Sometimes I pause to examine who I am. Not often ~ but sometimes.
I am defined to myself and others as a list of adjectives. With time this list grows, and as the song says I need to "accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative". So life is a smorgasbord (or is it "a buffet"?) where I can pick and choose, and apply.
Many rely on their horoscope to work out who they are. I stopped reading mine years ago when it repetitiously said "Capricorn - don't bother to get up!" Now I indulge in inward looks and listening to what others say and think. I do believe that others' opinions of me are none of my business.
NB: Not telling whether the attached list is from me or a composite from others.
Take time to enjoy a look at yourself. You might be surprised.