And I Shaved My Legs For This?

Managing Real Estate Broker with Managing Broker-IL; Pre-License Instructor-IL; Broker-TX

Blind DateLong ago, my girlfriends and I would often call one another to fret about the trials and tribulations of dating and courtship. Filled with hope and anticipation, we looked forward to celebrating the thrill and excitement of any new, blossoming relationships on the horizon.  Unfortunately, we usually ended up commiserating over failed love connections that somehow fizzled from the start.  Yet, despite  our disillusionment, we always managed to share a good laugh when someone uttered the words:  "And I shaved my legs for this?"  Because, in the end, we knew we would confidently pick ourselves up and try all over again.  Interestingly, the challenges and perils of dating and business prospecting are not that much different from one another.

Please ... no more dead-end, go-nowhere, potential business prospects.  Obviously, networking, prospecting, and other lead-generating techniques are necessary prerequisites for any viable, successful, business-building plan.  However, like dating, the pitfalls of developing and nurturing potential business relationships could involve excessive time expenditures and ultimately frustration and exasperation.  You will meet with people who insist on connecting with you, scheduling an appointment with you, and then proceed to cancel on you.  Three times.  You will meet well-meaning people urging you to call their 'friend' who is in need of your services.  When you call their 'friend,' perhaps the 'friend' will have absolutely no idea why you would be calling.  At first glance, most of these "dreamy" potential business contacts seem so promising and appealing.  What's going on?  Misleading mixed signals?  Change of heart?  They found someone better?

In the dating world, we've all heard the saying:  "Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince."  I suppose the business world translation to this phrase would be:  "Sometimes you have to hear "No" numerous times before you hear "Yes."  Disappointment is part of life.  Rejection is part of life.  Failure is part of life.  We all know it is imperative to never give up.  Plus, at the onset, we should approach each prospective opportunity as if it was truly the one we've been waiting for all of our lives.  Recently, I heard another wonderful quote:  "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."  Very profound and makes total sense.  It's just that sometimes in life we all start to feel a little weary from having to kiss so many toads.

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Carie Shapiro
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Hi ActiveRain Friends!

I'm usually very good about responding to comments written on my posts.  Yesterday, however, I was at an all day seminar/networking event learning new skills, shaking hands, and meeting extraordinary people.  No computer or wifi access.  <Gasp!>  So, I just wanted to say "Thank You" -- and even though I'm unable to reply individually, please know how much I appreciate each and every thoughtful comment.  And, as they say:  "Keep On Keepin' On" :)

September 14, 2012 08:59 AM
Bill & Cyndi Daves
TeamDAVES - Your REALTORS In the GA/NC Mountains!
Hiawassee, Young Harris, Hayesville, Murphy, Blairsville

Carie - Congrats on another great feature!  I definitely agree with you too.  Fortunately for me, I've found my prince (of course I still shave my legs so I can KEEP him)!  It is overwhelming sometimes the number of leads you have to weed through in order to get to one that is going to be worth your time.  But, you have to do it!


September 15, 2012 10:43 AM
John McCormack
Albuquerque Homes Realty *
Carie dropping back by to wish you a great day and thank you for your support in the Rain.
September 18, 2012 11:23 AM
Janis Borgueta
LIC R.E Salesperson - Homes for Sale Newburgh NY
Key Properties of the Hudson Valley ~ 845-527-7115

Carie ~ I guess i missed this when I was away... LOVE the title.. and I can definitely relate to that.. LOL and as far as the toads... well.. I think they get a bad deal sometimes.. they too have to kiss a lot of unwarranted advances.. I enjoyed the post.. and well.. that goes without saying.. you have the gift of the written word

September 27, 2012 08:39 AM
Bob Crane
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9663
Woodland Management Service

Priceless post Carie, it starts with a great title, keeps us laughing and very glad to be done with dating, and ends with a great quote, "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."

Have a great weekend!!!

September 28, 2012 01:50 PM

Carie Shapiro

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