LIFE DAY (up close and personal)

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Mimi December 1973It had not been a good year.  1974 started out with a brutal rape.  It was followed shortly thereafter by the heartache of a broken engagement.  When I thought I was just getting my life back together, it appeared as though my year was going to end with an unwanted pregnancy.

Colorado was one of the few States at the time where abortion was legal, and while I found everything about the thought abhorrent, I was unmarried, pregnant, and scared.  At the age of 21, I was not prepared for this, was in an absolute state of unreality and denial, and so I made an appointment to terminate the pregnancy.

Boulder CO was a progressive and liberal City, and there was a clinic near campus.  I knew if I told anyone that I was pregnant that I would not be able to go thru with it, so on the morning of October 17, I went and sat in the waiting area with a room full of young teenage girls and their mothers, young girls who also found themselves in unwanted situations, and now had a legal avenue to pretend like it had never happened.

A blur of sights and sounds, it was a surreal experience waiting for my turn when they would call me for my 'procedure.'  Having been raised in a strict Catholic family, I was going to be able to hide my ‘sin and transgression’ so that no one would ever know what I had done ~ no one but me.

I watched the young girls with their mothers, laughing as though they were out for an afternoon tea, laughing as though we were not there to make life-altering decisions that day.  I tried to make myself numb to the reality of what was going on around me.  If I didn’t think about it, it couldn’t hurt me, right?  I had learned that lesson earlier in the year, and I was pulling that cloak around me again.

Finally it was my turn.  They called my name and told me that I would follow the nurse to the back room, and that it wouldn’t take long.  As I stood at the desk getting ready to pay to keep my secret, my focus somehow altered.  I looked at the receptionist, I looked at the young girls around me who seemed so unconcerned with what they were doing, with the mothers who sat with them, believing that they were doing what was best for their young daughters, and I knew I couldn’t go thru with it.  

Without a word, I put on my coat and walked out the door.  I found the nearest betsy mimi katiepayphone and called my mother, knowing that with that act, my child’s life would no longer be in jeopardyI called the baby’s father, knowing that he desperately wanted to marry me, and told him that we needed to talk.

For the past 36 years on October 17, I have celebrated what we call the Life Day of my first born daughter. When she was old enough to understand, I told her about the decision of her young mother that day, and how I had never once regretted it, and how thankful I have always been that she is mine.  For many years now, it has been a close and special bonding time between us, and is truly a time of rejoicing.

As we celebrate her Life Day today, as we celebrate another year of her life, and as I get older and (hopefully) wiser, I realize that each day presents us with choices, and each of those choices has a consequence ~ good or bad.  There is really no way to show my special feelings for this precious, precious life with which I have been blessed.  But I will never grow tired of saying the words, “I love you, Betsy, I’m so glad you’re my daughter.”

Here is a video of Betsy that I found from several years ago . . .

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Christine OShea
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Mimi, Beautiful story, October 17th is the day I refer to as my "life day" it is the day i survived an aortic dissection in 2004, Life is truly amazing!

Dec 13, 2011 08:56 PM #142
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Daniel Z Stoltzfus
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Very powerful and motivating story. Thanks for sharing a difficult lesson. 

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Thank you, Daniel. I appreciate it. What seem like the darkest days turn to beauty and rejoicing.

Jun 13, 2013 10:00 AM #144
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Cynthia Larsen
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Wow, Mimi. That was a very important decision you made that day. I'm sure you can't even imagine not having your Betsy now. Enjoy your Life Day today.

Oct 17, 2013 08:03 AM #145
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Daniel Z Stoltzfus
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I guess I am a softie but I used a handkercheif. Just as precious as it was 2 years ago!

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Thank you, Cynthia. She rocks my world.

 

You have been such a light to me, Daniel. Thank you for your continued encouragement.

Oct 17, 2013 08:13 AM #147
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Donna Foerster
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Mimi~ Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. I love that you celebrate it every year. Life is full of adversity and it's how we move beyond it that makes us stronger.

Oct 19, 2013 05:00 AM #149
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I missed this the first time. Thanks to your successful book and new post I was able to read this. Decisions...every day we make them and they can be far reaching!

Oct 19, 2013 05:07 AM #150
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Missed it then. What a story. We came in 1991 with no money, and one week later found out that our 18-y.o. daughter was pregnant. She was offered the abortion...

She did not do it. And now we have our grandson, and it is weird to think that we could never have him. We are so blessed we have him.

Oct 19, 2013 06:32 AM #151
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What an amazing & courageous story!
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Thank you, Donna. I always think of it as life being full of choices, and those choices determine our life :) but that is a decision that I would make a million times over! ;)

They really can be, Gary. It's so important to be PRESENT when we make our decisions, right? :D

 

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Oh, Jon, what a PRECIOUS story! Thank you! It always amazes me that people sometimes think it is the worst thing that could ever happen to them, and you find that it is the greatest blessing that you have been given in life!

Thank you, Elizabeth! It was SO FREEING to be able to share it here and come to understand that it's all about what makes us human.

Oct 19, 2013 11:05 AM #154
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Christi Farrington
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Speechless!  You are quite an inspiration of strength, courage, integrity and pure love.  I wish you the best of all things in life now and always! Thank you for sharing such a wonderful, loving story!  Good luck with your book(s)!!  Blessings always!

Oct 19, 2013 01:12 PM #155
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Oh! Thank you so much, Christi!!!! That was so nice of you! It did ME a lot of good to share this story. I'm so glad it touched you also :)

Oct 19, 2013 01:27 PM #156
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Mimi, Your post is so beautiful, it made me cry.  I am so happy for you that you and Betsy have such a wonderful relationship.  You gave her a wonderful life.  You made a very brave decision.  Your videos are beautiful!

Oct 19, 2013 09:55 PM #157
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Thanks, Lisa. Life is made up of the little and big decisions that each of us have to make each day. This was a hard one, but the payoff was forever.

Oct 19, 2013 10:28 PM #158
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Mimi, what a lovely story.  I came here from your reference to Betsy in your current post.  This brought tears to my eyes.  You are a brave and accomplished woman with a talented daughter.  Thank you for sharing this heart warming story.

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Thank you so much, Sharon. She has certainly been one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

Oct 20, 2013 06:14 AM #160
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Mimi  Your strength has guided many...remember, what goes around comes around.  You have more friends than you know.  Keep writing!

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Thanks for sharing this Mimi, such a touching story and I can see why you are continually happy that you walked out of that clinic.

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