In Loving Memory of Jamie Renee Boone Fitzgerald

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                    In Loving Memory of Jamie Renee Boone Fitzgerald

                             Jamie 34

On March 1, 1977 I was blest with the birth of my second daughter, Jamie Renee, Boone.  I lovingly called her Monkey from the day she was born. As joyous as that day was I could never have imagined the ever deepening joy I was given as Jamie grew and blossomed.  Our Heavenly Father granted me the privilege of being the mother of one of His most valiant spirits.  Throughout all her life and trials Jamie sought only to please her Heavenly Father.

It would be hard for me to imagine a more humble God serving soul.  She was given more trials and tribulations than anyone else I personally know and yet never questioned why but only how to endure.  When things got really tough I reminded her of Job and she realized she would never be asked more than she could endure.

I believe the most noble and valiant in the pre-existence chose the most challenging trails because they knew they could prevail and be examples to the rest of us.

Jamie was upbeat, positive and sometimes silly, always kind and thoughtful and loved being with family and friends having fun.. She was trained to send cards as a child and found joy in doing so as an adult.  She loved talking on the phone and many of us heard from her every day!  She loved the sharing and support from friends and family members.  She had special phone relationships with her Aunt Barbara, Aunt Shelly and Cousin Carl.  Carl would help her find courage to expand her horizons and work past her fears.  I had the pleasure of talking to her several times each day sharing experiences, insights, understandings, gospel principles and prayers.

As a baby she never did crawl but scooted digging her heels into the carpet and lifting her bottom up and forward and propelled herself across the floor. I called her Scooter during this phase. She finally walked at 19 months!

One of my special memories was when she was 8 years old.  It was a few months after her baptism into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and I had just returned home from BYU Education Week and Jamie was sharing with me that some of her friends had wanted her to do something wrong.  She told them no and when they asked her why she told them she didn’t want to lose the Holy Ghost.  That touched my heart and was the beginning of what I call my Jamie Stories.

She had many fears as a young child and sometimes school seemed overwhelming to her.  One of her teachers, Mr. Coffinger, in elementary school gave her an award for being brave when he asked her to be.  Yet when she saw a wrong she had the strength to face it.  When she was 10 she was at a public pool and some older boys were taunting a younger boy who had no feet.  She walked over to the bully and with her knees shaking chastised him and the bullies just looked at her and walked away.  The crippled boy said “Thanks girl”.

Jamie was a tomboy and loved playing outside on Sesame Street where we lived for the first 12 years of her life. One of my favorite mind pictures of Jamie is when we were at Price Club and she asked for a skate board.  When the answer was yes the happiness on her face as she stood in line holding her skateboard was priceless.

Jamie 10She loved acting and I signed her with Bobby Ball Agency and she did a few commercials and spent two summers with her sister, Kari, in Childsplay, an acting group for children.

Her favorite sport was soccer and she started playing when she was in the second grade.  When she first tried out she attempted to kick the ball and missed it and wanted to walk off but I made her go back and try again and she kicked it perfectly.  She went on to play through high school and was an amazing runner on the field.  During one game her coach watched her run down the field and marveled at her speed saying “Where did she get those legs??”

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Although very athletic she was also musical.  When she was 5 I bought a piano because she wanted to learn how to play.  She took lessons for a couple of years and then switched her interest to the violin and played through her Freshman year at Marcos De Niza High School..

Her passion was horses and at age 5 her father, Dale Boone, started her horseback riding lessons. At age 15 I bought her a horse named Nikita Pepanita.  Mine was named Talley and we boarded our horses first at the home of Marsha Pool, a friend and horse trader we bought our horses from, and then at Papago Stables where she rode Nikita until she got too tall for the short horse and sold it to Jane Scott the daughter and former Miss Wyoming of the owner of the stable.  She was friends with Wayne and Clay Scott and for years we would go to the stables to watch the 4th of July fireworks together.

While I was remarried to Fred Whiting Jamie became friends with his children and developed a special bond with his oldest daughter, Julie. Over the past few years we shared time in California visiting and enjoying our California vacation together.  The vacations were shared with Jamie’s older sister Kari, her step sister Julie and lifelong friend Tarina Wood, who was our neighbor on Sesame Street until we moved.

Jamie 15At age 15 Jamie’s life faced a horrific challenge – the diagnosis of being Bi-Polar Schizoeffective.  Her fear was so great that she dropped out of Marcos DiNiza High School for several months and repeated her sophomore year at Mountain Pointe High School after her father and I, then divorced, decided it would be best for her to live with him as he was remarried and could guarantee a structured daily routine which would serve Jamie best. Jamie and I were like Frick and Frack and not having her by my side daily was a sacrifice I knew I had to make and yet was so thankful for a dedicated father and his new wife Mary who loved Jamie and Kari as her own.

Jamie read and studied about her condition and the medications that could help her. She tried to understand and deal with her fears.  She became inactive from the church for a few years but was always sweet and loving and was fast friends with everyone she met.

She had a fear of flying but in September of 1998 was willing to go on a three week trip to London, Paris and a bus tour of England and Scotland with my mother and I.  She was the darling of the trip and had wonderful experiences.  She was also willing in 2008 to go on a family trip to Alaska for a cruise which she enjoyed with her husband, Kevin, myself and her sister, Kari, her husband, Ryan, and their 3 children, Kaleigh, Rylee and Shane and Savanna Dilettoso who Jamie loved like a sister. 

Jamie was one of the entertainers on passenger performance night having tried out for and getting the part of Gloria Estefan singing The Rhythm Is Going To Get You.  She was a hit!!  As was her brother-in-law, Ryan Powell, who was chosen for the part of Elton John singing Crocodile Rock.

She adored her older sister, Kari.  Jamie was two years younger than Kari and often annoyed her but Kari always had her back.  Jamie was a wonderful aunt to Kari’s 3 children, Kaleigh now 15, Rylee now 12 and Shane now 10 and they all have special memories of her and loved their nick names: Kaliegh was called Dulce, Rylee was called Duke Duke or Dukers and Shane was called Dane Dane or Boone Boone.

Although for several years in her early 20’s she was not attending church regularly Jamie was always prayerful and aware of promptings.  Eight years ago she was going to drive out to California to meet a new person and was prompted to call Meredith, a relative of the family, who she had met 4 years prior and knew for only 3 hours.  She explained to Meredith that she was coming to California and Meredith told her you have to meet my brother.  That was Kevin Fitzgerald and it was an immediate click. They spoke on the phone for 5 weeks from July 2004 to August 2004 and then she came out to officially meet him.  She moved to El Cahon to be with him in April 2005 and one year later their marriage was set for April 22, 2006.Keven and Jamie Fitzgerald wedding day 4 22 2006  The day of the wedding I came down with Guillian Barre, a rare auto immune syndrome and the following week Jamie contacted Bishop LeMieux from my ward for counseling during her fear of losing me and began her missionary lessons to come back to the church.  While I was in the hospital she wasn’t sure if I would live and desperately wanted to talk to me at least one more time.  When she was prompted to call she was able to hear me tell her “I love you Monkey” before the nurse told her I was crashing and had to hang up.  Kevin also took the missionary lessons.  I was released two months later in July and Kevin was baptized the following August and Jamie and he were sealed one year later.

Jamie and Kevin are a chosen couple who set the example of love and unity and service to their fellow man.  Jamie looked every day to who she could serve.  She served the widows because of the inspiring example set by LDS President, Thomas S. Monson.  She gave to the homeless people and one of my favorite stories is how on one cold, cold day she bought a coat, scarf, gloves, socks and hat for a homeless man named Edward who just cried at her kindness.

Jamie loved her once a year opportunity to serve at the Mormon Battalion making dolls which she gave to the little children.  One of my prized possessions is the doll she was allowed to make for herself and gave to me because she knew I wanted one.  Jamie was totally unselfish.

The person Jamie most loved serving was her husband Kevin.  With his help she overcame her fear of cooking and when his mother Donna came to visit she would bring Jamie new recipes to cook and help prepare them with her.  Jamie became so happy with her accomplishments in the kitchen!  She loved her walks with Kevin and their beloved Boston Terrier, Brutus.  She liked taking the trolley with Kevin down to San Diego.  She loved watching TV talk shows with Kevin and the history channel and admired Kevin’s knowledge and how well he discussed his ideas and thoughts.

Memorial Day weekend 2011 I came out for a LDS Singles Conference in San Diego and Jamie got permission from her Bishop to attend to keep me company.  We were able to spend time together in the San Diego Temple Friday evening and at the Saturday night dance Jamie and I danced together all evening having more fun than I have had in a long time.  She was such a great dancer.

Jamie was athletically fit and loved to run.  She had recently been training with John Rankin who left for the summer Olympics but gave both Jamie and Kevin running shoes before leaving for the London 2012 Olympics and was looking forward to helping Jamie train when he returned.  He had Jamie write why he should train her and respected her answers and agreed to work with her upon his return.

Jamie had Trigeminal Neuralgia and suffered with it for years thinking the pain was related to her teeth and after removing several molars realized it was a nerve condition. Julie Child from my 10th ward had suffered from the same condition and became close friends with Jamie and consulted with her frequently about the condition.  Jamie was able a few months ago to have a successful surgery by Dr John Alksne at UCSD who verbally told Jamie he was aware of a higher power in the operating room who guided his hand.  Jamie felt the angels around her during the operation.

The veil between Heaven and Earth was thin for Jamie and she was ever aware of the promptings of the Holy Ghost.  She had many miraculous experiences because of her choice to always put God first and live a life of obedience to her Heavenly Father’s commandments and covenants.

During the last few months things began changing for Jamie.  Her vision became double in one eye and there were episodes of not seeing at all out of her other eye and fainting.  She had been put on new medication and was not tolerating it well.

This past month she had a manic episode which resulted in her going to Grossmont Behavorial Health Hospital and then because of legal rights currently in place in California was released pre-maturely and sent home against her psychiatrist’s advice to the judge.

Kevin was in Nevada visiting family believing Jamie would be in the hospital for 2 weeks.  She was planning a visit to Arizona.  However, she was alone and got scared and called the police for help.  That call resulted in her death. She passed away Friday 13, 2012.

God’s tender mercy was to allow me to be on the phone with her and hear her last words and to allow her passing in such a way that there were recipients for Jamie’s heart, lungs, and liver as well as other parts of her body.  My prayer is that the recipients go on to achieve something wonderful for others with their extended and improved life and serve mankind as Jamie would have done if she was still alive.

Jamie 35Jamie is remembered for her childlike faith, loving nature, giving spirit and constant desire to serve.  Jamie set the bench mark on how to be of genuine service to her fellow man.           

I so love my little Monkey and am so thankful for my testimony of the plan of salvation and the knowledge I have that God lives, that Jesus is the Christ and that I will be with Jamie again someday.  I am thankful she and Kevin are sealed for Time and Eternity and will be together again.

When my mother passed away it was while listening to Andrea Bocelli singing the Lord’s Prayer with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir.  Ironically, Jamie’s brain herniated while listening to the same song allowing her to pass in time to give her life saving organs to others.  I will play it for you now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEplqV0scyo

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Julie Kendrick

Katharine - what a beautiful tribute story to your daughter.  May God Bless you and your entire family and enjoy the forever memories that you do have.

 

Julie Kendrick

July 18, 2012 11:39 AM
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Elyse Berman, PA, ABR, GRI, Realtor
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Realty Associates Florida Properties, Boca Raton, FL

Katherine,  I am so sorry for your loss.  I enjoyed reading your beautiful tribute to Jamie.

July 18, 2012 12:12 PM
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Katharine K. Whiting
CRS, Realtor, Tempe, Arizona, East Valley
Solutions Real Estate

Thank you, Julie and Elyse.  I appreciate your kind remarks. 

July 18, 2012 12:17 PM
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David Burch

What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

July 18, 2012 02:01 PM
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Rick Park

Katherine -

What a beautiful tribute you created for your wonderful daughter.  My heart goes out to you for your great loss but I also believe you will be able to enjoy her company again.  You are a wonderful and strong person and I appreciate your friendship.

Rick Park

July 18, 2012 02:23 PM
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Kerrie La Guardia
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I've been thinking about you a ton Katharine and thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to Monkey.  I am so very sorry for your loss and wish your heart a little ease though I know that's probably not the case.  Much love Katharine.

July 18, 2012 02:29 PM
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MELISSA ROWLAND

  Katharine. it was so beautiful to read what you wrote about your daughter. As some of you that may not know I met Jamie when I was 8 yrs old. She lived on Sesame street and my cousin Brian also did to. I would spend the summer days over at his house while my Mom was at work. We would all play outside for hours at a time or go swimming. I remember one time we were all playing tag and I got tired and out of breath from running. Jamie, knew I was born with a heart condition and she sat with me while I rested. We started laughing about something silly and from that moment on I knew what a wondeful person she was. We had childhood nick names and she never called me Melissa. She called me Miha and we called her Daboo. I have been friends with her for 28 years and talked to her daily. She has helped me such much in my life and was there when I needed a friend. I was told 2 yrs ago I would need a heart/liver transplant and had to go to Pittsburgh for testing. She would call me everyday while I was there to let me know she was there for me.I cant express how much I love her and what amazing person she is. I would get really upset inside if someone would make her mad. I guess that is what friends do for each other. My heart breaks for her every minute of every day. I love her more then anything in this world. I know she is with God and at peace.

I LOVE YOU DABOO

July 18, 2012 03:15 PM
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Stephanie Power Bono
That is amazing!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I remember jumping the city bus and riding it down to her horse. We would ride and flirt with the cowboys all day. This is so tragic, Jamie was such a sweet, loving friend. I will always remember the fun times we had so many years ago!!
July 18, 2012 11:04 PM
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Katharine K. Whiting
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Thank you David, Rick, Kerrie, Melissa and Stephanie for taking the time to share your thoughts and comments.  I love the positive input and reading the wonderful memories and how she touched your lives briefly or for a lifetime..

July 19, 2012 07:42 AM
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Robin Farnsworth

I remember Jamie when she was younger. I like Kathy have two daughters the same age. 

Jamie and her sister  Kari came over one weekend to play with my girls.  It was a lot of fun because we spent all Saturday at the state fair.  On Sunday, I made a roast and was thrown into fear as Jamie was choking on a piece of the roast.  I remember I scooped it out of her mouth and she was fine, but I will never foget that incident as long as I live. She was so brave and started to laugh afterwards. 

Kathy you were and still are an awsome mom.  I remember your whole life and dedication was directed in rearing them in the gospel and being by their side through thick and thin.

I love you my friend and my thoughts are with you.

Robin Farnsworth

July 19, 2012 02:20 PM
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Katharine K. Whiting
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Solutions Real Estate

Thank you for sharing a story Robin.  I remember you telling me how scary it was for a few minutes.  I remember Jamie not eating steak for a long time after but it was an event she remembered and laughed about later.  I love how you were there for me 30 years ago and are still there for me now.  I love you too my friend and am so thankful you are still part of my life.

 

July 19, 2012 05:51 PM
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Arlene Stalzer

Katharine,  This is a wonderful tribute.  Your love for this sweet daughter shows so clearly.  My heart breaks for so much lost. 

July 20, 2012 10:31 PM
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Carl Moller

What a beautiful Tribute Kath. Such an untimely loss of such a beautiful soul.

During family visits as a young teenager I remember Jamie as a smiling ball of fun and energy, ready to play at a moments notice. We lost touch over the years but I heard many stories and was kept up to date by my Mother and Aunt Kathy and occasionally Jamie herself. It was deeply saddening to hear about her diagnosis and the immense challenges she was facing. Several years ago she reached out to me for support and a deeper connection, as cousins and I was happy to oblige. During our phone conversations over the years I really got to know Jamie and learn what a tender loving person she was. I will allways be impressed and have so much respect for the strength, resilience and courage it took to accomplish what she did, continually facing her challenges and fighting for herself and for some peace .... through so much adversity. I hate for her to have had to leave us so soon but she will finally be at peace that she so greatly deserves.

With Love

 

 

July 21, 2012 10:16 AM
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Tarina Wood
Ive known Jamie's family since my birth. We grew up on Sesame St together, over 35 years ago. Jamie and I have shared our whole life together and there are millions of memories. We attended one another's birthdays each year as children. Kari and Jamie's birthdays were always the best because of Katharine's fluffy marshmallow frosting. I loved it! We spent the summers swimming. When Katharine went on long trips Kari and Jamie stayed with us. Over the summers we went to double feature movies and McClintock pool. My dad would always take us to thriftys for Ice creams. Jamie and I were in girl scouts together and one year we played soccer together. Jamie was pretty good at soccer, but I was no good. We were in orchestra together in elementary school but I never gained the skill of sight reading music and Jamie continued on to be a wonderful violinist. I remember how lucky Jamie was because her mom put her in modeling and acting classes. I remember attending one of her summer child's play programs and was very impressed. Because you see Jamie was scared, even back then of things, and yet she was able to act and perform and play violin and soccer in front of people with such confidence. Yet giving a talk in primary she would be frightened out of her witts and Katharine would have to stand by her or give the talk for her. I remember going to her dads in ahwhatukee on weekends she spent with him in elementary school and in high school. Over one summer in high school I went on a San Diego beach trip with Kari and Jamie and we had a blast meeting boys, playing sand softball and playing on the beach. I attended holidays and special occasions with the family over the years. When Jamie moved into her condo, Jamie would call me through the nights because she would get scared and I would try comforting her, pick her up and bring her home with me or give her rides to Dales or Kari's. Jamie was always generous and sympathetic for bothering, but because I loved her I would always oblige. Jamie went through phases of playing pool, bowling, going to rack and q, Denny's and later, village inn. Jamie got her own car, but was too scared to drive. I would take her out driving around the neighborhoods and would challenge her to get on the main roads. A few times I forced her to get on the freeway. She did fine and was proud of herself. I remember hanging in the lakes with jamie in junior high and high school. One time in high school I woke up in the morning and jamie was laying in bed next to me. She had snuck into my house in the middle of the night and crawled into bed with me. Jamie and I were friends for life! Jamie called me treeny weenie or ween. It caught on and Katharine also started calling me that. I am so glad that Katharine and I were able to do several San Diego trips to visit Jamie. I also visited Jamie while passing through San Diego with friends. Once while returning from a cruise we met Jamie for breakfast at the village inn in el cajon. Jamie visited az twice and I was also able to see her during those trips. Jamie would call me when her mom was in the hospital after her wedding. She also called me both times her sister was in the hospital her car accidents.I was Jamie's eyes and ears during those times and she knew I would give it to her straight about how they were and she knew i could get into icu or wherever it was that they were. During high school jamie would ditch classes at marcos or be scared of a group of people who were after her, she would come with me to my seminary class. I always stuck up for jamie, even though we often had different groups of friends. We always remained good friends almost a sister like friendship! I used to tell Jamie how special she was. Even during her inactive years, Jamie would have such strong communications and spirituality. I truly felt jamie was gifted with a thinner veil that was closed for most of us as we grew up. Because jamie never lost her childlike features, she was blessed with the thinner veil throughout her life. She didn't always underatand church principles and i often would give her mini lessons. In our early 20's, she was afraid to go to the singles ward. She would force me to go with her even though i was married. love that girl for all of her good qualities and all of her faults! That was what made Jamie who she is. Jamie and I remained friends for 35 yrs here on earth and I hope she will greet me, along with my dad, when it's my turn to graduate from this life. I know that Jamie's sweet innocent soul made it to celestial glory and she will be waiting for her husband who she loved dearly and for the rest of us. I am so glad Jamie is free of her pain and challenges she faced here, but definitely feel we were cheated of having her with us longer. I was really looking forward to her moving back to az and being nearby. And we were so close to getting her back in az with us. I am also thankful we were able to meet her ward family and neighbors who cared for and loved our Jamie while she was in el cajon. Miss you j-dog, till we meet again!
July 22, 2012 09:06 PM
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Katharine K. Whiting
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Solutions Real Estate

Carl & Tarina - Thank you so much for your touching comments.  You both were so important in Jamie's life and I so appreciate your being there for her to encourage her and help her to realize her strengths and how loved she was.  We were all so blest to have her in our lives.  Every time I picture hr in my mind I smile....I miss her so...I loved her so....

July 23, 2012 02:10 AM
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melissa johhnson

Hi katharine,

I'm so sorry for your loss I just heard the news a few hours ago. She was a great person that my family has known for years. 

July 23, 2012 08:02 PM
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Katharine K. Whiting
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Solutions Real Estate

I played The Lord's Prayer sung by Andrea Bocelli with The Mormon Tabernacle Choir at both my daughter's, Jamie Renee Boone Fitzgerald, Funeral 7/21/12 in El Cahon, California and her Memorial Service 7/28/12 in Tempe Arizona.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEplqV0scyo

July 29, 2012 07:07 PM
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