And I Shaved My Legs For This?

Managing Real Estate Broker with Managing Broker-IL; Pre-License Instructor-IL; Broker-TX

Blind DateLong ago, my girlfriends and I would often call one another to fret about the trials and tribulations of dating and courtship. Filled with hope and anticipation, we looked forward to celebrating the thrill and excitement of any new, blossoming relationships on the horizon.  Unfortunately, we usually ended up commiserating over failed love connections that somehow fizzled from the start.  Yet, despite  our disillusionment, we always managed to share a good laugh when someone uttered the words:  "And I shaved my legs for this?"  Because, in the end, we knew we would confidently pick ourselves up and try all over again.  Interestingly, the challenges and perils of dating and business prospecting are not that much different from one another.

Please ... no more dead-end, go-nowhere, potential business prospects.  Obviously, networking, prospecting, and other lead-generating techniques are necessary prerequisites for any viable, successful, business-building plan.  However, like dating, the pitfalls of developing and nurturing potential business relationships could involve excessive time expenditures and ultimately frustration and exasperation.  You will meet with people who insist on connecting with you, scheduling an appointment with you, and then proceed to cancel on you.  Three times.  You will meet well-meaning people urging you to call their 'friend' who is in need of your services.  When you call their 'friend,' perhaps the 'friend' will have absolutely no idea why you would be calling.  At first glance, most of these "dreamy" potential business contacts seem so promising and appealing.  What's going on?  Misleading mixed signals?  Change of heart?  They found someone better?

In the dating world, we've all heard the saying:  "Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince."  I suppose the business world translation to this phrase would be:  "Sometimes you have to hear "No" numerous times before you hear "Yes."  Disappointment is part of life.  Rejection is part of life.  Failure is part of life.  We all know it is imperative to never give up.  Plus, at the onset, we should approach each prospective opportunity as if it was truly the one we've been waiting for all of our lives.  Recently, I heard another wonderful quote:  "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."  Very profound and makes total sense.  It's just that sometimes in life we all start to feel a little weary from having to kiss so many toads.

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Michael Clarkson
Snow Coast Real Estate

I feel somewhat differently...

I am concerned: JUST how hairy are your girlfriends' and your legs that you shave them so much? 

On a serious note, I take the tack: I am available and responsive. But if YOU (the client) ARE NOT, then I move on. 

Just like dating...I won't waste my time.  It's the one thing you can never get back.


PS. I do shave MY legs and they are SPECTACULAR!!!!


September 13, 2012 10:34 AM
Ivette Rodriguez Anderson
Keller Williams Success Realty

That one caught me off guard.  You're right on target though - that's a beautiful analogy - re-learning this one on a regular basis.  THANK YOU for the reminder - you missed all the balls you don't swing at! 

September 13, 2012 10:52 AM
Bill Gillhespy
Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos
16 Sunview Blvd

Hi Carie,  You terrific title got me !  Great analogy and a life lesson learned !

September 13, 2012 11:22 AM
Gay E. Rosen
Honest, Hardworking and always Professional!
Houlihan Lawrence

Carie - so very very true... a great analogy - I too shave my legs each day... we never know who we will meet!

September 13, 2012 12:23 PM
Joy Daniels
Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd.

What a fun comparison - I love the analogy.  :)  Thanks for sharing. 

September 13, 2012 12:32 PM
Debbe Perry
828.439.3084 Morganton/Lake James NC
Real Living Carolina Property

Yup, shaving my legs and kissing toads are two of my un-favorite things to do. This does remind me of a quote that I think is attributed to Mark Twain: "Eat a love toad in the morning, and it will be probably be the worst thing you have to do all day" - or something to that effect. I use this quote to get the yucky stuff done first-thing, but some days it's all yucky stuff!

September 13, 2012 12:59 PM
Kevin Mackessy
Dedicated. Qualified. Local.
Blue Olive Properties, LLC

That was a witty title and analogy.  Congratulations on your feature post.

September 13, 2012 02:10 PM
Carla Muss-Jacobs, Principal Broker/Owner
Buyer Focused ~ Buyer Results | (503) 810-7192 Portland Metro Exclusive Buyers Agent | 100% Buyer Representation ~ 100% of the Time

You know you've been in this business long enough when you actually don't shave your legs for this!  HA HA HA.  Cute post and analogy.

September 13, 2012 02:27 PM
Evelyn Kennedy
Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA
Gallagher & Lindsey, Alameda, California


I like your title, it sure got my attention. Unfortunately, in our job we do have kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince.  We hear more "nos" than "yeses."

September 13, 2012 02:35 PM
Jennifer Chiongbian
Real Estate Broker - NYC
Specializing in all types of Manhattan apts & townhouses

LOL!  I always say real estate is a numbers game very much like dating.  Great humor on the post!

September 13, 2012 03:55 PM
Jay Markanich
Home Inspector - servicing all Northern Virginia
Jay Markanich Real Estate Inspections, LLC

I haven't shaved my legs since college.  I played three sports and for soccer and basketball I needed my ankles wrapped.  That went much easier with shaved legs!

September 13, 2012 05:59 PM
Donna Foerster
Metro Denver Real Estate Agent
Cherry Creek Properties, LLC

Carie~ There are a LOT of similarities between real estate and dating.  You have to have an abundance of patience for both.

September 13, 2012 06:28 PM
Sharon Alters
Your Fleming Island Relocation Agents.
Coldwell Banker Vanguard Realty

Carie, you had me at the title - I didn't care what the rest of it was about! :) So so true in life and business!


September 13, 2012 07:10 PM
Brenda Mullen
Your San Antonio TX Real Estate Agent!!
RE/MAX Access

I LOVE that quote, a winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time!  Awesome..but I feel ya.  Sometimes it can be a bit tiresome.  Many times I am convinced that those of us in Real Estate are a glutton for punishment because we get up every day and many times get smacked around by those who think we and what we do are disposable.  

It's all made better though when we find the "one" that makes our jobs thoroughly worth it :)!  

September 13, 2012 07:12 PM
Nancy Laswick
Your Phoenix/Scottsdale REALTOR®

Sometimes I feel like I'm the girl who gets a pile of horse manure on her birthday and with a smile on her face jumps in and starts digging around... when she's asked why she is so excited her response is... "with all this manure there must be a pony in their somewhere".

September 14, 2012 01:34 AM
Carie Shapiro
Managing Broker-IL; Pre-License Instructor-IL; Broker-TX

Hi ActiveRain Friends!

I'm usually very good about responding to comments written on my posts.  Yesterday, however, I was at an all day seminar/networking event learning new skills, shaking hands, and meeting extraordinary people.  No computer or wifi access.  <Gasp!>  So, I just wanted to say "Thank You" -- and even though I'm unable to reply individually, please know how much I appreciate each and every thoughtful comment.  And, as they say:  "Keep On Keepin' On" :)

September 14, 2012 08:59 AM
Bill & Cyndi Daves
TeamDAVES - Your REALTORS In the GA/NC Mountains!
Hiawassee, Young Harris, Blairsville, Hayesville, Murphy and Beyond!

Carie - Congrats on another great feature!  I definitely agree with you too.  Fortunately for me, I've found my prince (of course I still shave my legs so I can KEEP him)!  It is overwhelming sometimes the number of leads you have to weed through in order to get to one that is going to be worth your time.  But, you have to do it!


September 15, 2012 10:43 AM
John McCormack
Albuquerque Homes Realty *
Carie dropping back by to wish you a great day and thank you for your support in the Rain.
September 18, 2012 11:23 AM
Janis Borgueta
LIC R.E Salesperson - Homes for Sale Newburgh NY
Key Properties of the Hudson Valley ~ 845-527-7115

Carie ~ I guess i missed this when I was away... LOVE the title.. and I can definitely relate to that.. LOL and as far as the toads... well.. I think they get a bad deal sometimes.. they too have to kiss a lot of unwarranted advances.. I enjoyed the post.. and well.. that goes without saying.. you have the gift of the written word

September 27, 2012 08:39 AM
Bob Crane
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9663
Woodland Management Service

Priceless post Carie, it starts with a great title, keeps us laughing and very glad to be done with dating, and ends with a great quote, "A winner is a loser who decided to get up and try one more time."

Have a great weekend!!!

September 28, 2012 01:50 PM
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