Happy Birthday Mom

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Happy Birthday Mom

Today, you would have been 80 years old. I can't tell you how much I miss you. I still have my last mental image of you, sitting in your wheelchair in the nursing home. You were the one who was so sick, yet it was you who was consoling me.

Seven years have passed but it doesn't get any easier. I think of you every single day and wonder why there still isn't a cure for the despicable disease that took you from me. A good friend of mine just lost her mother to cancer yesterday. Why, oh why, can't we stop it?

On this day, the day that will always have a special place in my heart, I think of you and how I wish I could have you back. I know, I know, you always told me that life seems as though it's not fair. Well, it isn't.

Happy Birthday Mom, I love you and miss you so much.

 

 

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Charita Cadenhead
Keller Williams Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

Happy Birthday to your beloved Mom.  Time heals all wounds, but thank God there's no cure for this kind of love.  Embrace the memories Cynthia.

February 19, 2011 05:37 PM #1
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Randy Benefield
Benefield Realty, DRE 01442405 - Petaluma, CA

Cynthia,

 

Happy Birthday to our Mom. She raise an outstanding Young Lady (That's You), and I am very proud to be your friend. I know your Mom is very proud of you.

Randy

February 19, 2011 06:07 PM #2
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Kerry L Klun
Tropical Realty of Suntree - Indialantic, FL
321-626-5868 - Space Coast Area Homes

Cynthia,

I write this to you with tears streaming down my face.  I felt your heartache so completely.  I do understand as I lost my dear, sweet grandma to cancer in 1995.  She loved me more than anyone else in the world and I felt it, knew it and was confident of it every day.  Then she was gone.  There was a poem that the hospice people gave us at the end and I hope it isn't too presumptuous of me to share it with you.  But I have kept it for years because it helped me to much, it goes...

I am standing upon the seashore. 

A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.

She is an object of beauty and strength.

I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says:

"There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"

Gone from my sight.  That is all. 

She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me, not her.  And just at the moment when someone at my side says:

"There, she is gone!"

There are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout

"Here she comes!"

And that is dying.

Cynthia, I hope that soothes you as it did me.

All My Best,

Kerry

 

 

February 19, 2011 06:12 PM #3
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Cynthia Larsen
Safe Haven Realty - Cotati, CA
Sonoma County Real Estate Broker

Charita - thank you, I do cherish the memories.

Randy - thanks, I love being your friend as well.

Kerry - I love this poem and I'm glad you left it here for others to read. I didn't understand what Hospice offered until my dad passed away (6 months after my mom). I was so intrigued with Hospice that I became trained as a volunteer which I did for two years. I'm now a Hospice trained end of life care giver.

February 19, 2011 07:05 PM #4
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Kerry L Klun
Tropical Realty of Suntree - Indialantic, FL
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Cynthia,

That is outstanding.  It takes a very special person to give so much of themselves.  You should write a pay it forward blog about your experiences.

February 19, 2011 07:13 PM #5
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Roger D. Mucci
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This is a beautiful tribute to your Mom on her birthday Cynthia.  Having lost my Dad two years ago, I know how you're feeling.  I wrote a post on his birthday in June.  Time doesn't seem to make it any easier, at least not for me.  It's almost harder as more time passes.  Best to you today and every day.

February 19, 2011 07:43 PM #6
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Ken Barker Realtor® GRI, E-Pro Certified
Dilbect Real Estate - Burbank, CA

Cynthia - Happy Birthday to your Mom. The family that we lose is so hard to get over. I lost my Mother over 10 years ago and she is always coming to the forefront. Especially her birthday and holidays.

February 19, 2011 10:19 PM #7
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Tammy Lankford
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Cynthia- you look so much like your beautiful mother.  I'm in awe that you have the strenth to work with Hospice.  My heart goes out to you.

February 19, 2011 10:39 PM #8
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Jane Peters
Power Brokers Int'l - Los Angeles, CA
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It is tough to watch a parent die.  My mother died of lung cancer almost 4 years ago.  She never smoked and it was a hideous way to go.  It took 2 years and she bore it with grace.  She had amazing free hospice care in South Wales.  I admire what you are doing.  I saw how close some of the care givers got to my mother and it is an incredibly difficult job.

February 20, 2011 12:10 AM #9
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Paul Henderson
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I lost my Mom in December and it was almost like someome grabbed my heart and shook it. My dad passed 34 years ago and I had forgotten the pain...

February 20, 2011 03:00 AM #10
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Cynthia Larsen
Safe Haven Realty - Cotati, CA
Sonoma County Real Estate Broker

Kerry - I've written about three blogs about my Hospice experiences ... they are really tough to write about because my "patients" have been family and friends.

Roger - thank you for your kind words. I'll go find you post about your father, I missed it.

Ken - the birthdays are the toughest for me.

Tammy - thank you, she was a pretty woman with red hair ... I don't work with Hospice any longer, my care giving is for friends and family.

Jane - care giving is exhausting but so rewarding ... and yes, it is hard to not get close to those you are caring for.

Paul - ouch, that was quite recent ... losing the person who gave birth to me was a surreal experience, almost uncomprehensible. It definitely brings mortality to the forefront.

February 20, 2011 12:54 PM #11
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Donne Knudsen
Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA - Simi Valley, CA
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Cynthia - I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear mother.  It sounds like you do have some wonderful memories of her though and that is wonderful on days like this.

February 20, 2011 11:04 PM #12
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Cynthia Larsen
Safe Haven Realty - Cotati, CA
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Donne - thanks ... yes I do have some very fond memories. I'm glad those will last forever.

February 22, 2011 12:25 PM #13
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