LISTEN TO THE MESSAGE...DO NOT BE DISTRACTED BY THE MESSENGER

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with People first then business! Ran Right Realty Riverside, Ca BRE LIC #636943

The title of this post applies to any subject you can imagine. How about your boss is trying to explain something to you and he/she doesn't do a very good job of it and you are tempted to judge them on presentation and when you do so, you missed the message. Same thing in a marriage and friendships too

GET IT NOW...OR YOU WILL GET LATER

Human nature coupled with people's egos and pride work against them when they get take the bait and focus on the messenger instead of the point. If you do, the lesson will have to come around again and maybe even again until you do get it. More often than not, that comes with consequences and..... they are not pretty sometimes

I HEAR YOU...BUT THE "DO" IS A KILLER

This is an easy subject to discuss, share and even understand. But, TRY DOING IT. Whew! When you are up at bat, it is not so easy to hit one out of the park is what you find out pretty quick. Over time, you must master the art of listening and observing instead of defending and arguing

DON'T JUDGE...JUST LISTEN

More often than not, the messenger doesn't fit the pre-conceived profile either. A person who looks dorky or who cant communicate may be the one chosen to explain to you something. Or it can come in a way you don't expect it either. Parents are often ignored and resented because of their emotional deliveries, but listen to the message. If it is emotionally delivered, perhaps it is something someone wants you to know about. Ignore the emotions and get the message

CAN BE COSTLY

I once turned a all cash buyer...AWAY. I cringe  when I think about my earlier, young, ignorant, know it all years. He looked like a nobody, talked like a nobody and I concluded he was a nobody all before hearing him out. He actually came back three times and on the third, told me he was not interested which was his mild mannered way of telling me off

Listen to the message please and....... and not be distracted by the messenger.....

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Mike Schneider
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great advice for all ages ! sooner or later we get to that point ! apparently, "youth is wasted on youth"..

we all get to that point..."if I only knew then, what i know now"....some are lucky and catch on to your message earlier than others...Another perspective is....."listen to what we are saying to ourselves"..If we take the time to really go for our 'dreams"....listen to our ambitions and follow thru..so many, seem to go thru the path of life which is "expected" of them....but find unhappiness.

Thanks for your views !

Jul 10, 2011 09:52 AM #1
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Mike Cooper
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Richie, your title says it all.  Good stuff.  Thanks for posting.

Jul 10, 2011 09:53 AM #2
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Richie Alan Naggar Author PEARLS SERIES of books
People first then business! Ran Right Realty Riverside, Ca - Riverside, CA
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Mike...you get now have a $100 credit at Richie's general store and post...very good commenting and sharing thank you Mike

 

Hello Mike Cooper...very good of you to stop by and let us enjoy your presence...best to you

Jul 10, 2011 10:17 AM #3
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Ginny Gorman
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Interesting Richie...although the message has alot to do with immaturity i find many adults are still in puberty!  As it continues and their lives keep a muddle- the message is loud and clear sometimes but they can't stand to be told it...excellent share on this beautiful day of life...best

Jul 10, 2011 10:18 AM #4
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Ginny...you work like a tonic on me...good comment and sharing....thank you dear

Jul 10, 2011 10:39 AM #5
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Oh those hindsight moments, painful at times, but good learning lessons!!

Jul 10, 2011 05:00 PM #6
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CMJ....key under the mat...Let yourself in to Richie's general store & post whenever you like......

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