If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all; So…

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If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all; So…

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It’s getting harder and harder to bite my tongue these days. But I like to start the week off in a positive frame of mind and so I am just going to meditate and think happy thoughts!

The world seems like such a mean place these days, and I don’t want to contribute to the devolution of civility.

But there are times when enough is enough. And sometimes the bad guys have to be called out for a day of reckoning.

Words, when used responsibly, can become a great equalizer for those that have a legitimate wrong to expose.

Always keep in mind that what separates a rant from constructive criticism is whether or not a solution or resolution is proffered.

It is possible to evoke something positive from the negative with the correct frame of mind in place.

Although some days, it’s a lot harder to so!

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Rainmaker
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Janis Borgueta
LIC R.E Salesperson - Homes for Sale Newburgh NY
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Richard.. it is all in the presentation, and there is no needfor anyone to be quite so nasty as some can be. I am glad to hear that you are looking for the positive in all you do. I hope your week turns into something great.

June 25, 2012 04:40 AM
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Gary L. Waters, Broker Owner Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC
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I am one who believes a rant is something that should be reserved for only the most extreme situations but I am with you on the use of constructive criticism.

June 25, 2012 04:46 AM
Rainmaker
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Terri Poehler
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Richard, something on your mind??

June 25, 2012 04:47 AM
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Brenda Mullen
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Good Morning Richard-Words are very powerful and sometimes the world is a mean place.  It's ok to retreat sometimes to get away :).  You need to write a book by the way...just my opinion :).  

June 25, 2012 04:53 AM
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Richard Weisser
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Ugh...

I just hit the wrong button and closed the browser before my comments posted.

S&D...

I will try to do just that. Thanks.

Barbara...

And the Internet NEVER forgets. Thanks so much.

Ginny...

And hope that some good will come out of it. TYVM!

June 25, 2012 05:09 AM
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Bobbie Smith
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Richard, you are absolutely correct. The old adage always rings true, especially online. Those words said in anger usually come back to bite you so you might as well bite your own tongue instead.  Very well said.

June 25, 2012 05:32 AM
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Liz and Bill Spear
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Richard, It's tough to decide which battles to pick some days.  But like you said, there's certainly a point at which standing idly by and letting the bad guys have free reign just isn't fitting.

June 25, 2012 05:51 AM
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Betsy...

I hope to do just that! Thanks so much.

Janis...

Unless you are talking about HUD or the BoA! Lol and thanks!

Gary...

I think that the key is offering a positive solution. Thanks my friend.

June 25, 2012 05:51 AM
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Kathryn Maguire
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It is very easy to sink to the depths of the wrongdoers.  As I tell my kids sometimes "Do you want to die on that hill?"  Definitely need to pick your battles.

June 25, 2012 06:49 AM
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Morning Richard... I'm sitting here still with blurry eyes and no brew as of yet wondering what your photo is of???  I can't decide. Please share.

June 25, 2012 07:02 AM
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Bryan Robertson
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Very well put.  I've had to hold my tongue with a few folks lately.  Even when I've got to put 'em in their place, I still try to make sure the dialog is constructive.

 

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June 25, 2012 08:57 AM
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Chris Ann Cleland
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If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.  People can disagree with civility, but sometimes they are down right nasty.

June 25, 2012 10:52 AM
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Terri...

What gave ut away? lol and thanks.

Brenda...

Thank you so much for the encouragement. I appreciate it more than you will ever know!

Bobbie...

Some times we look back and ask ourselves the question "why?" TYVM

Bill...

Sometimes you just have to take a stand. Thanks so much!

June 25, 2012 11:51 AM
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Anna Banana Kruchten
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Richard I feel like I've held my tongue a lot this past 4 or 5 years in our crazy market - with some pretty crazy situtaions. This too will pass became my motto as well as breathe.........in....breathe out.  There have been times when I do need to address 'whatever' it is and keep a firm stance - when enough is enough.   I say......done, so so done.  Don't even think it's going in that direction.....NO!!

June 25, 2012 11:56 AM
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Kathryn...

Exactly right ... but sometimes the hard choice has to be made! THX

Q...

Most would think that I Photoshopped to the extreme but it's really just a set shot: Melted black thermal wax ink on white paper. Pretty cool. eh?

Bryan...

Thanks so much for the feature. I really appreciate it!

June 25, 2012 12:03 PM
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William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.
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It ishard to look past some of the stuff, and sometimes...you have to speak up.  ut, we need to know when to talk and when to keep quiet

June 25, 2012 05:49 PM
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Kathy Sheehan
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Sounds like Monday might have started off on the wrong foot.

June 25, 2012 07:30 PM
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Kathy Streib
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Richard- have to say I love what Ginny (#3) said.. say what you have to say as if it was being told to you.

Maybe biting ones tongue is a sign of maturity but there are times when you just want to (as we say in Texas) tell them how the cow ate the cabbage.  I have no idea what that means but that's what we say. 

June 25, 2012 08:54 PM
Rainmaker
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René Fabre
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First American Title

Some Monday's are like that for sure. I hold onto the belief that what comes around goes around and those bad guys will get there's... Yet, it does seem (through the media anyway) that some get away with it very nicely. I try not to get pulled into that internal argument because it'll take me to thoughts like, life ain't fair.

Now, when that happens, I conjur up that scene in the movie Independence Day, when Randy Quaid is flying  his fighter jet to crash it into the alien spacecraft, "In the words of our generation, Up Yours!"

June 26, 2012 09:22 AM
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Cheryl Thomson, REALTOR, Retired (U.S. Army)
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I have to say your right on that...once the words come out you can't take it back.  People will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel!

June 26, 2012 10:28 AM
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