The Unbelievable Power of "You Get by Giving" - A True Story

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I want to tell you a story ... no, actually it's not a STORY, because it's true. Borderline unbelievable, but true all the same. (Sorry, no graphics, no photos, no cutesie stuff. But GOOD stuff, all the same.)

I have a friend, a mentor, a trainer, a coach. He is all of these, my friend. Actually until a few days ago, "friend" was not on the list ... perhaps "acquaintance" was a better word, as he knows thousands of people and nicely remembers my face and name whenever we cross paths, but I'm sure, because of who he is, he strives to make everyone feel remembered. All the same, I have always treasured being in his vicinity and so have many, many other people.

Uhm, okay that was a LIE.

Truth be told, the first time I ever trained with him, I thought him an egotistical ass. I literally had to talk myself into getting up and going to subsequent sessions, because I didn't like the fact that I was getting more wrinkles than I needed from wincing at his derogatory comments and, frankly his unnecessary rudeness.

Not at ME, of course, I'm always teacher's pet. In this case I was probably a pet ROCK, but a pet all the same. But what he taught was so important and so dang GOOD, I would manage to drag my butt up and out to his training sessions without fail.

In fact, he was so dang good at what he did, a year later I took his course again for a refresher, even though I said to myself, "Self? Why put yourself through the torture? He's a pain in the arse. Brilliant, but a pain in the arse."

Fast forward another year. In fact, almost two. Time for another refresher course.

This time I couldn't wait. I was actually looking forward to it. Other previous students were saying to me, "My Goodness, how can you take it again. He's such a $#@!&!" My reply immediately was, "No, he's not anymore. I think he's had an epiphany. He's now the kinder, gentler Fred."

So, now for the crux of this story.

This year, after the second or third session, I felt compelled to write him an e-mail. I won't share it with you verbatim, but it basically said, "Fred. Great class. I need to tell you that I've noticed a change in you and that I saw light bulbs going off in everyone's heads in class today. It was an extraordinary day and you have become an extraordinary person. You are now the kinder, gentler Fred." Or something like that. (In the words of Fred, if you can say something with "blah", then don't say "blah blah blah!")

He wrote me back a funny, "AW, Shucks, Dorothy" and that was the end of it ... or so I thought.

This week's class rolls around and towards lunch break, he slips a yellow envelope in front of me and says, "That's for you."

I start to open it, but he says, no, no, no. Not now." A short time later, he asked to chat with me privately and what he said truly changed my life.

He told me he'd never received an e-mail before that had so touched him. He very quietly explained that I was very right. He'd had an epiphany several years ago and he WAS changed ... he was the kinder, gentler Fred. He explained that he realized he'd been given "gifts" and those gifts were from God, who is his power source. And since he was given such wonderful gifts, it is only fitting that he share with others who have been his power sources. He then told me that last week I was his power source.

He hugged me and told me he loved me and we went back to class and that was that.

During lunch break, as I was pulling out of the driveway I remembered the yellow envelope. I opened it, thinking it was a nice written thank you or something equivalent. What I saw literally made me almost backend the car in front of me.

It was a check for a very generous amount. Now, Fred had no idea how difficult my life is right now. He had no idea that I had a very real need for a chunk of change in just a few days. He no idea that as he wrote that check his power source, namely God, had his hand on the quill.

For, in fact, that check was written out, almost EXACTLY to the penny for the amount of what I needed, plus ten percent, so that I could tithe at church this week.

I went home to meet my son, who has only been back from Iraq for a few short months and who came home to a lot of not happy STUFF, and I said, "Son, I need to tell you a story." His eyes grew wide as I ended my story and showed him the yellow envelope and what was inside. I swear he wiped a tear away ... my big, tough soldier boy. I then said, "I hope this reminds you that the world is filled with good people and that there is HOPE."

I went back to class that afternoon and when we were finished, I shared MY story with Fred, who now knows that he not only changed my life that day, but perhaps by son's life, too.

Fred taught me several years ago about the Get By Giving philosophy, but I'd never personally known the power of it until a few days ago. My life is changed, and all because I took the time to send a nice e-mail to someone.

So, I challenge all of you ... to do something nice for someone today. Tell someone they're wonderful, kiss your wife, hug your kids, volunteer somewhere that makes a difference. Change a life ... change YOUR life.

And watch the power of "You Get By Giving".

 

 

 

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Dee was born in Ohio and grew up on the North Coast in Oak Harbor. She was raised on the work ethic of the farmer and has always loved seeing the fruit of hard work. After taking a job as administrative assistant to a top Toledo Realtor, Dee was instantly hooked on the real estate profession.

She soon became licensed with a Toledo area real estate company and in only a few short years was a member of their President’s Club, Achiever’s Club, and an Ohio Association of Realtors President Club recipient in the most challenging market to ever hit real estate.

Dee Nofziger is a lifelong resident of Ohio, specifically the North Coast of Ohio, more commonly known as Toledo and Northwest Ohio. She serves the real estate needs of home owners and home buyers in Lucas, Wood, Fulton, and Ottawa Counties, among others. With nearly a decade of experience, Dee Nofziger is proudly licensed with Key Realty, Northwest Ohio's fastest growing independent real estate company. With professional relationships all over the country, Dee Nofziger is able to refer you to real estate professionals in your area who will make your home buying or selling experience the best you can imagine!

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Rainer
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Jennifer Chambers
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Dee,

This is a lovely post thank you for taking the time to share these precious memorable events in your life!!!!  It helps others when you tell the stories that matter to you it matters to others.......God Bless You and your precious Son, I appreciate his service and am forever grateful to him for protecting our freedoms and country! 

February 23, 2008 08:29 PM #2
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Nestor & Katerina Gasset
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Dee- That was a wonderful story of the power of the hand of God and angels in all things. What a blessing this was for you and I am so glad that your coach made such a great change in his life too. We all come to those crossroads and are given the tools, but along with that comes agency. He exercised his agency in a powerful way. Thank you for sharing. Katerina
February 23, 2008 08:29 PM #3
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Nannette Turner Saunders
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Great Story Dee!  Thank you so much for sharing!  My son too just got back from Iraq.  Bless you and your family.
February 23, 2008 08:33 PM #4
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Konnie - Glad you enjoyed it and that you, too understand its importance.

Jennifer - Thanks for the kind words.

Nestor and Katerina - I love the way you used the word "agency". What a unique perspective. Thank you for the kinds words.

Nannette - Bless you and your family, too. Glad you liked the story. It only happened two days ago, so I am still reeling a bit from its significance.

February 23, 2008 08:38 PM #5
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Todd Finch
Sibcy Cline Realtors - West Chester, OH

Dee (that's my wife's name as well) -  What a great story!  I'm sure when you get the chance you'll "Pay it Forward".  Always enjoy a story like that from a fellow Buckeye.

 


February 23, 2008 08:43 PM #6
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Todd - I can't wait to pay it forward. This entry is sort of an attempt to start that journey, hoping to impact someone else's life with just words.

By the way, is your wife's name actually Dee, or is it a nickname? My "real" name is Dede.

February 23, 2008 08:46 PM #7
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An incredible story.  I truly believe that people get what they give. 
February 23, 2008 08:48 PM #8
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Todd Finch
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Dee (or should I say Dede)  my wife's real name is Deanna but most everyone calls her Dee.
February 23, 2008 08:56 PM #9
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Dee, very nice post! It is better to give then receive in most cases. Thanks for sharing this ThemThem about Fred.


Duane

February 23, 2008 10:01 PM #10
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Duane,

Thanks for the kudos. "Fred" deserves a ThemThem!

February 23, 2008 10:07 PM #11
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Dee, no doubt about it, he seems to be quite the man!
February 23, 2008 10:39 PM #12
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Tina Farinas
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What a beautiful and touching story!  Thanks so much for sharing this.  I just want to give everyone a big HUGE mushy hugs and kisses!  Thank you so much.
February 24, 2008 01:56 PM #13
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Susan Davis
Ambit Energy - Dallas, TX
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Thanks for sharing such a great story and for giving credit where credit is due. First and foremost to God himself. I stive to go out of way to touch people that sometimes rub me the wrong way. It could just be the gentle nudge that makes the difference for them.

I think one of the best commercials I have seen to show this theroy is the commercial that shows people paying forward and it ends up back with the person it started out with. I think it is for an insurance company.

I love this concept and I have seen it in action. Go be the change you want to see in the world!

February 24, 2008 03:15 PM #14
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Robert Arnold
Brooks Prime Properties - Huntsville, TX
Lake Livingston Real Estate

Thanks for the GREAT feelings from your story. I myself have always believed in paying it forward. And told myself I was going to be good to the ones who had rubbed me wrong today. What a wonderful way GOD brings messages to us all, we just have to listen. So, thanks again for reminding me to pay it forward today and every other day. GOD bless you and your son! Tell your son Thank you for all of his sacrifices for us.

February 24, 2008 04:36 PM #15
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Cameron Wilson
Labrum Real Estate - Murrieta, CA
The Short Guy - Murrieta,Temecula,Menifee California
DEE, Some folks will not believe your story but as being someone who has been there done that you have just made my day and may FRED be blessed as GOD has blessed you and many others through him. Thank you for telling it as it is.
February 24, 2008 06:10 PM #16
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Tina - Big musht wet hugs and kisses back atcha!

Susan - I love that commercial, too. I must admit that I can be slow to forgive, so hopefully this will be a catalyst for me to "just let go".

Robert - Thanks for the kind words.

Cameron - I knew when I was writing this that there might be a collective "Yeah, RIGHT" from the peanut gallery. But then I told myself that I could put up with criticism if only one person's life or outlook was changed by it. It looks like I made the right decision, so thank you for your support.

 Hugs to all,

Dee

February 24, 2008 06:53 PM #17
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Harley Ramsey
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Wow, what a powerful story.  The moral you offer is a great reminder of the power we all have to give, whether affection, money, or other forms of support.  Thanks for the reminder.  Cheers, Harley
February 24, 2008 10:56 PM #18
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Harley,

You are so right, as gifts don't have to have anything to do with money.

Warm Regards,

Dee

February 25, 2008 07:44 AM #19
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Howdy Dee

This is a very touching post to read.

Thank you for sharing a peace of your life with all of us.

Being a Vet myself I take my hat off to your son for his service to our Grand Country,

and to you Dee for the sacrifice you made to let him serve our Country.

Have a good one

Dale

February 25, 2008 05:08 PM #20
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Dale, Thank you.

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