Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Real Estate Cafe LLC
http://actvra.in/xY2

Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!These past couple of months have been tough, really tough.  My tenacious spirit has been stretched beyond limits.  I've been knocked down, defeated, and even depressed at times (which is just not me).  And while I wouldn't invite such troubles into my life, they've managed to slip through an open door without my consent.  My human frailty has risen to the top like cream and it's spilling over into every area of my life.   

Last week, I was on needles and pins.  After my biopsy, it was time to drive back from CA to Oregon for a quiet reprieve.  I've always found comfort in familiarity.  My surroundings provide a sense of peace, and my cushy bed and pillow offer a cozy resting place too.  Southern Oregon has become my retreat and I feel blessed to live in the Pacific Northwest.   

When I arrived home, I had a hankering (I love that word) to visit my favorite boutique in Medford Oregon called Prism.  Not so much for the shopping, but for the friendship exchanged with the gals who work there.  We know each other by name and we've shared a common bond of friendship over the years.  When I walked in the door, they said... 'Mel, where have you been?'  We shared stories and through laughter and small talk, I began to unwind from my 10-hour drive from Cali. 

Then, a young gal entered the store.  She was immediately greeted with the same question... 'Where have you been?'  I knew instantly that she was a regular too.  I eavesdropped a little as she told an all too familiar story...  She was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and she just had a radical mastectomy of both breasts.  She said, 'I'm 38 years old and I'm lucky to be alive.'        

I was so touched by her story and her beaming spirit, that I walked up to her and said, 'I don't know you, but I'd like to give you a hug!'  She turned around and embraced me as if I were family and said thank you!  I told her how impressed I was with her courage and positive attitude and that I would be praying for her as she continued to go through the grueling process of reconstruction.  Then her parting words really kicked things up a notch.  She said she's become a cancer survivor warrior and she's in the process of getting a t-shirt that says... Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!   We laughed hysterically! 

Human frailty has a funny way of stretching us beyond our limits and teaching us how to relate to others in the midst of crisis.  Hugs and laughter can go a long way in healing the mind, body and spirit.  Perhaps that was my needles and pins lesson.  Today, my Doctor called and said my tumors are benign.  I'm feeling pretty damn lucky too!

Posted by

 Real Estate Cafe LLC - Melinda Peterson

   Melinda Peterson - Real Estate Cafe LLC

 

Melinda Peterson ~ Principal Broker

The Naked Blogger

www.BuyInOregon.com

 541-659-1620 

Info@BuyInOregon.com 

 

Specializing in Central & Southern Oregon

Residential, Commercial, Investment and Rural Properties 

 

Ashland * Bend * Medford * Grants Pass* Central Point * Eagle Point * Jacksonville * La Pine * Merlin * Redmond * Rogue River * Shady Cove * Sisters * Sunriver  

  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

 Check out My Virtual Homes 

© 2014

close

This entry hasn't been re-blogged:

Re-Blogged By Re-Blogged At
Topic:
ActiveRain Community
Groups:
Diary of a Realtor
The Lounge at Active Rain
Realtors®
Active Rain Newbies
Almost Anything Goes
Tags:
life is good
lessons learned
human frailty

Anonymous
Post a Comment
Spam prevention

Accessibility option: listen to a question and answer it!

To submit the form,
drag the leaf to the circle on the side.

Type below the answer to what you hear. Numbers or words, lowercase:

Spam prevention

Accessibility option: listen to a question and answer it!

To submit the form,
drag the pencil to the circle on the side.

Type below the answer to what you hear. Numbers or words, lowercase:

Show All Comments
Rainmaker
483,369
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Real Estate Cafe LLC - Medford, OR
The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620

If this post inspires even one person... mission accomplished... Larry!

Oh Gail... my heart is heavy for you and your hubby. Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst to fight... I know, my assistant's husband is battling the same disease and is in ICU even as I write this. Words are simply not enough to comfort those dealing with such grief and pain. Bless you for being there for your husband. And you're absolutely right... there's nothing more precious than the love we have for one another... nothing else matters!

A blessing indeed... Adrian!

Your words speak volumes... Richard.  Our God is a God of second chances... (third, fourth, fifth... you get the picture).  Everyone of us has an opportunity to fully embrace challenges and seek to understand the lesson that is meant for us in each situation.  I've had soooo many lessons along the way and I'm incredibly grateful to still be here to share them with loved ones and friends.  Thank you for stopping by today!

Lorraine & Lorreta ~ Some of us may never fully know what it is like to walk in another's shoes... but we can certainly love them with all of our heart and show them that we care.  Thank you for sharing your friend's story!

It's not great... Alan, but it was certainly fun!  And today, my family surprised me with a special delivery... all the way from Beverly Hills... more yumm!

Virginia ~ Google the title of this post and you will find several online vendors who sell the shirt!

I'm a huge sucker for Happy Endings... Robert!

Sandy ~ It was the least I could do... hugs are totally free!

Sounds like you've been there... Mary!  The 'B' word stands for Blessing!

Thanks Kristin... this girl could have moved mountains with her faith!

Mar 27, 2012 11:05 AM #102
Rainmaker
309,039
David O'Doherty
Hometowne Realty Clayton East - Clayton, NC
Clayton NC Homes, Raleigh, NC

Mel, all the best, great line, I hope I don't see too many shirts like that! Cancer is a curse! I know so many people fighting it none more so than my Mom, her third battle with it.

Mar 27, 2012 12:26 PM #103
Ambassador
1,096,869
Bryan Robertson
Catarra Real Estate, Inc - Los Altos, CA
Broker, Author, Speaker

I'm very glad the prognosis is benign and that you don't have to go the difficult route of mastectomy.  I think your attitude is incredibly positive and you're an inspiration for any woman dealing with the issue.  Stay strong!

Mar 27, 2012 12:50 PM #104
Rainmaker
776,094
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Group/Spellens Realty - Long Beach, CA
REALTOR® Long Beach, CA

~I lost dear friends and family to cancer, it affects all....Remember one foot after the other is the only way to walk..

I would just add, focus on the positive stuff, if you look hard enough positive is right around the corner!

 

@ don't forget you're great!

Mar 27, 2012 01:03 PM #105
Anonymous
Anonymous
Debbie Nachman

Melinda,

I saw on your blog that the tumors are benign! Awesome and thank God! I just love your spirit through all of this .....you are seriously one kick ass kind of woman.

All the best and look forward to seeing you soon

Debbie

Mar 27, 2012 01:53 PM #106
Ambassador
751,768
Debb Janes
The Carl Group, LLC - Camas, WA
REALTOR®, EcoBroker Camas, Washington

Hey sweetie, I am so relieved to hear the news. You KNOW you have been in my thoughts and prayers. Hurray.

Isn't the human spirt awesome - I love that woman's attitude - and her t-shirt.

We just had a scare with my daughter - emergency surgery for an ovarian cyst - non cancerous. And most recently, she was back the ER with a complication.  Yikes, all is fine now.

It makes me so grateful when everyone I love is happy and healthy. ( And that goes for you too!)

Mar 27, 2012 02:55 PM #107
Rainmaker
483,369
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Real Estate Cafe LLC - Medford, OR
The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620

Thanks Alexandra!  I'm almost at a loss for words too for all of the kind and tender thoughts expressed here.

Those catchy titles have a way of reeling ya in... Bill ;)

I hear ya Dave... the 'C' word should be registered as a naughty word!

Too cute Bryan... I don't expect to acquire anything fake in the near future ;)

I don't have to look to far Jon... there's beauty all around me... and sometimes I forget!  ;)))

Hey my cool chicky friend (Debbie)... I'm so glad you're watching over me!  Thanks for the kick ass kudos... you know I luv ya!

Hey Deb ~ I'm so glad you got to visit Alaska... looked absolutely beautiful!  Things are good on the home-front and I'm on the mend.  Wow... about your daughter.  I hope she's okay!  Thanks for your thoughts and prayers... can't wait to see you girls. 

Mar 27, 2012 08:12 PM #108
Rainmaker
547,597
Curtis Van Carter
Coldwell Banker Brokers of the Valley, Yountville Napa Valley - Yountville, CA
Napa Valley's Broker Extraordinaire in Yountville

Mel

Just checking in to see how you are doing and something to help cheer you up, cvc

from Steve Peters in an earlier AR post

The Husband Store
A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs. She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. 'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.' So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. 'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework. 'Oh, mercy me!' she ex claims, 'I can hardly stand it!' Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE: To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex, have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

 

Mar 28, 2012 12:20 PM #109
Rainmaker
483,369
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Real Estate Cafe LLC - Medford, OR
The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620

OMG... Curtis... that was hilarious and made laugh out loud!  Thanks for stopping by to check in on me... I'm feeling better ;)))

Mar 28, 2012 12:28 PM #110
Rainmaker
541,132
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

Mel, I'm happy that you're diagnosis came back the way it did. I'm also really happy that you "get it." People are strange beings and you're one of the special ones!

Mar 28, 2012 07:08 PM #111
Ambassador
572,554
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Realtor (503)755-2905
Vernonia Realty - Vernonia, OR
"Your Gateway to the Lake" Birkenfeld Oregon

Oh my Gawd, Mel,I just got goosebumps!!  What FABULOUS NEWS!!  I'm so glad you got featured (and not just for your boobs!)

Ha! Love ya, missy--okay we HAVE to dish on the phone, SOOOOOOONNNNN, (put down those celebratory cupcakes).

 

Mar 28, 2012 07:56 PM #112
Ambassador
448,419
Larry Lawfer
YourStories Realty Group - Westwood, MA
"I listen for a living." It's all about you.

Great story Mel.  My mom survived breast cancer and colon cancer twice over a period of 12 years. What killed her was the liver cancer because she couldn't adjust to being a survivor rather than a victim.  She drank to numb the fear rather than facing it.  Your survivor story exemplifies how we should feel when we overcome adversity, but it also shows that we are human and we can control how we feel about what life shares with us.  Thank you for your stories Mel.

Mar 29, 2012 06:28 AM #113
Rainmaker
547,597
Curtis Van Carter
Coldwell Banker Brokers of the Valley, Yountville Napa Valley - Yountville, CA
Napa Valley's Broker Extraordinaire in Yountville

Mel

That's great news, here is another wish, cheers cvc

Mar 29, 2012 11:52 AM #114
Rainmaker
483,369
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Real Estate Cafe LLC - Medford, OR
The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620

Thanks Eric!  I do 'get' it... regarding your post... I've learned not to expend too much energy on people who piss in your cheerios... it's just not worth it.  I enjoyed your post and hope you're having a better week!

My cupcake days are over for now Gayle... I'm doing a macrobiotic diet and no sugar for awhile.  We'll see how long I can resist chocolate ;)  Let's chat soon!

Oh Larry, that is a heart-breaking story about your Mom.  My mother suffered from MS for most of my life and she died too young (55), but she provided me with the best lessons in being a 'survivor' and I cherish them everyday!  I wish I could tell her how much I learned from her... maybe one day ;)))

Ahhh, thanks Curtis.  It's sunshine and rainbows from here on out ;)

Mar 31, 2012 09:15 PM #115
Rainer
30,267
Peter Michelbach
International, INT
i Sell Real Estate

Mel ~~~

I spurted quickly to my German - English dictionary to check 100 % on the world benign...such heart touching news, happy ending, the world and beyond  is yours! You crossed the Rubicon!!! Be well.

Apr 01, 2012 05:53 AM #116
Rainmaker
483,369
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Real Estate Cafe LLC - Medford, OR
The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620

Peter ~ Benign... also means Blessing... in the Mel Peterson dictionary ;)

Thanks for stopping by John... I'm glad you enjoyed the story ;)

Apr 02, 2012 03:49 PM #118
Rainer
122,247
John Fauth
Coldwell Banker King Thompson - Grove City, OH
Turning your dreams into an address!

The power of the human spirit never ceases to amaze me. Strength can come from the most unexpected places. This was a great story and I would have never guessed the true story behind the title.  Uplifting to say the least.

Apr 02, 2012 03:50 PM #119
Anonymous
Anonymous
Jennifer Burgett

My friend is fixing to have a double mastectomy and she has found inspriration in the shirt "You're damn right their fake......The real ones tried to kill me" I must get her one. Please tell me how.

Thank You,

Jennifer Burgett

Jan 15, 2013 05:24 PM #120
Rainmaker
602,815
Joy Daniels
Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd. - Harrisburg, PA

We had an agent in our office with breast cancer and I have a dear friend that just suffered a double mastectomy.  This was a great post

Mar 03, 2014 07:16 PM #148
Rainmaker
635,088
Dawn A Fabiszak
Keller Williams Real Estate ( Denver metro area, Colorado - Aurora, CO
The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience!

Mel ~ I have seen these t-shirts and read a story similar to this one.  True grit!

Mar 03, 2014 09:09 PM #149
Anonymous
Post a Comment
Spam prevention

Accessibility option: listen to a question and answer it!

To submit the form,
drag the umbrella to the circle on the side.

Type below the answer to what you hear. Numbers or words, lowercase:

Show All Comments
Rainmaker
483,369

Melinda (Mel) Peterson

The Naked Blogger 541-659-1620
You have me at Hello!
*
*
*
Spam prevention

Accessibility option: listen to a question and answer it!

To submit the form,
drag the flag to the circle on the side.

Type below the answer to what you hear. Numbers or words, lowercase:

Additional Information