Happy Father's day Phil.  What a nice tribute.  Enjoy your children today, they are lucky to have such a fine man to call Dad!

Jun 20, 2010 02:01 PM #8
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J. Philip Faranda
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Thank you both. 

Jun 20, 2010 03:25 PM #9
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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Happy Father's Day, Philip!  I love the photos.  When I saw the one with the dog, and considered your line, "you efficacious fountains of fertility, you powerfully potent performers, you mighty ruffians of reproduction," I was expecting a litter of pups as well:-)

Jun 20, 2010 06:29 PM #10
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Cynthia Larsen
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Great photos, great story and you cracked me up with your opening line.  Happy Father's Day, you have quite the handsome family!

Jun 20, 2010 06:49 PM #11
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J. Philip Faranda
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Myrl, Dutchess was fixed. Too bad, because she would have made a great momma dawg. 

Cynthia, Thanks. I ran the other way after the opening paragraph. 

Jun 20, 2010 07:00 PM #12
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Steve and Jan Bachman
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It is amazing how having a child almost instantaneously forces maturity....or should. Here's to great parents and those that find them homes.

Jun 21, 2010 12:08 PM #13
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Andrew J. Lenza
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Holmdel, NJ

Well done.

Jun 21, 2010 10:06 PM #14
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