Acrid Rain

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Residential

I've noticed a recent trend toward agitation. Maybe you've noticed it too?

Some comments are leaning toward caustic, bitter and acerbic.  We all know a few blogs that we avoid because it's always a "yell-fest" in there.  The host is always contentious, and angry.  Every now and then one of those finds their way to the featured blog roll, and you can't avoid getting drawn in, and kicking yourself afterward. (What was I thinking?  What WAS I thinking?)

I've even seen a few taking shots at Bob Stewart and Kerrie Greenhalg.  I know!  That's what I'm saying!  What were they thinking?

But I'm not talking about those, I'm talking about some of the regular girls and gals that you read with regularity.  Some of those have gotten a bit "testy" lately.  And it's not just limited to bloggers.  I've seen it on the highway, in the line at the grocery, talking to vendors on the phone... buyers and sellers.  Testy, testy, testy.

Maybe it's the season?  The Holidays certainly take a toll on us.  All that stress to find the right gifts, scheduling, preparing and attending parties, spending time with family, can take it's toll.

Maybe it's the economy?  I don't need to explain that one, do I?  Some folks holding down second and third jobs.  Others not managing to be able to make the ends of that rope meet.

Maybe it's just the winter settling in?  Much has been made over the last few years about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder) where people are missing the vitamins supplied by exposure to the sun.

Whatever it is, I hope it passes soon.  I'm itching to see my level-headed, friendly, accepting, patient buddies again.

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 ALAN MAY, Realtor®
Specializing in Evanston Real Estate and North Shore Real Estate

Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate, 2929 Central Street, Evanston, IL 60201
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Kathleen Daniels
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Alan, I experience and feel what you are referring to. I try to step back and away from things when I am feeling like I could chew nails.  I also try to avoid negativity.  I catch myself and realize ... I don't want to say that. 

December 15, 2011 01:04 PM
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Liz and Bill Spear
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"Oh quit complaining and just shut up!"....is that the kind of comment you mean?? :)  Just kiddin' of course.  I'm trying to do a better job of staying away from the contentious.  I'm tired and ready for a break, and when I'm tired, I'm cranky.  And when I'm cranky, I'm MUCH more likely to tell 'em what I really think, especially if they're giving Bob and Kerrie crap.  Their position doesn't allow them much ability to fight back.  I'm fortunately not so restricted :)   Bill

December 15, 2011 01:08 PM
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Alan May
Evanston & Northshore of Chicago real estate
Coldwell Banker Residential

Gayle - happiness tends to attract happiness.

David - deep cleansing breaths would be a great idea.

Kathleen - the nice thing about a blogging format, is that we can take a moment (or two) before engaging the keyboard.  Sometimes we just need to take a step back, and as David suggests... take a deep breath, before repsonding.

Bill - yeah... cranky seems to play a role in it, and I'm hoping it's just seasonal.

December 15, 2011 01:12 PM
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Carie Shapiro
Managing Broker-IL; Pre-License Instructor-IL; Broker-TX

Alan:  I like it much better when people make nice with each other too!  In with the good air/out with the bad air helps me when I step into negative stuff.

December 15, 2011 01:23 PM
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Judith Sinnard
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There does seem to be some folks always ready-to-rumble and looking for the opportunity ---- and as you've said, you steer a new course away from that direction. I've noticed it tends to be cyclical (here on A/R) and apparently contagious ... its like everybody suddenly thinks they have a hall pass to be snarky.... and then it will die down for awhile ... and them start up again. Kind of odd to observe.  The good news is I've found other groups, ones I never knew existed,  to be a safe haven from the contentiousness du-jour and I'll go hang out there for awhile until balance is restored. 

December 15, 2011 01:37 PM
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Alan May
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Carie - I totally agree.

Judith - always nice to go to your "happy place".

December 15, 2011 02:01 PM
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Lee & Carol Barbour, REALTORS
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Guess the season can bring out the grinch in some boys and girls.

don't be a grinch

December 15, 2011 02:07 PM
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Lyn Sims
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Utter nonsense. Everyone gets along fine here in the AR play pen.

I haven't seen anything snarky lately at all. Maybe it's the company I keep?

Who makes you the ref BTW?  Is that an example?

December 15, 2011 02:31 PM
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Randi Brammer
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I have over the years read many blogs that Bash the heads of AR for one reason or another. I am willing that they do the same thing in their regular life also.  but, it still does not make it right!

December 15, 2011 02:33 PM
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Charles Buell
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Alan, there are two sides to everything---with all the holiday cheer it must necessarily be balanced by lack of cheer :)

December 15, 2011 03:52 PM
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Chris Ann Cleland
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I must admit that I had a minor hissy fit in a store last night.  I think it's the time of year.  Lots of things to do and a feeling that you are trying to beat the clock.  It wears nerves down.

December 15, 2011 04:56 PM
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Lisa Hicks
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The Maine Real Estate Network

I haven't been around here for a while so I've missed the snarkiness, however I've noticed I'm crankier than usual right now...mostly because all of my closings lately have been more than difficult.  Makes me a little cranky.  :D

December 15, 2011 05:10 PM
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Michelle Francis
Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease
Tim Francis Realty LLC

Alan, 

Good point.  I avoid folks I know who LIKE, ENJOY and THRIVE on drama.  This includes at ActiveRain, in my family and around the world.  Life is just too short.  Be happy folks - enjoy what you do have and make the best of it.  (Ok, now if you have a serious problem - I get it, BUT a lot of folks are just a pain in the backside without the serious problem to explain it.)

All the best, Michelle

December 15, 2011 06:03 PM
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Gwynn Teal
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Alan:  We certainly don't need "toxic" members on Active Rain....we find enough of those in the general world - NO DRAMA Queens or Kings are wanted on this site!  Let's be nice to each other even when we disagree.

December 15, 2011 06:33 PM
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René Fabre
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Alan, Alway's Merry and Bright! If what you're talking about is any indication, maybe that's why people are driving so dang crazy around my neighborhood lately. Just recently it's been like Death Race 2000. Death Race 2000 Poster

December 15, 2011 07:17 PM
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Christine Smith
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Buyers Brokers Only LLC - www.BuyersBrokersOnly.com

Alan...I do my best to try to avoid the crankiness.  I spent part of the afternoon with AR's own Nina Rogoff enjoying some Starbucks, some stories & lots of laughs.  Made my spirits bright anyway! :) 

December 15, 2011 08:57 PM
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Alan May
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Lee & Carol - grinchiness might explain some.

Lyn - Oh, I ain't no ref... I earned this stripes in the big house... they're different.

Randi - I bet they do less bashing in person.  It's easy to do from afar.

Charles - you mean you can't appreciate the cheer without the whining?

Lisa - it's difficult to complain in the same sentence as "all those closings".

Michelle - My cantankerous personality makes it difficult to avoid everyone.

Gwynn - they're not always toxic... sometimes just cranky.

René - Always merry and bright.

Christine - I, too, try... but not always successfully.  Say hello to Nina for me.

December 15, 2011 10:13 PM
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Malcolm Johnston
Trenton Real Estate
Century 21 Lanthorn Real Estate LTD., Trenton, Ontario

What kind of assanine blog post is this Alan? You know it's all Obama's fault.

December 16, 2011 12:18 PM
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Lisa Hicks
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Alan...maybe I should have clarified...the closings that are making me cranky have yet to close...extension after extension...:D

December 16, 2011 12:32 PM
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Alan May
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Malcolm - and there it is!  ;-)

Lisa - ahh, that's a bit different, isn't it?

December 16, 2011 03:56 PM
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