Which wolf do you feed?

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Real Estate Agent with Casa Tierra Realty

An elder Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, A fight is going on inside me. It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, pride, and superiority. The other wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This same fight is going on inside of you and every other person too. The children thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, Which wolf will win? The old Cherokee simply replied: The one I feed.

This evening (September 12th) on Bill Moyer's Journal, Mr. Moyers made reference to this apparently well known (but not to me) story.  It made me think of the many postings I have read on ActiveRain as well as the "talk radio" I frequent, most of which I am in disagreement with, indeed, often disgusted with.  I think of what I hear from those who profess to be Christian but who spiel venom on a daily basis (I'm thinking of Limbaugh and Hannity) against the Democrats.  And I conclude that it may be impossible for us to ever come together again.  I like that Obama talks about the electorate as not being "red" or "blue" but Americans all.  I think that John McCain feels the same although maybe does not express it as explicitly.  We are truly fortunate that we have two candidates who are inspirational and each of whom will lead us well when the opportunity comes. 

I am also reminded of our Realtor Code of Ethics and think how well this folk wisdom applies to us in our every day lives and activities.  It seems to me to be a corollary of the "golden rule".  In our individual hearts, we need to know which wolf we are feeding.

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Rainer
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Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
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Linda Mae,

I suspect that "those that choose to feed the wrong wolf" do not have compassion.

Jon,

I suspect that with the recent events in Washington, we are going to find a whole bunch of people who have been feeding the wrong wolf.  You may be called upon to share your insights.

Sep 23, 2008 11:07 PM #11
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Mike Jones
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Bill,

What a great story!  Thanks for the post.

Mike in Tucson

Sep 29, 2008 12:25 AM #12
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Greg Gorman
John R Wood Properties - Naples, FL
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Hi Bill-

The story is a great reminder that "...what we look for in life, we often find..." Whatever direction we're facing is the path we on...meaning we'll end up in the place where we are focused. Choose to be positive and gratiful even with the challenges life brings to us. We can't choose our curcumstances, but we can choose how we respond. Thanks for sharing & greetings from Paradise.

Realtor Greg Gorman & Realtor David Burke Present Naples Florida Real Estate

Sep 29, 2008 04:39 AM #13
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Bill Schwent
Casa Tierra Realty - Santa Fe, NM
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Greg,

What a appropriate quote on your part " ...what we look for in life, we often find ...".  It seems to me that the recent economic turmoil in our country is a perfect example.  Our politicians and our CEOs are looking only for power and money.  They found it ... but then we found out they cheated; they violated their public trust.  So, why did we drop our insistence on campaign finance reform, term limits, etc?

Sep 30, 2008 04:53 PM #14
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Alyce Martin
The Realty Group, LLC - Albuquerque, NM
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Bill - hello to Santa Fe.  Get ready for some serious tourist traffic - Balloonfest starts this weekend.  Your post holds a very simple yet powerful message - and while we are all spinning and trying to find our equilibrium, this parable can be the bubble in the level.  Take care.

Sep 30, 2008 05:22 PM #16
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Hi there, Bill,

I liked this story enough that I came back to see what's next!  Time for a new story.  LOL

Mike in Tucson

Oct 05, 2008 11:45 PM #17
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Bill Schwent
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Mike,

OK, I'll try a "new story" for you, since you care so much.  Harlan McKosato, a Sauk/Ioway and the only native American commentator that I know of, commented today on Sarah Palin's husband's publicity that his grandmother was Yup'ik (Eskimo).  His point is that, to be a "real Indian", "you have to remain connected to your tribe and to your tribal family; that's your first line of defense.  If you don't have their support, you are likely to be viewed as a fraud.  Second, support fundamental tribal rights because in the end your actions speak louder that the words of others." 

Oct 06, 2008 12:16 AM #18
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Hi Bill; Interesting post this one!   I am not so sure that we will ever all be singing from the same song.  It seems that when a people has an enemy upon which to focus their hate, discontent, efforts and riches, they come together as one--well, sort of, anyway.   As soon as the enemy is cut asunder from one perspective or another and is no longer perceived as a common enemy, the people choose up sides and split somewhere down the middle and war on each other.  I fear the war in heaven continues even on this world, no matter what we wish to do about it.   For me, I guess I will just keep trying to feed the wolf that stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.  The problem is that each of us sees a different road to the same objectives when it comes to the collective opinion of the "people".   Our experience on this world is all about personal achievement and growth anyway, and I fear that governments simply cannot get their arms around an issue in a way that will be acceptable to everyone.   The old adage that you can please some of the people some of the time, even most of the people most of the time, but never all of the people all of the time will hold true, no matter which way the good old government goes.   I would like to say that whatever position the government takes is irrelevant.  Unfortunately, life has taught me a different lesson.  Jerry

Oct 06, 2008 03:20 AM #19
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Sarah Nopp
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This is a great post. I hear from so few people who are willing to identify positive attributes in both candidates. Thank you

Oct 06, 2008 11:34 AM #20
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Elizabeth Nieves
The Elizabeth Nieves Realty Group - Durham, NC
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Being Cherokee...I've heard this story many times before. It is so very true that what we feed the most will be the strongest. The thing is...that with ALL the negative stuff going on around us in the world...we get fed a whole lot of secondhand garbage. We have to feed our spirits the GOOD FOOD on a regular basis to be strong enough to stand against the ugliness. GREAT REMINDER! GBU!!

Oct 06, 2008 05:57 PM #21
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Bill Schwent
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JERRY,

Interesting observations and perspective.  Feeding the "good wolf" requires a few more attributes like, don't let the bastards get you down; that many will abuse the rest of us for their own gain; good guys don't always place first; many will through stones at you knowing that you can't get to their "glass house".  As long as you are happy and contended with who you are, none of the other matters.

Sarah,

Why is that?  Either one of these guys will do the best for our country.  All this negativity is unbecoming of both of them.  Unfortunately, Karl Rove proved that it works.  What are we Americans thinking?!

Elizabeth,

I am delighted to hear that this is, indeed, a folk story of your tribe.  Being from New Mexico, I have a fondness for and appreciation of our native Americans and their perspective on the world. 

Oct 08, 2008 10:45 PM #22
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Jim Crawford
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It also begins with which we choose to believe.  Sometimes we are predisposed to our own predjuduces and are not as open minded as we think we are.  It is said that even if th perfect candidate were to run on a third party ticket.  15% of democrats would not vote for him /her  nor would 15% of republicans vote for him / her.  That is a large number of closed minds when you add it up at 30% straight party line voters that cannot think of voting outside theit party lines.  Not very open minded.  Try lobbying sometimes, and you may change the way you think on who the best choice is.

Oct 08, 2008 11:46 PM #23
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Josh Holt
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Bill-

Nice post! I would encourage you not to judge all Christians by the acts of a few. In the same vein that I would encourage you not to judge all women, or all muslims by the acts of a few. Great observation on both canidates wanting to bring the country together. As an independent voter that voted for McCain, you will NEVER hear me say "Barak Obama is not my president."

j

Nov 26, 2008 07:26 AM #24
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Josh,

Thanks for the posting; I thought this message had run its course.  Of course, not all Christians nor all women nor all Muslims should be judged by the terrorist acts and improprieties of the few.  But the point is that many extremists in all religions tend to minority view points, be that denying freedom of choice to women by Christians, or denying religious freedom to other relilgions by the extremists of the Muslim commuity.  If we are truely"Christian" or truely "followers of Muhammed", all extremism is to be denounced by the moderate followers of both religious persuasions.  By not speaking out, the extremists are further empowered.

Nov 26, 2008 08:41 PM #25
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Josh Holt
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Bill-

I'd have to respectfully disagree with you in saying all extremism is to be denounced. I firmly believe that your view point should be heard- when expressed tactfully, respectfully and appropriately- whether you are the only one espousing a view, or if you are one of the herd. Obviously, no one should be hurt, i.e. 9/11 from your views. America was founded by people that were called religious extremists in their day.

When I listen to the far right speaking heads of Hannity, Rush, or the leftist speaking heads from MSNBC like Olberman and Mathews, I guess I don't see them as Christians, Hindu's, Buddhist's, Muslims or Jews, but simply Americans expressing their views. What a great country we live in when we can watch both sides of a debate. I do wish all of them played nicer, but hey, you can't win them all. Christians, like everyone else are not perfect. In fact, to me being a Christian simply sets me up to fail. He set the bar so high, that as much as I want to, I will never be able to reach it. Does that mean I have failed? Does that make me a bad person? Does that mean I should stop trying? I surely hope not. But that is for Him to judge. To high jack and tweek a quote from a great American that loudly expressed an extreme minority view point, in a perfect world, we should not be judged by the color of our skin, nor the church we attend, but by the content of our character.

I appreciate the fact I live in America and do not have to sacrafice my individuality for group speak. And I appreciate the fact that you have the right to disagree with me. Happy Thanksgiving Bill.

Nov 26, 2008 09:20 PM #26
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Terry Miller
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Thanks for the great advice. I will check back often. I really like the blog. I am new at blogging but I am beginning to learn quite a bit from reading blogs like the ones I find on Active Rain. If I can ever be of help just let me know.  

                                                                 Thanks, Terry

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Dec 01, 2008 09:59 AM #27
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Georgie Hunter
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Thanks for sharing that great story - I have never heard it either, but it makes for some great imagery!  I will remember it.

Jan 07, 2009 08:07 PM #28
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Richard Stabile
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Touching thought.

That is something to think about. We are in control of who we are and must work on it all the time.

Richard

Jan 07, 2009 09:04 PM #29
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Bill,

These wolves have been around since September, and they've only been fed 28 times.  Just when they're about to go on a rampage, someone comes along and feeds them another comment.

Mike in Tucson

Jan 07, 2009 10:33 PM #30
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Jose Santos
Casa Latino A.T. - Concord, CA

Bill,

I came accross your blog and it caught my attention. What wolf will win? ... The one I feed. That is a very powerful thought. Thank you. 

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