Encountering The Bee In Your Bonnet Person

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Kiss CookSome days there they are. Bright and beautiful and RIGHT in your face. You have

    Encountered The Bee In Your Bonnet Person

These are the just "naturally" crabby people. The Lucy character in Peanuts. The Maxine lady of cartoon fame. They can find you nearly anywhere. In a comment in your blog post. In a reply to a comment on their blog post. In the passenger seat as you drive this buyer around. An Associate REALTOR on the other end of the phone. An email communication from someone that takes you by surprise with THIS part of their personality showing. We all have our off days, but the "bee in your bonnet person" is having an especially grouchy moment. One thing I know is THEY are right and you are wrong, at least for this moment. Don't even try to reason with them.

I think some of it has to do with having a bad day or getting up on the wrong side of the bed or something, but you just have to step back from this massive crabby negativity bent on ruining your day with the venom they spew. I cut people some slack in this area on an "occasion" but if they are the persistent bee in your bonnet person I cut them loose. I have concluded very clearly it is THEM not me with the problem.

Life is too short to hang closely with these what only can be called bitter people.

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Gary Woltal
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
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Dan and Amy: It feels like that misery loves company when they surprise you out of the blue with their grumpiness. You can tolerate it for awhile, but not long.

Larry: Being the BEST YOU Larry you can never go wrong. Remain professional, polite, respectful, have dignity, and care about others. If they want to act callous or otherwise demeaning like you said, that is THEM. Don't stoop to their level.

Sharon: I love those Virginia bug in your shorts terms. Too funny. Negative Nellie's or Norman's too. I see you have been there with these people a time or two.

April 04, 2011 05:46 PM
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Gabrielle Kamahele Rhind
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KGC Properties LLC, Tucson Property Management & Real Estate

HI GARY!  I ran into one of the bees at the post office today!  Yikes!  I just smiled and smiled some more!

April 04, 2011 05:56 PM
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Cherise Selley
Colorado Springs Realtor
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Gary,

They're everywhere.  Just go to church or go out to eat or look around as you're driving.  The nonverbal cues give them away - furrowed brows and scowls on their faces.  YIKES... g

April 04, 2011 06:11 PM
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Hannah Williams
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Oh Gary..What a fantastic post..I am a lucky person.. My Mother taught me to always look at the bright side of life... I am allergic to BEES

HelpfulHannah

April 04, 2011 06:46 PM
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Gary Woltal
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth
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Gabrielle: See, you do see them here and there LOL.

Gordon: They're everywhere. I love that observation. I think one or two who popped up in my life recently spurred me to write this post.

Hannah: Your Mom taught you well.

April 04, 2011 07:10 PM
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Barb Szabo, CRS
E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes
RE/MAX Trinity Brecksville Ohio
Sometimes it has to be about just walking way because as you said, life is short. Great post Gary!
April 04, 2011 08:16 PM
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Gary Woltal
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Barb: Walking away works for me if they won't get the bee out of the bonnet.

April 04, 2011 09:09 PM
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Mike Wong
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Good topic Gary. I treat each bee on a case by case basis. Usually if they are really bent out of shape its better to revisit with them later, though I typically like to address and handle things on the fly. Now I brought up flies... great.

April 04, 2011 09:40 PM
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Carl Winters

There are too many positive thinking honey bees out there. Don't hang with the crabby bee in the bonnet type folk, they will never change.

April 04, 2011 09:50 PM
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Pam Miller
Broker Associate - Pearland/Friendswood
Realty Associates

Gary, life is too short to let those turkeys...I mean bees...bring you down.  But, seriously, being around grumpy people tends to make me lose my sunny disposition!@

April 04, 2011 09:57 PM
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Dorie Dillard
Realtor-Canyon Creek- NW, Austin TX Homes For Sale
Coldwell Banker United Realtors

Good evening Gary,

I couldn't agree with you more!! Lose anyone who is crabby..life is way too short!

April 04, 2011 10:59 PM
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Debe Maxwell
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Hi Gary!  SOOO true!  I've run into a few of these bees myself and I just fan them away!  No one is going to rain on MY party!!

April 04, 2011 11:25 PM
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Trey Thurmond
College Station , Texas Homes
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Gary

Always like you insight about people. Yes there are some that just aren't worth putting up with and eventually you have to just stay away from.

April 05, 2011 12:14 AM
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Ann Allen Hoover
CDPE SRES ASP e-PRO Realtor - Homes for Sale - AL
RE/MAX Advantage South

Hi Gary!  I'm on my way to Team Meeting in a few minutes which is usually pretty fun.....if I can keep away from that one grouchy person.  :o)

April 05, 2011 09:12 AM
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Allison Stewart
St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904
St.Cloud Homes

GARY-I just love your posts!   The world is full of interesting people-crabby ones included.  I often feel sorry for them as they are missing out onthe opportunity to enjoy things in life.

April 05, 2011 10:06 AM
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Suzanne McLaughlin
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When I was young, I always said I wanted to grow up to be crotchedy.  Maybe not so much now!  Now that I could actually be....

April 05, 2011 12:37 PM
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Mary Douglas
REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado
United Country Ponderosa Realty

Gary we can laugh at Maxine because she is brutally honest and we don't have to live with her LOL

April 05, 2011 12:40 PM
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Sandy Shores Broker, Melbourne Real Estate
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M & M Realty of Brevard Inc.

Gary, It's so hard to know what someone else's life has been like, as we've never walked in their shoes. Some just take it in stride and live life to the fullest.  Others wear it as a chip on their shoulder. It's a choice that each individual must make for themselves.

 

April 06, 2011 02:50 PM
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Peggy Wester
Real Estate Agent Ozaukee & Washington County Real
Think Young Team--Realty Executives Integrity

I love this. Haven't been around some "bee in my bonnet" people for a few months and am amazed at the positive change in my demeanor!

April 08, 2011 09:39 AM
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Renae Bolton
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Marketing 4 Realtors

You know I have some little kids in my home, Gary, right? Well, one day they were watching Sesame Street. My daughter loves the Grouch character. Every time he comes on, she just laughs. One day, I asked, "why is he so grouchy??" She replied, "He's happy when he's grouchy!"  Truer words have never been spoken, huh?  That from a 6 year old.  Some people are just happy being grouchy.  But like those who have replied here before me, I just don't have time for grouchy in my life. When the kids are grouchy, I make them have alone time - in a separate part of the house so that everyone else isn't affected by their attitude. It makes things so much easier.  Too bad we can't just put all the grouchy people in our lives on time out!

~Renae

April 10, 2011 02:27 PM
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