Are You Having Fun Or Are You Happy?

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Butterfly OccurrencePeople make a huge mistake in life chasing fun when they should find happiness.

Do You JUST Want Fun Or GO For Happiness?

As they say in the beer commercial, you only go around once. Why pick the wrong thing?

A few pointers. Fun and Happiness are DIFFERENT. You can pursue fun, you cannot pursue happiness or it will elude you. Happiness flutters around in the world and is a "byproduct" and effect of what you do that will bring it to you. It is like a butterfly at a butterfly exhibit that you must remain still then "magically" one moment it lands on your finger. You know it when it happens.

Some more thoughts contrasting fun with happiness:

  • Fun is short term, Happiness is long term
  • Fun things are a distraction, Happiness is in your core
  • Fun is shallow, Happiness is deep
  • Fun could be shopping, fine dining, visiting museums, going to concerts, while Happiness is commitment to a person or purpose, love, respect, trust, excellent consistent communication that yields it
  • Fun is laughing, Happiness is a more meaningful good feeling inside and serenity

You get the picture. It is like Fun is a text or Twitter tweet about yourself vs. Happiness is reading a love letter from a soulmate. Worlds apart, and worlds apart in meaningfulness too. Fun is temporary and can leave you feeling empty where what you really want is Happiness with fulfillment. Like a glass of water where you are still thirsty with Fun and a whole crystal clear springs of water with Happiness to never have you thirsty.

Life is very much a mystery. The heart can be very complicated finding happiness in life overall and between people. Older couples say they have difficulties but despite living through all that their recommendations for staying with happiness is just be kind to one another. Simple yet profound to RESULT in happiness.

Nothing wrong with fun. Chase fun if you want. But back to that you only go around once thought. Be committed, have very open communication, be yourself, NEVER ignore true love, respect others, love passionately, and that fulfillment Happiness Butterfly will be sitting on your finger ALWAYS.

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Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group
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It is almost like happiness finds you. . for what you become . ..instead of chasing it  like you chase a butterfly. .

You are an inspiration for ActiveRain Gary. .Great post!

Nov 04, 2011 09:57 AM #1
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Gary, how true it is.  It is a very deep message for us to think what is important in life.

Nov 04, 2011 09:58 AM #2
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Gary, What a beautiful post. You have really captured the difference between fun and happiness. You can still be happy, even when you are not having much fun. Things can be stressful and yet you can still be happy, in your core. I suggested this.

Nov 04, 2011 09:59 AM #3
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Very well said my friend. Happiness comes from within and fun comes from the outside. We all want both but happiness is the secret to all the fun you could ever need whether it is a party or just holding a hand with someone special.

Nov 04, 2011 10:09 AM #4
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Gary, this is an excellent point! Differentiating between fun and happiness is probably something most of us don't think about.

Nov 04, 2011 10:18 AM #5
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Gary .....    

Great read for people that might need a little direction/awareness to have a better life .....

 or just a review ...tune up !!

 

Great Philosophical Article !!  

 

Thank You

Nov 04, 2011 10:20 AM #6
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Kristin Johnston, Waukesha Realtor 414-254-6647
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I absolutely love your post and advice, but the last paragraph is so meaningful...thanks for that!

Nov 04, 2011 10:59 AM #7
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Gary, happiness comes from enlightenment and is truly a state of mind...

Nov 04, 2011 11:21 AM #8
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Gary,

Aren't we always looking for the long-term source of contentment, but few, are brave enough to take the journey?  Another good blog Gary... g

Nov 04, 2011 12:10 PM #9
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Gary: What a great blog and definitely a Thought Provoker. Sometimes folks just need to evaluate the importance of life's values.

Carl and Ceil Winters

Nov 04, 2011 02:06 PM #10
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Great post.  Thanks for the thoughts and differences between fun and happiness.  Happiness can sometimes be elusive, but we can always find and have fun.  Have a great weekend!

Nov 04, 2011 02:20 PM #11
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Gary, I find that when I am having fun I am also happy.  I am a light hearted person so I am happy most of the time!

Nov 04, 2011 04:55 PM #12
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Gary, this hits a cord with me because friends just split up recently because "he found his soulmate". To me, it was that he was having a little too much fun. How much depth can there be in a 2 week relationship? None of my business... Relationships and happiness are deep.

Have a great weekend.

Nov 04, 2011 05:20 PM #13
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Gary, you are pretty awesome in cleverly defining the two. I think we try to have fun on the regular basis and keep a happy mindset.
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Gary, I like "chasing the fun" term. It suits. Find love and happiness. Bingo!

Nov 04, 2011 10:15 PM #15
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Hi Gary, I had never considered this before . Thanks for edifying for me. Makes total sense.

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Gary - It sounds like you've found a recipe for happiness though occasionally just plain fun is a good thing.

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