Is Technology Making Us Anti-Social?

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Is technology making us anti-social?  I love technology, but I'm beginning to think that some technology is making people less social.  The real estate business is all about social interaction and relationships, but are we getting away from that?

Case in point, I read a blog this week where a client emailed an agent to explain that she wasn't going to use him, and then later emailed that she was going to use him.  What ever happened to a phone call? 

Man EmailingI got into a spat with another broker over some forged documents he sent to my office.  I called him immediately upon receiving them, and he answered his phone.  Upon his investigation, he surmised that they were not forgeries and emailed me to let me know.  When I received them, I called to tell him he was mistaken, but he didn't answer. 

So, he emailed me.  I called again.  No answer.  So, I emailed.  He emailed back, and I emailed back, and then we had another round trip of emails.  His assistant emailed.  I called.  No answer.  I emailed.  She emailed back.  I received a text.  I called.  No answer.  I texted back. 

You get the picture.  We went through a huge kerfuffle (old Scottish Woman Textingword meaning "You're a jerk!")  without ever looking each other in the eye or speaking.  With a simple phone call, our 2 hour challenge could have been over in 5 minutes.  This was an important problem that was well worthy of a phone call or a meeting, but no, let's not have to face each other and deal with an issue. 

Has social media, texting, email, instant messaging, etc., made us more isolated and in some cases bolder than we would be in person, or are they a great asset to what we do?  I guess I would vote, both.  I love this time in history, but I'm concerned that technology has allowed us the freedom to pop off a text or email and never really confront issues that are important.  Is technology making us anti-social?

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MaryKay Shumway, ABR, CRS
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I just had a discussion with a broker on this issue yesterday.  Remember the days before smart phones when we just had cell phones?  Life wasn't as "fast" and there wasn't as much immediate gratification, but I think it was a much saner, safter time.  It's just too easy to press that "send" button, besides.

Mar 24, 2012 12:36 PM #1
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Mike Cooper
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Yes it is, Mary Kay, and it isn't always the smartest play.  8-)  

Mar 24, 2012 12:40 PM #2
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Cindy Jones
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There are times when having an email or text trail of communication is important.  However it can also drag things on and on as you figured out.

Mar 24, 2012 12:45 PM #3
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Morris Massre
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Of course it is Mike.  I can't help but notice that nobody uses the phone anymore.  Why bother to put numbers on cell phones if people are just going to text anyway?

Mar 24, 2012 01:01 PM #4
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Karen Hurst
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Mike, Suggested. I agree that in some ways it does make us antisocial. I have two very close friends that I see and interact with MUCH less than my online friends.  It's just so much easier.  

I also agree with Cindy, that we do need the trail of communications in our business.

Mar 24, 2012 01:08 PM #5
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Mike Cooper
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Good point, Cindy, and I have depended on that email trail.  

Morris, I've noticed that I don't know nearly as many phone numbers anymore because I depend on my smartphone.  Maybe I should have written, "Are our smartphones making us dumb?"  8-0

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Mike Cooper
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Thanks, Karen.  I do love the ability to zip off a quick text or email, but I also like to sit down, have lunch and catch up.  

Mar 24, 2012 01:32 PM #7
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Chris Smith
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Mike, I saw you mention this post today and had to look back and read it.  I have found that you do well, to use a poker analogy, by playing against the table.  With more and more people opting for the more impersonal electronic forms of communications, I am finding that the older inefficient way of actually meeting people and talking with them is more productive.

Mar 24, 2012 08:25 PM #8
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We are also losing our social skills in the process. Test it some time by saying good morning to the next ten people you meet and see the responses between the over 50 and under 50 crowd

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