Video Games - No Longer in this House!

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NO MORE VIDEO GAMES!Yesterday was the last straw...got an email from our son's teacher that he had purposely tripped someone going down the hallway...luckily, they didn't fall or anything, but it was the last straw for me.  And I know it's the video game playing...it's like kids nowadays are OBSESSED with video games...they become reality...from grades slumping, lying, cheating, bad behavior, arguing (any of this sound familiar in your house?), no more.

We "had" Playstation and Wii, along with our son's hand held 3DS.  He got to keep the 3DS, however, all the other video game platforms, games, and accessories are now gone.

I no longer allow anything other than 3DS in this house, and you know what our son's doing right now?  Sitting next to me quietly READING A BOOK!!!

I know I did the right thing.  Even when friends come over and the kids play video games, I can tell a difference in their attitude just in the time they're here!  I asked one friend of our son's to do something for me, and he said "HOLD ON!" And with that answer, I shut down the video game and said, "That doesn't fly in this house." I honestly thought he'd never come over again, but apparently he needed that and has more respect for me and does what I ask the FIRST TIME now!

Try it if you're at your wit's end...you'll notice a HUGE IMPROVEMENT in behavior, attitude, less arguing, and certainly better grades!

He's been grounded from video games before for about a week at a time and I see a difference just in that week...I can only imagine how nice it's going to be from here on out...

He's not allowed to play any games on his 3DS until school is out, and then he is allowed 1 hour per day over the summer and that's it.

No regrets here!

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Cheryl Thomson, REALTOR, Retired (U.S. Army)
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Sometimes our children will try to stretch the limits just to see what you will allow.  I bet he will get it right from now on.  As a parent I certainly understand.  Great blog.

Apr 21, 2012 02:02 PM #10
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Jennifer Chiongbian
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Good on you!  The tech wold totally rules out entire worlds that we no longer can focus on simpler things in life and what is truly important.

Apr 21, 2012 02:38 PM #11
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JO SOSS
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What age group?  My boys are grown but even when it was just Nintendo they would rather play outside.  

Apr 21, 2012 04:30 PM #12
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Marti Steele Kilby
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I totally agree with you and Teresa's comments.  Despite the protests of the manufacturers I believe that many of these games do desensitize kids and distort reality, encouraging behavior that can be reckless or even deadly.  I think there is enough for kids to do without sitting on their butt for hours on end sucked into a game!

Apr 21, 2012 04:52 PM #13
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Nancy Golliday
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Jo - he's 9 and has the attittude of a 16 year old right now.  But not for long.  And honestly, I have no one else to blame but myself for even letting him get these game platform(s) in the first place. 

Apr 21, 2012 05:21 PM #14
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Nancy Golliday
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Tim - we only had tv as a kid...never got into video games...we were always outside playing!

Apr 21, 2012 05:22 PM #15
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Michelle Francis
Tim Francis Realty LLC - Atlanta, GA
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Nancy, 

Holding your ground and demanding respect is what kids need from parents.  They want us to set boundaries and keep them. 

Way to go, it's not easy, but it's a good feeling and they appreciate it even if they can't verbilize that to you.

All the best, Michelle

 

Apr 21, 2012 05:46 PM #16
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Gretchen & Mel Ahrens
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Good idea! We finally limited our kids' playing to an hour a day at the most and they lose that for any slight offense (talk back to us and it's gone for days!). And they only get that hour after chores, homework, sports practice etc. I am concerned about the influence games have on them, but haven't been able to outlaw them altogether.

Gretchen

Apr 21, 2012 06:12 PM #17
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Joan Whitebook
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Looks like it is time to get back to the basics.. I think you have assisted your child to get back on to the right track.

Apr 21, 2012 06:13 PM #18
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Nancy Golliday
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You're so right Joan - When school's out, I know "I" have to help out with activities, so I have planned on creating "my own" scavenger hunt type of things this summer for our son.  We'll head over to the rivers and parks and hunt for nature!!!  There's just so much to do outdoors!!

Apr 21, 2012 06:19 PM #19
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Leanne Paynter • Greater Fort Lauderdale • Plantation, Davie, Cooper City
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If only more parents had the courage to do what you did.

Apr 21, 2012 07:18 PM #20
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Richard Weisser
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Nancy...

Kudos to you for taking this stand. I believe that you are doing the right thing and I know that one day your son will appreciate it!

Apr 21, 2012 08:02 PM #21
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Evelyn Kennedy
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Nancy:

I don't have young kids anymore.  So I didn't realize that video games were affecting kids' behavior.  You sound like a mother who will not let your son become a problem.  If withdrawing his video games is the answer than good for you. 

Apr 21, 2012 08:45 PM #22
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Tammie White
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I may sound archaic but our kids never had video games growing up. We didn't get our first game until my daughter was 16 (she's 19) now and that was a Wii. No violent games aloud either mostly things we can play as a family. I commend you for going against the grain. I wish parenthood were easier.

Apr 21, 2012 08:51 PM #23
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Nancy - I've never been much in to the video games being in our house. Still they find other things like tv. I've found that discovering books he enjoys is just better.

Apr 22, 2012 05:28 AM #24
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Phil Leng
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Hi Nancy,

My older daughter has a "screen time" rule.

One hour a day of screen time after the chart is finished.

Screen time is - computer, tv, video games, etc. Any and all combined is one hour. Period.

Phil

Apr 22, 2012 05:34 AM #25
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Great post Nancy, thanks for sharing.  My first lesson in watching which toys my children played with was nearly 20 years ago when my 5 year old daughter complained that her 3 year old brother was practicing his karate kicks on her.  That day All of the teen age mutant ninja turtle toys went into a garbage bag (and all relatives were instructed not to give any more of these), I then went out and spent my last $30 on a purple talking dinosaur named barney, the difference in behavior was immediate and permanent.

As far as video games they were never allowed, just an old apple with as stack of educational games, followed by a pc a few years later with more educational software and useful programs.

Being strict, yet generous where it counts pays off and all the kids are in college now and prospering.

Apr 22, 2012 07:45 AM #26
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Karen Burns
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I enjoyed your post Nancy. I believe everything should be done in moderation. Video games can be so addictive. It's good to set bounderies on such things while you have parental control. Then the child will learn to do other things such as reading, exercising, building or inventing things. Hopefully the practice of moderation will carry over to teen years and above so they can be successful at focusing in college and/or at their job. 

Apr 22, 2012 12:26 PM #27
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Barb Szabo, CRS
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I'm sure you could guess that I would agree. Way to go and stay strong!

Apr 23, 2012 04:40 AM #28
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Sharon Alters
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Nancy, we limited the types of games and the time spent in our house. It was a constant battle. The games have just become more and more violent and graphic. Kudos to you!!! Your sons will thank you one day.

Sharon

May 05, 2012 07:49 AM #32
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