Mirror, Mirror On The Wall - Who Is The Best Negotiator Of All?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with KGC Properties LLC, Tucson Property Management & Real Estate

You would think that some people are just born with good negotiating skills.  Others, who are good negotiators - have cultivated that skill.

A little incident a couple weeks ago related to my car.  Usually, I let little things go - but this time - it was more than little.  At first the manager said, "Small mistake - it's just a cosmetic thing - nothing some paint won't fix." But I want a new wheel!  The mistake? Had my brakes changed, and they forgot to put the gasket and screw back on to seal the brake fluid line - which ultimately leaked and the acid ate up the paint on my wheels.  Never mind the bigger issue of no brake fluid right?!

We couldn't agree on anything - so plan B.  Ironically the very next day, I saw this manager in a grocery store parking lot with his cherry-ed out 1956 truck.  It was freshly polished, with chrome wheels so sparkling and clear they could have been mirrors.  Likely with sarcasm I said, "Wow - imagine if brake fluid spilled on those wheels and ate up the chrome."

Suddenly, we were speaking the same language and landed an  agreement about my wheel.

Point about negotiating?

Give your offer the advantage from the get-go - set the bar for what you want with higher expectations yet strong substance.  It will set the standard for future discussions.

Speak a different language if you have to - will the person you are dealing with be swayed by hard facts, or do they need to talk and discuss things out?  Take the time to understand their language and mirror it - the end result is your offer or request will be more easily received.

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Bill Gillhespy
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Hi Gaby,  Terrific analogy and so true.  Negotiating skills may be the only real difference between great agents and,  well, you know...

Nov 29, 2011 01:12 PM #25
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Donna Harris
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He's probably wishing he picked a different grocery store! He also knew from the get-go what the right thing to do was, but wanted to see if you would balk.  You can't show all your cards too early.

Nov 29, 2011 01:39 PM #26
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Barb Szabo, CRS
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Gabrielle, Way to think on your feet! Sometimes a "picture" is all someone needs to see your point of view!

Nov 29, 2011 02:01 PM #27
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Kristin Moran
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THat is one funny story! He definitely saw it from your point of view at that point! Good going!

Nov 29, 2011 02:37 PM #28
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Eileen Hsu
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Great analogy, being aware to frame things in a particular way is an important tool for any negotiation.

Nov 29, 2011 03:36 PM #29
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Charles Stallions
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I love the art of negotiating and I pretty much follow your guide lines as well thanks for the post.

Nov 29, 2011 03:45 PM #30
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Charlie Dresen
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Determining what matters to another person is key to negotiation - if they can't see your point of view within their realm of thought processing, then you're pretty much not going to get anywhere fast. Whether you meant to or not with the grocery store parking lot comment, your point got noticed when it was in the context the manager could relate to - congrats!

Nov 29, 2011 04:38 PM #31
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Anthony Daniels
Coldwell Banker - San Francisco, CA
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The person in the mirror, of course.  Unless you're negotiating with the devil (which we often do in real estate).

Good post, thanks for sharing it.

Nov 29, 2011 04:43 PM #32
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Joy Daniels
Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd. - Harrisburg, PA

Great turn of events - I am glad they turned your way or maybe it was that you were smart enough to recognize it!  Conrats!

Nov 29, 2011 06:45 PM #33
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Cliff Keith
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great advice.  I guess that is why they call it a Listening (listing) appointment vs. a talking appointment.

Nov 29, 2011 09:11 PM #34
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Ben Blonder
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Congrats on the win. Sometimes you really have to use language to convey a point and see if it works. If not, you can always go with a different angle so long as you weren't offensive.

Nov 29, 2011 10:17 PM #35
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Evelyn Kennedy
Gallagher & Lindsey, Alameda, California - Alameda, CA
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Gabriella:

I like that you told the manager what you wanted from the beginning and stuck to your guns.  And of course you explained in a logical manner why you should have new wheels.  Good job.

Nov 29, 2011 10:49 PM #36
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Steve Warrene
Keller Williams Realty - Cranberry Township, PA
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Gabriella, the one school of "It's my way or the highway" is gone with the wind.  Now it's all about everyone being on the same playing field.

Nov 29, 2011 10:58 PM #37
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Christine Donovan
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Gabrielle - Well done. I think the ability to be a bit of a chameleon can make a huge difference in negotiation.

Nov 29, 2011 11:08 PM #38
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Funny how the tables can suddenly turn.  You said exactly what needed to be said at the exact time that it needed to be said. Timing is everything.

Nov 30, 2011 03:17 AM #39
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Gabe Sanders
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Well done Gabrielle.  Often the best negotiator is the one that gets his/her way while the other one thinks they won.

Nov 30, 2011 07:36 AM #40
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Hi Gabrielle, great job on getting your point across. Also lucky that you saw him with his great truck to make the analogy.

Nov 30, 2011 10:13 AM #41
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Gabrielle, glad this had a good outcome for you - and good for you for not giving up. You were right. Don't you love how the universe gave you that moment in the parking lot?

Nov 30, 2011 10:17 AM #42
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Steven Cook
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Gabrielle - Thank you for a very vivid example of one of the best ways to negotiate to get what should be done done.  

Dec 01, 2011 01:24 PM #43
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Remember the good old days when a featured post would get 75 to 100 comments Gabs? This post deserved much more... 

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