Blogging Lessons from American Idol.

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lola Audu~Audu Real Estate~Grand Rapids, MI Real Estate

I just finished watching the New Season opening for American Idol with my kids.  (We taped it)  Minniapolis was the setting for picturefuture idol hopefuls to preen their skills before the judges.  As a converted Idol fan, courtesy of my teenagers, we were all in stitches with some of the contestants desperate antics and obvious delusion about their skill set and blatant lack of talent.

A comment that was reiterated frequently  by the judges was, "you don't sound like yourself" .  There were also an amazing number of hopeful contestants in Minneapolis who seemed to loose their voices; one going so far as to appear to be listening to music from an imaginary earpiece while mouthing the words with barely any recognizable vocalization.

Another frequent mistep was contestants who forgot their lines. Some merely mumbled, others made up new words and some just walked off the stage.  All in all, the pretenders took center stage in this carnival of absurdity.  One appearing wrapped in a bizzare combination of  plastic;  a sorry copy cat version of presumably Uncle Sam in the American flag with a Rocky Balboa twist....the over-sized red boxing gloves. 

It occured to me that sometimes the stage mirrors the truth we obscure in life.  In my limited experience with Blogging, I can identify with some of the mistakes of the non-winners.  So many hopefuls, eager for recognition forgot who they were; some of them even forgot who they were trying to be.  Although everyone professed to want to be the next Amerian Idol, an original, the saddest auditions were those where you felt you were watching a "dreadful " (A Simon Cowell favorite) rendition of a hopeless impersonator. 

It's sadly easy to do this in writing as well, especially within the context of creating content for a Blog.  It's tempting to think that you can try to imitate someone's style , language or even topic.  The problem is that because it's not really something that comes from one's core or passion, it transalates with a thin, faltering lack of conviction and lacks the ability to connect.  It's hard to dig deeper and river of peacesometimes scary to be transparent, but that's the essence of successful communication or auditions.  It seems to me that every Blog entry is like an audition.  It's not about being perfect, it's about being real.

BLOG UPDATE:  This blog was originally posted on 1/18/2007.  When it was originally written, it got a few comments.  I was surprised this evening to see that it has been resurrected, and not entirely sure of the mechanism or the how. But I am also thankful that this is another opportunity to address a very real & relevant issue to all of us in the Blogging Community.  Lola Audu, 2/25/2007

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I loved th post.  I agree that oftentimes the worst thing we can do for ourselves is attempt to imitate the actions, writing, style etc. of others.  Often times others can tell when what we are doing is not really of oursleves and we end up worse off than if we had tried to stay true to ourselves.

Jan 18, 2007 10:17 PM #1
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Very true, and  a challenge to strive for authenticity at all times in every way.

 

Jan 18, 2007 10:46 PM #2
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Chris Griffith
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I absolutely agree.  Unfortunately, sometimes before a persons creative mind opens up, they start mimicing somone else. 
Jan 19, 2007 05:07 AM #3
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Sheron Cardin
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That is interesting. I wonder how long a phony can blog without feeling rejected? Real people connect with real people and those relationships will last. Thank you for this blog post. I am going to be on the watch out now.

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Jan 19, 2007 11:36 AM #4
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Thanks for visiting...

Chris, I wonder if we encouraged others to be themselves and affirmed them if there would be much less of a need to feel the urge to mimic...it's about acceptance isn't it?

Sheron, Phoniness is a symptom of another very real problem, the underlying fear of rejection.  What's interesting is that in the pretense, the rejection is never of the real person...since we never met them.  How scary is that??  And, on the reverse, what huge rewards do we miss because we're afraid to be real!

Lola Audu 

Jan 19, 2007 04:44 PM #5
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Chris Hendricks
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I couldn't agree more.  People occasionally laugh at the 'stream of consciousness' way my blog postings sound (and, actually, all of my writing-- ask my bride about love letters from the past!) but it's 'me' and that's as honest to my thought processes as I can be.  It may cause me some confused readers that occasionally have to re-read in order to 'get it' but at least its me instead of my 'ripoff' of someone else's style.  With that being said, you'll NEVER see me on American Idol.

Jan 19, 2007 06:36 PM #6
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Chris, Ditto to that last comment about American Idol!!!  Actually visited your blog & found the post about your "lost home town" made for some interesting reminiscing...Thanks for stopping by.

Lola Audu

Jan 20, 2007 12:19 PM #7
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Christopher & Bernadette Hurley
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Interesting post.

Although I do think people blog for more reasons than we can count a personal diary or feelings from the soul can be a good foundation for building the relationship.

Feb 25, 2007 02:29 PM #8
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Great reminder post.  Keep it real dawg!!  I never thought I would include that in my own reminder, thanks to your post. 

You can tell the really successful blogger/agents here at AR.  They are masters at keeping it real.  It's a fine line to use them as inspiration, not imitation.

Feb 25, 2007 02:32 PM #9
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Teresa Boardman
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Jeff Turner did a post that is similar to this one a month or so ago on the bloodhound blog.
Feb 25, 2007 03:10 PM #10
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Denise Brophy
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Have you seen Canadian Idol? We too ham it up for the judges, just as the contestants in US do.  The moral of the story is express yourself genuinely and you will connect.  Thanks for the reminder.
Feb 25, 2007 03:15 PM #11
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Berta Smith
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I would also like to add, like American Idol.  Others, like myself, look at blogs and wish they could have the talent to write as so many AR bloggers do.  As you read the blogs you learn how to write a great blog.  Sometimes you want to write what you feel and it just does not come out right.  Thanks to all that I am learning from.

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Feb 25, 2007 07:03 PM #12
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Hello, Christopher & Burnadette, Therese & Denise...

Thanks for visiting and reading this post.  (Refer to my Blog Update of 2/25/2007)...I'm not quite sure how this re-posting happened, but appreciate your comments.  Therese, I love Jeff Turner's work, so I'll have to visit the Bloodhound to see if I can look up his post and read his ideas on the subject.  Chris, I've never seen the Canadian Idol, but like you said, the moral lessons are universal!

Feb 25, 2007 07:07 PM #13
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Thanks for you comment Berta.  I am also continuing to learn and grow.  Keep at it, you will get better and also read as many blog posts as you can...including outside of Active Rain to understand the basic techniques...then trust who you are and the message you have been sent her to bring.  Only YOU can deliver it!
Feb 25, 2007 07:11 PM #14
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I love watching American Idol with my kids.  That is exactly what I want them to pick up.  The good ones seem like they really feel the song and it's their's.  The bad ones seem to be just going through the motions.  If you yourself don't feel the song and become passionately connected with it, everyone sees right through it. 

Feb 25, 2007 09:19 PM #15
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Suzanne Sands
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Lola,

I was thinking about this topic today and found this beautifully written post. I didn't want to call the person out, so I thought I could write a blog about it. But this one says it all! Thanks for covering this topic  

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When we're young, we need role models to emulate.  Eventually we need to come into our own persona.  I remember that when Johnny Cash first came on the scene, he was hailed by critics as "the new Elvis".  Johnny Cash soon carved out his own compelling personality and style... that's why we remember him.
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