Fall Season of Miracles for Me is Family and Always will be

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Fall Season of Miracles for Me is Family and Always will be

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All of us have during our lifetimes meet many folks and have numerous acquaintances. Some of us are lucky enough to have had a few really good friends and I will not discuss what is meant by a really good friend but we all know deep in our hearts what this means. There is a line in Bob Seger song that goes”… Surrounded by strangers I thought were my friends”. I relate to that line as it has happened to me many times during my life. However, Family is special or hopefully should be for folks. Not every member of every family develops a close bond or sometimes any bond at all with one or more members of their family. That really is a shame. Family has always been very special for me and always will be.  I am very lucky as I had one of the most wonderful Mom’s any person could ever hope to have. I have a great immediate family right now which consists of my wife, my children, my step children, my father-in-law, our dog and our friend Pete. I never had a large immediate family while growing up to develop relationship with but there were some key members of that group that had an impact on me. One of those persons was my cousin Linda.

Linda and I were fairly close when we were young and growing up. I always looked up to her as she is two years older than me and was always very mature and oh so wise for her age. I guess as I have said to my wife many times I thought of her as the older and wiser sister I never had but wished that had and I wanted so much to tap into her whole self  as a person especially when I was a teenager. When I was three years old or so I was with a group of kids at a pool with Linda. I somehow fell into the deep end of this pool and I could not swim a lick in those days. I still to this day remember myself sitting on the bottom of that pool. I was totally scared out of my mind and essentially I was paralyzed to do anything but sit there and die. Linda jumped in the pool and dived into the deep water and pulled me off the bottom. She told me to go sit on a bench on the side of the pool since I could not swim. She saved my life but she never realized that she had done this. It is her basic personality not to look for praise or recognition.

Cousin Linda, Grandfather Gilbert and I many years ago

Linda and her family moved away many years ago to another state. While my parents were alive as well as my aunt (Linda’s Mom) we stayed in contact via the mostly the mail and sometimes phone calls. Linda got married to Lance when she was about 19 years old and began traveling with him as he was a musician. Linda and Lance had one child named Mindi. Over the years we had some contact but each year it got less frequent. My first wife for some unknown reason was very jealous and envious of Linda and she really did not like us having a whole lot of contact. Linda is a very attractive lady and maybe that was the main source of the issue with my first wife. We got divorced back in 1998 and I lost all contact with all of my Mom’s family and all members of my Dad’s family that were still living. This included my cousin Linda. I did not have any of their addresses or phone numbers and my ex-wife certainly was not the kind of person who would give me that information. My ex-wife as it turns out had called my cousin and told her that I just disappeared. I never ever disappeared anywhere.

Just about 18 months ago I received an E-mail from my cousin Linda who was asking if it was really me. Her husband Lance Abair found me in Katy through the internet. My best guess based on searches I have done it was combination of my web site plus probably Active Rain internet activity that led Lance to me. I was very excited to have found my long lost cousin. She and her family had moved out of the State that I long ago knew of and had moved a couple of times. No wonder I could never find her when I did searches. My cousin's Daughter Mindi had followed in her dad’s footsteps got degree in music and currently has a very successful professional career as jazz musician with her own band. We E-mailed each other and talked on the phone several times. I called my cousin last Christmas and spoke to her for a long time. Unfortunately, my lap top computer died this past May and along with it I lost most of the data I had about my cousin. Lance after a long and very successful career in music as had to stop playing due to a health issue.

Early August 2011 Mindi’s band was going to play at the Houston International Jazz Festival and my cousin contacted us to see if we wanted to see Mindi play in person at the festival. We had already bought some of Mindi’s CD’s and were very familiar with her music. The promoter was contacted by Mindi and we were able to attend her concert. It was absolutely awesome to watch her perform in person. We meet Mindi after the concert at the Hotel bar where she was playing and we stayed until the bar employees threw us out as they wanted to go home. This was the first time I had ever meet Mindi in person. We talked about how we all needed to meet somewhere and have fun together. Many times people just say things like this but do not really mean it.

My miracle this fall is that we arranged to meet my cousin and her husband in Los Angeles as they live there and then take the Catalina Express from Long Beach California to Catalina Island. Mindi Abair and her band were playing at the Catalina Island Jazz festival and she and her band were the main act folks came to see on Saturday evening. We were gone from  Saturday October 22 and came back late on Tuesday October 25. Mindi’s husband Jason was also able to make the trip.

Lance, Mindi, Linda ( my First cousin) and me Catalina Island


We had absolutely a spectacular time going to Catalina; enjoying the reunion of part of my lost family; watching Mindi play again in concert as her she and her band are truly talented musicians and performers; going back stage; attending the band’s sound check; exploring the island of Catalina; talking about family events; hanging out with several musicians; discovering new items the other family member was not aware of; and just enjoying life.  It was truly a miracle for me as I had not seen or spent time with Linda in almost 30 years. I know in my heart my Mom, Dad and my Aunt are all sporting huge smiles in heaven right now since we were able to reconnect and truly enjoy each other. I feel blessed that I now have additional family to enjoy that had been truly lost for such a long time. My immediate family has been enlarged.

As an extra I had included a video of Mindi playing with her Dad on a cruise a few years ago.





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Debb Janes
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Bob - what a wonderful story. I'm glad your circle has grown to include your "misplaced family." It sounds as if this time, you'll remain in touch.

By the way, Mindi and Lance are both quite talented and it's great that you included the video with your post. Have a wonderful Sunday.

Oct 30, 2011 11:26 AM #1
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Good morning Robert. What a lovely and moving story. I just can't tell you how much I enjoyed reading about you and yours. Sometimes good things happen to good people and when they do, it's magic. Thanks for sharing your magic.

Oct 30, 2011 11:48 AM #2
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Robert (Bob) Gilbert
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Debb and Sheila,

Thank you ladies for your comments as I appreciate it very much. It was a magical weekend in so many different ways. We will be in touch with my Cousin and her extended family as we will never lose touch again. My wife and I are feeling very blessed.

Oct 30, 2011 11:54 AM #3
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Bob

That is quite a story, and what a great reunion. Some things are meant to be!

Jeff

Oct 30, 2011 12:12 PM #4
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Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
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What an absolutely wonderful story with very talented musicians in the family!  I watched the video and a couple more and enjoyed it so much! I'm so glad you got to reunite with your family!

Oct 30, 2011 02:39 PM #5
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Sharon Paxson
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Hi Bob - what a fantastic story and thanks for sharing it. I remember talking to Yolanda about you going to watch them in Houston, and the jazz festival in Catalina as well. Great to put together the dots!!! So glad they found you!

Oct 30, 2011 02:39 PM #6
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Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
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Bob- That is such a moving story. It definitely is a fall miracle. I like you feel family is number one. That is why I quit my last job they did not put that as a priority and family will always be #1 for me.

Oct 30, 2011 03:12 PM #7
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Robert (Bob) Gilbert
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Thank you to all above who made such nice comments. I really appreciate all of these comments and the time taken to go to my blog and read it.

Oct 30, 2011 05:58 PM #8
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Good evening Bob.

Thank you for sharing this great story.

You look great in the picture.

Oct 30, 2011 08:21 PM #9
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Robert (Bob) Gilbert
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Josh,

Thank you very much for the compliment.

Oct 30, 2011 08:28 PM #10
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What a great story. The power of the Internet makes it so easy to find people which would have never been possible years ago, So happy for your re-discovery

Oct 30, 2011 08:33 PM #11
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Sharon Alters
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Bob, this is a very touching story of your family reunion and I'm sure your family in heaven is still sporting huge smiles :)

Sharon

Oct 30, 2011 09:45 PM #12
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Dan Edward Phillips
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Good Morning Bob, an excellent story of the events leading to your trip to Southern California.  It is always interesting to get back in contact with old friends and relatives.

Oct 31, 2011 04:23 AM #13
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Carol-Ann Palmieri
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Hi Bob.   A beautiful written story about your connection with your family.   Even better than business, all this blogging has brought you back in touch with them.   How wonderful that is and worth every keystroke!   Mindi is stunning.  The video and your story makes me want to investigate and purchase her music.  

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Catalina is an awesome place. I took my girlfriend there on our fifth anniversary. She was pleasant surprised.

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Dear Bob,

What a great set of reunion stories -
Glad you have your family back together!

Have a happy day -
Lynn

Nov 01, 2011 12:57 AM #16
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Thank you for sharing such a sweet story with us. Wishing you lots of luck in the contest! You've written a winning post!!
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