Overcoming Adversity, Change & Life's Challenges

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Zillow - Nat'l Outreach Mgr & Dir. of Zillow Academy

How do you deal with adversity?  What about change?  When are life's challenges enough to stop you in your tracks?  When can you honestly say, the whole world has come crashing down on you?  Here's a real life story that will hit home for many of you who have had a similar experience and weren't sure that somehow you'd get through it!

On January 1st, 2008, A New Year Dawned!  We were enjoying the day with our family just as many of you were.  My youngest son Brandon asked if he could go to the skateboard park with a friend he hadn't seen in almost a year.  My wife and I agreed to let him go as long as the friends mother would be there to supervise. That's when our "New Year" started to take a turn for the unexpected!  

 Mid day, our phone rang, it was Phillips mother telling us Brandon had fallen off his board and was hurt really bad.  She said it looked like his arm was broken for sure.  Now when a mother of another child tells you this, you can only imagine how bad it really must be considering most of us would try to play it down and not up.   When she dropped Brandon off, he was in tears, and his arm looked like a crooked tire iron.  We rushed him to the Hospital only to find that the arm was in fact severely broken and just short of a compound fracture. 

The doctor said he would try his best to re-position the arm in a way that would get him through until he could see an orthopedic surgeon.  Then he pulled us aside and warned that there may be complications: nerve damage, growth damage, unrepairable bone damage and then the worse and I quote, "When we knock Brandon out, there's a chance he could die!"  My wife and I almost fainted!  Then we had to sign the forms before they put our baby under anesthesia.  The last words from Brandon with tears in his eyes were, "I'm sorry Dad, and Happy New Year!"

Thank God he pulled through the procedure, but now has a long road ahead with an orthopedic surgeon and the fear of possible surgery, casts, x-rays, physical therapy, and all that comes with severely broken bones.


On January 2nd, 2008, we thought we had seen the worst! 
The year could only get better right?  Wrong.  The news networks and radio stations were telling all residents living in our area to prepare for one of the worst storms ever.  The City provided sand bags for homeowners to come fill and place around their homes.  They said the storm would last 3 days and hit Central California really hard.  My older son (with two good arms) helped me fill 30 sand bags and place them all around our house.  The memories of the flood that hit us two years ago seemed like it was just yesterday!  Then the rain started to pour, and the wind started to blow.  I thought man, it can't get any worse than this. 

 


On January 3rd, 2008, I was asked to come into our Corporate Office in Concord for a meeting with the Regional Marketing Manager for my Company, First American Title.  I informed him I had numerous appointments already scheduled for the day, and I needed to watch our home for flooding.  He said it was imperative that we meet!  As my son cried in pain, and the rain pummeled our home, I drove into my office only to find that I was being laid off after 20 years of combined service to my company.  Almost half my life with this organization, and now, it was all over! Just like that!  No reason, just cutting back.  OMG!  Holy Cow!!  Now what?  How do I tell my wife and kids?  What am I going to do?  The term "Happy New Year" is now the furthest from reality for me and my family!  What an emotional ride this year has been already!

To make matters worse and even more unbearable, we have been without power in our home for the past 48 hours due to the hard hitting storms of Central and Northern California.  This is the first time we have had power and the ability to make contact with the outside world in 2 days.  I want to say that the worst has to be over, but every time I say that, something else happens!  So how do you overcome adversity, change, and life's challenges?  I really don't know other than to lean on GOD as the spiritual leader, and my friends and family for their love and support. 

 The Andersohn family still has so much to be grateful for, we still have each other.  We have so many friends and are surrounded by so many great people, we just know we're going to pull through this.  My one and only goal right now is to provide for my family, and to find work in the next few days.  I am on a mission to find a place to call home before I lose my own.  I hope to find a company that will see me as more than just a number.  That may mean I'll have to start my own!  LOL!~  Please keep the Andersohn Family in your thoughts, and if you believe, in your prayers too!  You have all been the best thing that has happened to us this past year, and we will never forget the love and support we have received here.

In closing, I just want to say that finding a way to overcome adversity, change, and life's challenges might not be what we are really looking for.  Everything happens for a reason (I think) and learning to press on toward the goal might be the true lesson here.  Thanks for letting me share our "New Year" with you.  Our hearts may be broken, but our spirits are strong!  Adversity and Change may act as they do, but we WILL overcome!  Life's challenges are inevitable, but being able to look back on circumstances and knowing that it will be OK, is what gives us the thrill of Victory as opposed to the agony of Defeat!  Until the next time, Be Blessed, Be Thankful for what you have, and most of all, Enjoy Your Journey, it's the only one you get!  :-)

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Melissa Stewart
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Best of luck to you! Hopefully by today now things are looking much better and life is getting better! Best of luck to you for 2008. Your message was very touching!
Jan 12, 2008 02:59 PM #188
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Gosh Brad, I am so glad things are better now.  Now sure how I missed this post but I will say what I would have said had I read this days ago... God is good, and he does not give us more than we can bare.  That's his promise to us and he keeps his promises.  I think alot of us are facing some really hard times right now, I'm thinking of looking for a part time job if nothing else, until the market decides to be nice to me!! A close would help.

Remember... When you're down to nothing God is up to something.  And he when he closes a door he opens a window, we just have to open to seeing the opened windows.  God bless you and your family.

Hey!! I'm a leo too.  Giving up is not in our behavior.  Step back and come back with Plan B.  But always put God first and everything will be alright.  With God "its already alright!"

Jan 12, 2008 03:11 PM #189
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Gosh Brad, I am so glad things are better now.  Now sure how I missed this post but I will say what I would have said had I read this days ago... God is good, and he does not give us more than we can bare.  That's his promise to us and he keeps his promises.  I think alot of us are facing some really hard times right now, I'm thinking of looking for a part time job if nothing else, until the market decides to be nice to me!! A close would help.

Remember... When you're down to nothing God is up to something.  And he when he closes a door he opens a window, we just have to open to seeing the opened windows.  God bless you and your family.

Hey!! I'm a leo too.  Giving up is not in our behavior.  Step back and come back with Plan B.  But always put God first and everything will be alright.  With God "its already alright!"

Jan 12, 2008 03:11 PM #190
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Barbara Martino-Sliva
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Brad, you are such a talented and giving individual.  I am sorry for your troubles  but........ this will pass.  Good things will happen, you have to keep the faith.  Just look to your friends here to give you support. Take some time to yourself and re-group, you will do great things.

Jan 12, 2008 06:06 PM #191
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Brad , I can't believe I am just now reading this post. How I missed it I don't know. Maybe I wasn't supposed to know till now or I would worry! Thankfully, everything has worked out well for you. I'm always amazed at exactly how  you even get something better when it comes to replacement. I have a feeling that this new job will be fabulous and you son's arm will heal just fine. Sometimes all this happens just to bring you closer together with loved ones and everyone that deeply cares.(me included) You just can't keep a good man down!
Jan 12, 2008 07:55 PM #192
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You got the triple threat. I have no answer to give but you will be in my thoughts. Place your faith in God.
Jan 13, 2008 10:19 AM #193
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Maria Couto
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Brad, I'm ever so sorry that this is happening to your family. They say God never gives you more than you can handle. HE just seems to be testing you very hard. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong.
Jan 15, 2008 03:13 PM #194
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Josette Skilling
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I so glad everything worked out for you.  What a way to start the new year but from here it must all be cake!
Jan 15, 2008 09:06 PM #195
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Alexander Harb
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Brad......

I read a LOT of the comments here and one of them stood
out in praticular...Pamela Kennards comment about the book of Job.
(I believe it is about 16 DOWN PAGE tabs to see her
comment again from the top of the post)

Now I am not sure about what you believe about God,
BUT this is what happened to this man who
went through SO MUCH and believed in God: 

In the end, Job got DOUBLE BACK for the TROUBLE Satan gave
him because he did NOT give up his faith or trust in the Lord.....

Stand firm, knowing you have a GREAT reward up ahead!!

May the Lord our God in Jesus the Messiah
bless you at the end of all this struggle and pain......and
may your faith be strengthened and deeper because of
Gods help and guidance for you and your family to help you through it!

 

Jan 28, 2008 12:27 AM #196
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Brad & Debra,

I'm sorry you have had to go through such trials and tribulations in such a short period of time.  If anyone can survive and get through it, it would be the strong family unit that you have shown yourselves to be.  Brad, you have contributed so much of yourself to this community that you have many friends and supporters here.  I'm sure it's no different with your local clients and friends.

New opportunities will be opening up for you - and you well deserve them.  Best wishes for Brandon's complete recovery.

Jan 30, 2008 08:12 AM #197
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Brad Andersohn
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The support, love, faith and comments here are incredible!!! 

I hope that if you read this comment here, you will go to the post I wrote just days after this one, and read the update on what has taken place since.  It's called "Lifes Lesson - Don't Give Up!"  It was these comments here that really helped me and my family through everything that happen to us in this post! 

Thanks so much for ALL your thoughts and prayers!  I hope you're ALL blessed beyond your wildest imagination this year!!  :-)

Brad, Debra & Family 

Jan 30, 2008 06:59 PM #198
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Tara Colquitt
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Alexander Harb lead me to this post from Top Posts of the Month blog. 

I am no longer surprised when the Universe gives us overwhelming odds and then the resources to overcome them.

Brad/Debra your trials and tribulations and how you are handling them give me the strength TODAY to keep walking the path. And it is exactly what I needed to 'hear'. I read every comment and although the words/sentiments were for your pain, they have also helped me. For all of us that are going through it, I thank AR's community for everything they are and do. I feel very fortunate to have found AR on January 7th and to have met you and so many others.

I am about to read 'Life's Lesson -Don't Give Up'. I am sure I will be inspired, as always. 

Peace Be Still 

 

Jan 31, 2008 05:24 AM #199
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Brad - I've been a bit out of touch here on AR this past month.  I just read your 2/2/08 post and clicked on this one to catch up.  I can't wait to read the follow up post to see what God provided for you and your family.
Feb 02, 2008 10:28 PM #200
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Tucson Real Estate Experts Anne McKechnie
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Brad...I missed your post we are so sorry...just what corporate America does to you after great service. I am sure you can do something that would show your talent better...you are an incredible writer and coach.

PS I clicked through from your other post...so I am going to read it


Anne

Feb 08, 2008 06:53 AM #201
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Brad, I came to your blog because of a post you did for new folks like myself (thank you for sharing all of your AR insights). I read through a few of your posts and came to this one and WOW! I'm glad that it appears things have worked out.
Feb 10, 2008 11:27 PM #202
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I'm just reading this after reading all the comments on your finding your brother post.  This is turning out to be an interesting year for you for sure.  Wishing you all the best!
Mar 03, 2008 06:38 AM #203
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Alexander Harb
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Thanks Tara....

 I am glad to have been able to post "The Top Posts of the Month"..... it is always an honor to do that!!

We the membership show top talent when we comment on peoples posts that are worthy of discussion.

Lots of good dialogue is what makes certain posts get into that list..... I only gather the information I do NOT manipulate it.

I only wish this would have been able to be posted in,'Christianity and Real Estate' in addition to the other groups...I would have featured it as a prayer request, which we always do!! 

=-)

Mar 03, 2008 11:32 AM #204
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I guess this is one of those posts you just have to wait a while to come back to.  This was my first post of 2008.  I look back on this now and see just how blessed I am and was through all this.  Mostly, I was blessed by these comments, they are what got me through this time in our family's life. 

Today, this year is nearly over, and now I can read this post and these comments knowing one this is for sure now and in the future, people helping other people is what living life and this world is all about.  Nothing else really matters other than your faith!!  :-))

Dec 20, 2008 04:31 PM #205
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Mary Douglas
United Country Ponderosa Realty - Red Feather Lakes, CO
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Hi Brad,  Wow, I just ran into this post-- a year later! I didn't know you worked for First American Title, I worked for Security Title, an agent for First American Title, for 29 years! I left Security in December of 2007.... so I guess we have both been away from Title for a year now! AHHHHHH :-)

Hope you are well, and your son's arm has healed and is OK. I loved your last comment. It's true faith will see you through all kinds of storms.

Jan 16, 2009 11:03 PM #206
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Mary - everything happens for a reason, and everything worked out ok.  It's hard when you're in the moment to look ahead and have faith that all things will work out, the members in this community are really what carried me and my family through this whole ordeal. 

I thank God for AR and the people that make this place what I now call my home! 

Jan 17, 2009 01:16 AM #207
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