Just How Strong is this Four-Letter Word?

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Home Stager with Transition Stage LLC

Just How Strong is this Four-Letter Word?


It's not just a Beatles' song. It's not just a desperate refrain. It's not something shouted in anger, although extreme frustration may make us blurt it out. Just what is this four-letter word, and why is it so strong? Consider the following quote by an unknown author:

                                 A little boy was having difficulty lifting a heavy stone.
                                His father came along just then.

                               Noting the boy's failure, he asked, "Are you using all your strength?"

                              "Yes, I am," the little boy said impatiently.

                              "No, you are not," the father answered.
                              "I am right here just waiting, and you haven't asked me to help you."


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Does any of this resonate for you?

  • Do you often struggle on alone, convinced that whatever you're trying to accomplish somehow "won't count" if you ask for help?    Where is that written - and accounted for?
  • Do you feel the need to reinvent the wheel, when wheels of so many astonishingly different and creative styles are available if you just ask for help?    What if we re-used an existing wheel? Or adapted one to our own taste?
  • Do you feel great helping others, but hesitate - or hate - to ask for help yourself?   Would it be easier to ask if you knew you were giving others the gift of feeling great because they're able to help you?


Help is one of the strongest four-letter words in the English language. Strong enough for the heavy lifting sometimes required on both sides of the equation - from the requester as well as the giver.

Asking for help can require great courage: to overcome a feeling of inadequacy, or bad connotations from childhood authority figures,
or recent bad experiences with those for whom help is a dirty word.

Giving help can also require great courage: to give wholeheartedly with no expectation of return, or when the giving stretches us to our limits, or when trying to give only what the requester asks and not what we think he or she should want.

Help - both the giving and the receiving - is such a strong four-letter word because the very act requires us to grow, to learn, to be bigger and better than we were before. Help is an essential human trait.

Who have you asked for help lately?   Who have you helped lately?   Be strong - spread the word!


Just How Strong is this Four-Letter Word?

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Judy Klem
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties
Transition Stage LLC

Hi Brian - How funny! I love it that you had worked out a whole different train of thought for this post. Your comments really gave me a chuckle - thanks!  All the best to you, too!

January 12, 2011 05:38 PM
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Marie Graham
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Owner, The Refreshed Home White Plains NY

Judy, Judy, Judy...talk about timely...

I knew I owed you a hello from your reaching out last week, but have felt so saddened by last week's tragedy in Tuscon...and the further realization there is senseless violence all over the world, day in and day out-that I lost a lot of focus and kind of pulled back. Even started a post, asking if anyone else felt that way, then thought "NO-O-O-O I'm sure no one else feels they need help with this",  and deleted it.

THEN I read this. WOW, thank you. And of course, congrats on being featured, yes, you are getting the New Year off to ta great start!!

January 12, 2011 05:43 PM
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Judy Klem
Home Staging, Senior Move Management, Fairfield/New Haven counties
Transition Stage LLC

Hi Marie - I'm so glad that this post helped even a little bit. I know what it feels like to have that emotionally dazed feeling - I was a wreck after Sept 11 - and for quite a while afterwards.

It's sometimes very hard to have any kind of sensitivity in this world, because there's so much pain. But if you search here in AR, you'll find that quite a few people wrote about Tucson, reaching out instinctively to the wonderful community here.

Also, please know that you can email me any time you like if you want to have more of a one-on-one talk. We all need to help each other as we can.

Thanks so much for your kind words. It feels great to have a featured post!

January 12, 2011 06:43 PM
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Charles Edwards Bentonville
AR REALTOR, Bentonville Real Estate Agent and Broker
Coldwell Banker Harris McHaney & Faucette 479-253-3796

Judy, Help is one four letter word used to infrequently, in fact maybe HELP is the only four letter word used too infrequently.

January 12, 2011 08:35 PM
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Judy Klem
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Transition Stage LLC

Hi Charles - I think you may be right!   ;-)

January 12, 2011 08:49 PM
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