Pressure Points...

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Real Estate Agent with The Durango Home Team at Keller Williams Southwest Associates IA 100045079

It has long been said that stress is not good for us.  (and who in our business hasn't been stressed?)   It is hard on hearts and raises blood pressure.

 

We are frequently admonished to stop worry and to cut back on stressful activities.

 

Right!  Of course that is good advise.

 

The question is who puts us under stress?   What causes it?

 

Watching a do it yourself program on television a while ago,  I observed the host putting himself , the owners of the yard they were working on, and all  the crew under pressure.

 

They took on a project that was extensive.  The pressure point was the self imposed time limit of three days to complete the work.

 

No one made that rule for them.  They made it themselves.  They then proceeded to make themselves crazy  trying to get things done in an unreasonable amount of time.  I had an ah-ha moment!

 

One of the greatest ladies I ever knew once told me"you do not get extra hours in your day just because you have over extended yourself."  I see now how right she was.

 

Stress happens when we fail to accept realities.  Committing to do more than is reasonable is a guarantee of either failure, or pressure.  Over extending the hours we work invites stress.

 

When you accomplish big things it feels good.  Bear in mind though that the ultimate results of pushing too hard hurts your body and takes a toll on your health.  

 

You can still accomplish big things.  Know your limits and refuse to go beyond them.  Use your resources including your time wisely.  Avoid pressure points.  

 

If you look at the situations realistically you will find that in most cases, YOU are the one causing your stress.  Be good to yourself and stop it today!  It may well extend your tomorrows. 

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Ralph and Jeanne Janisch

Keller Williams Realty Southwest Associates

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Durango, CO 81301

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Durango, Mancos, Bayfield, Ignacio, Vallecito

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Rainmaker
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Paula McDonald
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Stress can really do a number on you. Learning to de-stress is so essential. I run to keep my stresss level down.
Aug 18, 2012 08:15 PM #6
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Sharon Alters
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I agree with Winston - that is one quote I think I will remember for a long time. The problem is taking the time to plan the day and then having the boundaries to say NO when it's too much. Easy to say, not so easy to do.

Sharon

Aug 18, 2012 08:22 PM #7
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Joni Staples
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Managing stress is key for all professions. Some are just more stressful than others. GREAT post!

Aug 18, 2012 09:06 PM #8
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Gail Robinson
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I do make it a point never to cram too much into one day.  Even so, we are in a business where we sometimes do not have much control over the demands on us.  Sometimes all our clients need things at the same time and we have deadlines that we have no control over such as inspection contingencies, mortgage contingencies, closings, short sale deadlines, etc.  If these deadlines are spaced out over time, that is fine, but sometimes they all convergence.  That lack of control over the deadlines imposed from outside causes the most stress for me.

Aug 18, 2012 09:09 PM #9
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Michael Blue
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For the record, I've stopped drinking coffee.  I also stopped seeing a girlfriend a few months back because it was stressful.

Aug 18, 2012 10:02 PM #10
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Lloyd Binen
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I think we feel stress or pressure when expectations are not met.  Establishing realistic expectations, not over-promising and communicating problems promptly all help reduce stress.  So does good wine.  

Aug 18, 2012 10:06 PM #11
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Laura Murray
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One of the things about stress is that you can control it based on your response.  I once heard a great quote, if money can solve the issue, then it is not a problem but an expense.

Aug 18, 2012 10:42 PM #12
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LOL I'll second Lloyd's comment # 11.   Good wine is a great stress reducer.

Aug 19, 2012 12:03 AM #13
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Joe Petrowsky
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I work very well under pressure, actually it seems like the more chaos that goes on around me, the calmer I get. That is probably why my blood pressure is 112 over 68.

Each of us have to make different choices when is comes to stress. Great post.

Aug 19, 2012 03:41 AM #14
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You guys are so right.  Sometimes, we do this to ourselves and the simple idea of being realistic with time frames can go a long way.  Thank you for the tip. 

Aug 19, 2012 04:21 AM #15
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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
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There does seem to be an over-abundance of stress out there.  It's not just among real estate professionals, it's almost universal.  I wrote a little about this topic myself yesterday.  You make really good points in this piece.  There are ways to alleviate some of it!

Aug 19, 2012 04:21 AM #16
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Jackie Connelly-Fornuff
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I have learned to spread my time out. Especially when we work with buyers going from house to house, etc. Scheduling my time during the day and sticking to it keeps the pressure and stress off. I go for a bike ride every night to rellieve all the stress and sleep very well every night because of it.

Aug 19, 2012 04:26 AM #17
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Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl
Hallmark Realtors - Clark, NJ
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Great post Jeanne and Ralph - sometimes the people that ate the cruelest to us are ourselves.

Aug 19, 2012 04:54 AM #18
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Ron Marshall
Marshall Enterprises - Saint Michael, MN
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Very wise words, Ralph and Jeanne.  I have been known to overextend myself, and the outcome is predictable.  I end up with aches and pains or worse!

Aug 19, 2012 07:13 AM #19
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Brian Kuhns
Coldwell Banker Roth Wehrly Graber - Fort Wayne, IN
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Great points. While it's important to set goals, we have to be realistic in what we can achieve within the time frame we have to work with. I always hated those home improvement shows where they put artificial deadlinies on every project

Aug 19, 2012 07:20 AM #20
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Alice Broadway
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Jeanne/Ralph, great information, You two must be stress free, because yall look awesome!

Aug 19, 2012 07:28 AM #21
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Gene Mundt
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Jeanne and Ralph:  Such wise words!  And so very hard for us to follow ... especially in our current housing industry and the many problems it is facing.  I'm thinking printing up your post and putting it on the wall above my desk sounds like a very wise thing to do also ...  a great reminder always staring me in the face!

Gene

Aug 19, 2012 07:48 AM #22
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Charlie Dresen
Steamboat Sotheby's International Realty - Steamboat Springs, CO
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Ahhhhh!  This is one of the best posts I've read in a long time.  Everything you say is absolutely true.  Thanks for the reminder and the reality check.

Aug 19, 2012 08:27 AM #23
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David Burrows
Classic Realty - Fairfax, VA
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I agree, there are many things we can do to lessen stress. Great post today. Thanks for sharing.

Aug 19, 2012 11:26 AM #24
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Mark Montross
Catamount Realty Group - Burlington, VT
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This is an excellent post. You are right. Most stress is probably self induced.

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