Missing someone you love at Christmas

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty GREC# 169695

If I've heard it once, I've heard it one thousand times that the first "Christmas", "birthday" or whatever holiday without someone is the worst.  I don't buy that.  I saw my own Grandmother miss my Papa for 30 years.  I don't imagine that any of them were easy for her.  When you love someone and they have gone on before you, you miss them.  

reminderI of course believe some deaths are easier to live with than others.  Loosing my Grandmother who was 92 was certainly easier to face and live with than loosing cousins in their teens and 30s.  It was this recent photo that my daughter took at her great grandmother's internment that made me stop and think about this.  When Kerrie set the rules for the December cloud burst contest she asked us to make someone's day, and what better way than to remember and be extra kind to someone who is missing someone at the holidays.  

I know my sister in laws will be missing their sons.  I have dear friends who have lost children and spouses.  And while time may make less the intense grief we all experience I don't imagine any amount of time heals the wounds of loss of someone that you love.  Abigail's great grandmother had 40 Christmas mornings without her husband.  40.  Reach out to someone this year who is missing a loved one.  And it doesn't matter if the loss was this year, last year or 40 years ago.

Paying for the person behind you at Starbucks is a worthy thing to do, and I'm not suggesting it isn't.  But taking the time to spend with someone who has an aching heart because they miss someone they love won't cost you anything and certainly could make their day.  And I'm sure you know you someone who is missing a loved one.

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Gloria Todor and Doug Durren - Delaware County PA Real Estate
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Tammy, A very nice post.  This time of year is so hard on people.  I know some people that have lost so many people they just do not want to even engage in the holiday fuss they just want it to be over.

Spending time with people is such a gift.

All the best to you and yours this holiday season.

Gloria

 

Dec 16, 2013 11:00 AM #1
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Liz Wallace
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Well Peach you hit the nail right on the head.  Good Old Southern Common Sense.  It is a lot harder to give time than to give money and so the thing that is the hardest is the next thing to do.  Merry Christmas.

Dec 16, 2013 11:06 AM #2
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True. Sad and true. The holidays can be very tough on people. Love the ones you have!

Dec 16, 2013 11:15 AM #3
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Trisha Bush
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Tammy,

I to believe that our time is worth more to people than money. Taking the time to show people that you care, spending time with them, or doing some little chore or that something extra that will make their day brighter or their burden lighter is the best.

Dec 16, 2013 11:24 AM #4
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Barbara Altieri
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Tammy -- Well said. I miss all my angels in heaven. Yes, holidays can be tough. For those who have lost, it's always best to share time with those who care... and understand.

 

Dec 16, 2013 12:45 PM #5
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Tammy - The gift of time is a priceless one, so share it with those that you love!

Dec 16, 2013 01:28 PM #6
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I see sadness in some of my friends and family during the holiday season.  I can't imagine what I'd be like without my wife or my son...  

Dec 16, 2013 03:19 PM #7
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Tammy, Beautiful sentiment and well written.  Time is precious and sharing it with others is priceless.

Dec 16, 2013 07:31 PM #8
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Well said my friend. 

Dec 16, 2013 07:34 PM #9
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Gloria- I can imagine those feelings

Liz- I love to give my time.  

Brad- now that I make sure I do

Trisha- I agree

Barbara- I think that helps

Laura- absolutely

Jared- a puddle

Thank you Thom.

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I never had a husband to spend Christmas with.  Probably never will.  Can a person miss what they've never had, or will?  

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