Sowing Seeds with Negative Reads

Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Liberty Homes RS-#62825

habaneroThe main reason we are online is for our businesses. We communicate and connect through this network and we have respect for one another that surpasses the written word. If we all live by a daily moral code of healthy beliefs then we have no problem with taking it to the online level.

On our ActiveRain Real Estate Network, they gave us this ability to create a conversation by commenting about the article we are reading. More often than we would like we see many negative responses and retorts..... but it up to each individual as to how they handle it.

In light of those certain negative reads, we go forward with our blogging for business and bonding with our peers. We ignore those that tend to use this platform as their puffing up session by pointing at others but most tend to know that:

  • FACE TO FACE:  We ‘communicate’ the same online as we offline. WE show respect for others in the industry when talking with them face to face, so the same should apply online. RESPECT.
  • ONLINE CONFLICT SOLUTION: We pick up the phone and discuss the starting of an online argument. Others choose to write about it online, but it just shows that you just want people to side with you by trying to make it our arguement.  PICK UP THE PHONE.
  • PLAYING NICE IN THE SANDBOX.  If you write negatively about a topic or person, expect the same in your comment section. Deleting opposing comments and then disabling comments does not make you right. DISH OUT ONLY WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE BACK.
  • YOUR WAY OR THE HIGHWAY.   It shows that you are not willing to see any opposing views or have a ‘conversation' with another. Step in another’s shoes and try to see their side.  OPEN MIND.
  • HAVING THE LAST SAY. It creates animosity and shows the rest of us that that individual clearly does not want the other person to be right. AGREE TO DISAGREE if all else fails.


Be a participant in our REAL estate community instead of kicking up dust.


Agree to disagree.


Sowing Seeds for Positive Reads.



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Celeste "Sally" Cheeseman  is a Realtor-Associate® and Certified Residential Specialist (CRS) with Century 21 Liberty Homes in Mililani, Hawaii. With a sharp understanding that a listening ear is the key to a client's needs  she serves the island of Oahu (Honolulu County) and all Hawaii Military Relocations, Hawaii Retirees, Hawaii Job Transfers and Hawaii Residents, Home Buyers and Sellers.


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Nan Jester
Realtor, Exit Real Estate Gallery
Exit Real Estate Gallery Jacksonville Beach, FL

Communicate instead of argue. I don't really know anyone with opposing views who will listen unless respectful conversation is used.

October 24, 2012 01:23 PM
DeeDee Riley
Realtor - El Dorado Hills & the Surrounding Areas
Lyon Real Estate - El Dorado Hills CA
Well said, Sally with great reminders. I don't often see negative comments thank goodness!
October 27, 2012 05:35 PM
Brad Baylor
ERA Coup Agency

Sally - I especially like your last point... agree to disagree.  Why keep something going when it's obvious neither party is going to change their mind?  Thanks for the great post!

October 29, 2012 07:17 AM
Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi
Palm Harbor Florida Residential Real Estate
Charles Rutenberg Realty

You certainly make a great point, Sally. 

On the other hand, my post about a horrible experience at a certain hair teaching school and the recommendation to go to another place that saved the day for me caused a local lady to contact me for the name and phone number of the person who saved the day. So while one place, that really did a job on my hair, lost a customer, another gained not only me as a new client but also somebody else. I do believe in getting the word out when a company is not professional and responsible.


November 02, 2012 04:31 AM
Wayne B. Pruner
Tigard Oregon Homes for Sale, Realtor, GRI
Oregon First

Back in the early AR days there were some real knock down battles. People would say all kinds of crap. I think I have had 2 disrespectful comments. I just delete them. I won't give Trolls the attention.

December 04, 2012 08:51 PM

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RA, CRS, Hawaii Mililani Oahu Real Estate
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