Avoid Turning Into A Microscope With Others

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Microscopic ExamSo often with relationships as they develop along we go from the big picture about knowing someone, kind of looking at them from a distance say like with a telescope, to ZEROING IN on them with all their fine details shifting to another kind of viewing instrument. With all our relationships I would caution us to go slow with this other approach and

Avoid Turning Into A Microscope With Others.

All of us are flawed in some way from our development and what individual path we have traveled. Quite normally our behaviors and actions, at least some of them will eventually be contrary to what another wants out of us. But whereas that telescope viewing of us reminded people of all the good in us, and they counted us as "blessings", the microscope view MAGNIFIES those flaws, and they nit pick us apart, as "no good." It is a huge error in not being "somewhat tolerant" of others, giving them a degree of acceptance as just being human. We also should show some patience with others and not walk off in a huff at the least bit of discomfort that we don't like their ways. Who knows? We might adapt and change to their way of thinking if they are PATIENT and give us a little more time cause we truly respect their feelings. Everyone can't just flip a switch and be like you want them to be in an instant. And what about YOU? Are you remembering what a blessing they were to start with?

Do not micro-manage a person and their every little word, attitude, behavior, and issue. We are biological, we are not machines. Above all we are human, and very fallible, with good days and bad days, like we all have.

Happy people are grateful for their blessings and show appreciation often. They stay away from being microscopes more often than not. They live with an attitude of patience and appreciation. They may want more of something, less of something else, something better, something they don't have yet, BUT above all they are VERY thankful for what they do have NOW!

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Rainer
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Allison Lahey
Cape Cod MA Homes, Second Homes, Seaside Homes - Marstons Mills, MA
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Great advice, Gary.  This is so easy to do.  But, we need to step back from a situation when it happens and remind ourselves as you have done here.  Life is tooo short!

May 04, 2011 11:06 AM #1
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Lori Bowers
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This is so true. We can look at the good in people or their flaws. No one is perfect.

May 04, 2011 11:09 AM #2
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John Howard
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Gary,   Very Good advice, and a great photo too!

May 04, 2011 11:12 AM #3
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Michael Kitsch
Coldwell Banker - Katy, TX

Good point, thank you. We can't be reminded often enough.  Have a great week!

May 04, 2011 11:13 AM #4
Rainer
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Gary...  I think that might be like " Let He Who Is Without Sin Cast The First Stone.........."

 

Anyways ..... might be linked to that Perception thing !! 

 

What a nice post ...! 

May 04, 2011 11:26 AM #5
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Sally Dunbar
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And therein is the saga of divorce.  We start out with the 20 mile view, where they are wonderful.  As time goes on, we keep zooming in closer, to the 2 mile view, then the 20 foot view, til we are at the microscopic view.  We don't like what we see, and are sure someone else will be better. And seen from the 20 mile view, they probably are better.

good point pal.

May 04, 2011 11:32 AM #6
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I love your post.  Those are words I needed to hear.  Guilty of not liking the ways of a client recently.  It was very hard not to judge.  This is just what I needed to hear today.

May 04, 2011 12:00 PM #7
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Kevin J. May
Hobe Sound, FL

Like a good wide angle lens, enough to take it all in but leaving out distortion is best.  Thank you Gary, I've been guilty of this lately and am trying hard not to succomb.  Why this happens, I've not a clue yet.

May 04, 2011 01:12 PM #8
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Laura Cerrano
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This is an excellent post Gary, love every word.  So wise you are :) Have a blessed day!

May 04, 2011 01:13 PM #9
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin
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My mother taught me it was impolite to stare so I still heed that advice. Look but not for long Gary!

May 04, 2011 03:17 PM #10
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Pam Miller
Realty Associates - Friendswood, TX
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Gary, great post!  We are all flawed and need to be a little more understanding of each other.

May 04, 2011 04:05 PM #11
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Mike Wong
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Awesome awesome awesome post Gary. I was having this discussion with someone this morning about personal relationships. I'm now emailing them your blog.

May 04, 2011 05:20 PM #12
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Lyn Sims
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Interesting post about microscopic relationships. Not a good way to be. Have an attitude of gratitude as best you can.

May 05, 2011 05:57 PM #13
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Sondra Meyer
Star View Real Estate - Colorado Springs, CO
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Well said Gary.  I hope your life is filled with as few microscopes as possible..... 

May 06, 2011 04:03 PM #14
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Gary:  Being "Too Focused" is one of my issues that I have to self correct....great way of explaining the concept and how not to dwell on the little things.

May 06, 2011 05:16 PM #15
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I for one, am truly grateful for what I have each and every day.  I hope in the end it can be said of me, "I am one who believed and cherished the blessings I received."  Don't sweat the small stuff, right.

 

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