In real estate parlance you will hear many talk of keeping up with the Joneses. People at work get promotions and buy bigger houses and better cars, and they want to likewise. How superficial in life is that? But I see something far more insidious in that in life and that is trying to "be" someone else.
Motivational speaker and writer Pat Williams wrote a book about basketball great Michael Jordan. It was entitled, "How to Be Like Mike." While the premise of the book about lessons in success from a basketball star's journey had some merit to it I have always hated that title.
Many people look around the world at others with their charm, success, humor, intelligence, good looks, band of friends, connections and want to be in that crowd and like them. They completely discount what they have to offer themselves. Somehow they feel they fall short and they are inadequate. I have great sadness for them when I see that. I see it far too often.
Comparing yourself with other people will ALWAYS make you miserable. It has to be stopped. It denies your uniqueness in the world and the gifts you have that make you special.
More than that, I think it is the #1 distraction you can have in your mind that wastes more of your time looking at someone else and not developing and growing yourself to your full potential. It REALLY gets your eye off the ball. Why? Because you are looking at someone else and trying to be like them. Looking at another's good points and developing them in yourself is fine. But don't ever want to be them! You are YOU!
Even in social blogging, some may have been at it longer than you and have accumulated "more points." In Realtor offices, some are more veterans with more years under their belt. DO NOT LET ANY OF THESE PEOPLE INTIMIDATE YOU!! I speak for all the newbies of the world. A secret for you: "They are no better than you." In fact, you may be far superior to them in so many areas of your life. Embrace them and congratulate them for all they offer. But please, don't be them. You are denying the world everything that is in the beautiful you.
Remember you are the gift you came to give the world. You are nothing less than a treasure. Honor that gift by just being You. Find your "internal" compass and follow that, not someone else. YOU is what the world needs to see each and EVERY day!