What Would Your Mother Say if She Read THIS

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Real Estate Technology with Imagine WOW! Digital Marketing Agency

Embarrassing Facebook Posts
Every once in a while I read a Facebook post that makes me cringe.  You know the type of post I’m referring to.  It’s typically a crude statement followed by a visual description of what they are doing, why they are doing it or even why that particular part of their life is so unbearable.

   Shocking Facebook Posts
Facebook posts like the one above make you want to blast the offender with things like – “what in the world were you thinking when you posted that??” or “what would your mother say if she read this?!”  Would she be horrified, mortified or stupefied?
 
Try as I might to shrug off those particular posts, I just can’t imagine what would possess someone to not only think such a thing but verbalize it for all to see. When I stumble upon this type of poor social behavior, I want to give the poster the benefit of the doubt.  I want to believe that it was a momentary lapse in judgment.  Maybe it was simply a moment in time where emotion reigned supreme and the ability to “just say no” had fled their body.

The sad fact is that the above probably isn’t true.  Many people just don’t seem to possess an internal monitoring system.  That “IMS” or social filter is the alert system that lives in most of us.  It gives us the heads up that the thought rolling through our head should remain there and not find its way into cyberspace. 

The problem with allowing those thoughts to tumble out is that it’s not just our friends and family reading them.  Far too often it’s potential clients that are monitoring our social happenings trying to gather a glimpse into what we’re made of.

When you look across your social networks, how do you portray yourself?  Are you transparent, open, welcoming, genuine, compassionate, understanding, kind, thoughtful and empathetic or are you illusive, short tempered, bitter, angry, frustrated, negative and an overall gloomy person?

Think before you post.  Don’t let one moment in time cloud your judgment and ruin your online reputation.  And for goodness sakes, don’t be a Gloomy Gus.  No one wants to work with someone who can’t get past their own discouraged and defeated attitude.

Clients are paying attention to everything we do.
  Your next post could make the difference between a new referral or a month without closings.

 

 

 

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Rainer
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Jayne Clement
Los Angeles Short Sale Agents
Keller Williams Realty

Your words resonate..."that potential clients may be reading these posts..."  Some people seem to need editors following them around!

September 30, 2011 01:21 PM
Rainer
307,045
Jennifer Chiongbian
Real Estate Broker - NYC
Specializing in all types of Manhattan apts & townhouses

People sometimes just don't think!  Once its out there, it's out there forever.  I am even very careful about my rants on AR that are only for members eyes...

September 30, 2011 02:12 PM
Rainmaker
275,187
Steven Pahl
Real Estate Consultant Tampa, FL 813-319-6423
Keller Williams Tampa Properties

Yep, just because you may feel a certain way or you may say it to friends in private, doesn't mean you should post it for all the world to see.

September 30, 2011 02:37 PM
Rainmaker
160,972
Karen Steed
Associate Broker Haralson Realty licensed in GA and AL
Tallapoosa, Bremen, Waco, Buchanan, Temple, Carrollton

Before I post, I always ask, what would my Grandmother think.   I read my son's rantings and I just shake my head...

September 30, 2011 02:45 PM
Rainmaker
776,333
Richard Weeks
Realtor, Associate Broker - Manager Business Development
Waller Group

In my generation there was a saying "fools names are like their faces, always seen in public places".  Well Face Book is a very public place.

September 30, 2011 02:48 PM
Rainer
40,583
Joshua Stein
Homes For Sale - Montgomery County
Coldwell Banker Preferred - Conshohocken
I am Facebook friends with many members of my wife's ultra-conservative Southern family. I filter everything I post around whether or not I would feel comfortable expressing that particular thought directly to their faces. I only wish my wife's "switch" functioned that well. :)
September 30, 2011 04:33 PM
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Sharon LittleJohn

Excellent Post! I am amaxed at the information people put out there and don't realize the whole world can read it and google it! Thanks for the fresh approach to a subject that really needs to be addressed more often

Sharon

September 30, 2011 04:33 PM
Rainer
165,299
David Evans
HUD NLB Cumming GA
RE/MAX TOWN AND COUNTRY

I say be real be yourself, don't be stupid! Hello? Hope we all know this by now...

September 30, 2011 04:45 PM
Rainer
28,445
Jayson Holland
Jay Holland
RE/MAX

i purposely do not friend my clients on facebook (unless they are already my friends). FB is way too personal, and I like to keep it professional with my clients.

 

September 30, 2011 05:19 PM
Rainmaker
257,569
Carrie Sampron
ABR SFR & Kathy Sampron (303) 931-3629 Highlands R
Home Smart Realty Group

I think, even though your name is right there, people feel a sense of anonimity when posting on Facebook. That or they think the rest of the world wants and needs to know every little thing about their lives. None of us is that important! Carrie

September 30, 2011 06:24 PM
Rainmaker
272,578
Rebekah Radice
Social Media Marketing, Coaching & Training
Imagine WOW! Digital Marketing Agency

Kristine - I did forget to add "don't drink and Facebook" so thanks for the great reminder!  Going into a Friday evening that's always important to keep top of mind!

Deb - That is an excellent point and one that I totally agree with.  Somehow I feel safer posting or commenting on AR.  Maybe its the community thing and the feeling that most will embrace you on your good days and bad.

Sharon - I do think you just have to be yourself and if others don't like it, we certainly have the ability to unfriend or hide them.  We all have tough days and to pretend we don't is just unauthentic.

Cathy - Thank you!  I think there are a lot of "fools" out there that just don't get how many people are watching them.  Sadly, getting fired is the only way they figure it out.

September 30, 2011 07:04 PM
Rainer
112,835
Beverly Femia
Broker Realtor Stager - Greater Wilmington, NC Are
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage

This need to provide TMI is a cultural phenomena that was much less prevalent just 20 years ago. Over a period of 10 years, I can remember hiring one or two people who got through the interview process without divulging a narcissistic obsession with themselves.  by noon of their first day on the job, the entire office knew more about this person in 4 hours than they had learned about other colleagues over a period of years.  This obsession with self does not produce team players who fit fit in well socially.  what is is about our culture that makes this behavior so prevalent now that we all know people with this personality flaw or disorder or whatever...  

September 30, 2011 10:53 PM
Rainer
85,165
Victoria C.B. Trees
Principal Broker
Crater Lake Realty, Inc.

My thoughts exactly... what is worse is realizing that many mothers wouldn't know the difference either...

October 01, 2011 03:12 PM
Rainer
40,162
Jimmy Phan
Phan real estate group in hickory
KELLER WILLIAMS REALTY IN MOORESVILLES, NC

there ia always give and take in everything in life....face book is not different especially when it is the largest social netwk ....we dont expect the perfect or any thing close to the perfect out of it

October 01, 2011 03:48 PM
Rainmaker
207,364
Nathan Tutas
Your Central Florida Real Estate Expert
Tutas Towne Realty, Inc.

I'm a huge proponent of being yourself and being transparent. I say what I mean and mean what I say. There are going to be some people that don't want to work with me and that's fine with me. Those people probably wouldn't be very enjoyable for me to be around anyway. You're right, no one wants to work with someone who is a Debbie Downer, but I don't think you should sugar coat who you are either. I'm not afraid for everyone to know exactly who I am.

October 01, 2011 07:04 PM
Rainmaker
29,164
Susan Harding, HomeStar Video Tours
Showcasing You and Your Listings, 855-579-6284

Right on target Rebekah!  Just the other day someone posted about how much they hate children and can't stand to hear them laughing and playing outside.  I immediately unfollowed them on twitter. 

Great post!  I really don't get why people post some of the things they do, especially the incredibly negative ones.

October 02, 2011 12:02 PM
Rainmaker
632,260
Dawn A Fabiszak
The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience!
Keller Williams Real Estate ( Denver metro area, Colorado

Rebekah ~ I have seen those statuses on FB.  It really does make me wonder about the type of person that they really are.  Internal editing or social editing is an important skill to possess.

October 02, 2011 06:37 PM
Ambassador
1,550,726
Christine Donovan
Broker/Attorney 800-610-7253 DRE01267479 - Costa M
Donovan Blatt Realty

Rebekah - It's so important to remember that many people may read what we post online, and that we need to keep our mental goalie in place.

October 03, 2011 12:24 AM
Rainmaker
1,238,803
Gene Riemenschneider
Turning Houses into Homes
Home Point Real Estate

I think people are looking for some transperancy and authenticity, but some of this is pure shock value and just crass.  I have had talks with my kids about this.

October 03, 2011 01:12 PM
Rainmaker
275,750
Kasey & John Boles - Jon Gosche Real Estate
Boise, Meridian, Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties
Jon Gosche Real Estate, Boise ID

I love all of your social media blogs and advice Rebekah -Kasey

October 04, 2011 02:34 AM
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