SOI for Advanced Practitioners - the Favorit-est Tips!

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As we often do, after last week's "SOI for Advanced Practitioners" show I collected feedback from the audience as to their SOI"Favorit-est Tip(s)" from the show. Below are the results.

If you'd like to read more about what the show was about, you can do that here, but in a nut, we discussed various approaches to inspiring the people you know and the people you meet (your "sphere of influence" or SOI) to think of you as someone they'd trust with their business and referrals. And no, doing that has nothing at all to do with bombarding them with bi-monthly postcards or incessantly reminding them of your affection for referrals. No, it's much simpler than that; in fact, THAT was one of the underlying themes of the show - that there really isn't any such thing as "Advanced" SOI! The simpler and more authentic... the more effective your SOI efforts will be. The more complicated or sophisticated they are... the less effective they will be.

If you'd like to listen to the show in its entirety, you can do that by becoming a member of Club SWS (www.clubsws.info) or you can purchase a recording of the show in the SWS Bookstore.

So... here are the Favorit-est Tips!

Favorit-est Tip #1: Avoid the "Predator" Approach (thank you Deb Stephenson!)
When you go out into the world hoping to inspire the people there to think of you as someone they'd trust with their business or referrals, avoid the "predator" approach - that is - if what you're doing makes you feel like a mountain lion crouched on the desk ready to spring on his prey, DON'T DO IT. When you're talking to someone about life, love or your business, always check your intent... if your goal is to pitch your stuff... it will come across exactly as that... an annoying pitch that the person on the receiving end will want to flee from... and avoid in the future. Yes, you can talk about your career, but do so authentically, not with the goal of subtly marketing yourself. No such thing...

Favorit-est Tip #2: Reward ALL referrals immediately (not at the closing, again, thanks Deb Stephenson!)
If someone sends you a referral, whether it's a great one or a crappy one, reward the BEHAVIOR right away, don't base your "reward" on whether or not the referral goes to closing. You want to thank people for thinking of you when the subject of real estate comes up, not just when you make money. TIP: if you're going to send a thank-you gift for a referral, send it to the referrer's place of work, not their home! As they're sharing the brownies or cookies or smelling the flowers you sent, they'll obviously mention you and your wonderfulness... and that's a very good thing.

Favorit-est Tip #3: Get out and have fun with people who enjoy the same things you do (instead of trying to market to them!)
A lot of real estate agents want to "brand" themselves with their hobby or passion - for example, maybe they love horses so they want to brand themselves as the "Horse Realtor." Or they love to hike, so they market themselves as the "Hiking Realtor." A much more effective approach is to go out and DO that thing you love to do WITH other people who love to do it too... create a community of friends and acquaintances with whom you have a natural rapport and at some point when they find out what you do for a living, they'll be happy to support your business because they know you, like you and trust you, not because you came up with a catchy tagline!

Favorit-est Tip #4: Don't market to your SOI
A common myth in traditional SOI teachings is that because your friends like you and care about you, they'll be more receptive to your self-promotion, but that's just not true. First, most people in your SOI are not your bestest buddies, and they don't really care on a day-to-day basis what you're up to, and second, no one really likes to be "marketed to" whether by friend or stranger. But at least when strangers do it, we can ignore them, however, when a friend or acquaintance markets to us, we feel we have to listen, to be polite, even though we're annoyed. Related to Favorit-est Tip #1, you really can't "subtly" market to anyone without their realizing they're being marketed to.

Are we saying that you shouldn't let your friends and acquaintances know you're in the real estate business? Of course not, but when creating your SOI business plan, leave the word "marketing" out of it and focus on doing things that: "Inspire the people you know and the people you meet to trust you with their real estate business and referrals."

Other Favorit-est Tips

  • When going out for lunch or coffee, let the other person pick up the check (if they offer) which creates an opportunity for you to reciprocate.
  • Always ask a new acquaintance what they do for a living, which will inspire them to return the favor, thus creating the opportunity for you to...
  • When asked what you do, say: "I'm a real estate agent!" as if it's the coolest job in the whole world. No other cleverly-crafted "elevator speech" comes close to authentic enthusiasm.
  • Categorize your SOI (in your contact management system) into Group 1 (social network) and Group 2 (everyone else). Keep it simple!

To see what's on tap at the SWS Virtual Studio in August, just go here: www.SellwithSoul.com/about/calendar. All shows are free to attend live!

 

 

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Jeremy Joslin
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I really like these tips especially the reward immediately and not after closing tip.  Great Stuff!

Jul 23, 2012 05:22 AM #1
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Christina Ehli
Keller Williams Realty - Brighton, Michigan - Brighton, MI
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"coolest job in the world . . . ".  I would hope so otherwise why do it?  Yes, we need to be passionate and enthusiastic about real estate. Thanks for sharing, Jennifer!

Jul 23, 2012 05:29 AM #2
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People that refer me often get thanked twice- at the time of the referral and the time of the closing.

Jul 23, 2012 05:52 AM #3
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Mike Mitchell
Real Living Kee Realty - Saint Clair Shores, MI
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These are excellent tips Jen! I must admit I have to work on tip #2 and getting those thank you's out immediately and not after closing. I also like your tip of asking new acquaintances what they do for a living first. That's a great idea!

Thanks again.

Jul 23, 2012 07:02 AM #4
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Deb Stephenson

Thank you Jennifer for putting this together in a clear short list for us. The show was fun and I hope educational for all that attended!

Let's do it again soon,

Deb Stephenson

 

 

Jul 23, 2012 07:06 AM #5
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Susan Haughton
Long & Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Cheerfully Helping You Buy or Sell in Alexandria

I also need to work on the immediate reward for a referral...I am effusive with thanks, but need to do a little more than that.  Great reminders of how to successfully run an SOI based business. 

Jul 23, 2012 07:37 AM #6
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Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
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Susan - Personally, I don't have a problem with an effusive Thank You for referrals - I don't think people expect a gift, but IF you do gift, do it at the time of the referral (AND at the time of the closing if you like!)

Deb - you were AWESOME!!!!! (of course)

Glad you enjoyed the tips, Mike!

Christina - that's the best elevator speech I know of... sincere and authentic enthusiasm for what you do ;-]

Jeremy - well, thank you!

Jul 23, 2012 07:47 AM #7
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David Grbich
Ventana Coastal Properties - www.FindCARealEstate.com - San Juan Capistrano, CA
Orange County Real Estate - 949-500-0484

Great tips - I have been rewarding referrals at close so need to change my ways! Regards Dave

Jul 23, 2012 08:04 AM #8
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Loreena Yeo
3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Frisco TX Real Estate Co. - Frisco, TX
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It's nice to do real estate with no pressure (both to you and your clients). And what I realized is while doing that, business actually got even better.
Jul 23, 2012 09:06 AM #9
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Sharon Alters
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty - Fleming Island, FL
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Jennifer, missed this webinar due to being so busy - so especially enjoy gleaning these favorite tips. Thanks for sharing! Sharon
Jul 23, 2012 03:48 PM #10
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Jon K. Judd
Keller Williams Realty - Central Delaware - Dover, DE
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I have a couple of your books.  Acually have read them... :)

I think after reading this post, I need to pull them out and read them again.

Jul 27, 2012 05:15 AM #11
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Jennifer Allan-Hagedorn
Sell with Soul - Pensacola Beach, FL
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John - LOL - thanks for correcting the "pos" to "post"!

Jul 27, 2012 05:27 AM #12
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Paul Francis
Prudential Americana Group - REALTORS - Las Vegas, NV
Las Vegas Real Estate - Summerlin Homes - 702.592.

Great tips...

For people who don't follow the advice in Tip #1, they always remind me of Ned the insurance guy from "Groundhog Day" where you just want to punch them in the face.. lol...

 

 

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