Holiday Acceptance... And Beyond

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Real Estate Agent with Century 21 Moline Realty

When Sally Cheeseman posted the current contest for the Positive Attitude for the Weary Soul group, an idea instantly popped into my head.  I just had to share this gift and joy with all of you dear readers out there.

Recently I welcomed my first born child to the world.  Definitely the most amazing gift I've ever recieved.  Along with this gift, however, came another gift that I never even knew existed.  It's not a gift you would ask Santa for.  Not a gift that you can get if you don't meet the criteria.  And daddies, sorry, but I don't think you qualify, either.

It IS the gift of acceptance.

All of a sudden, in those blurry moments where the baby cries, you cry, and you are nearly killing yourself trying to see the kid through the weighing and everything else, you become a member of this elite group of women.  This group of women that you knew of, but didn't know shared such a strong bond.  This group who knows every emotion that you are going through.

The group of moms.

It started with strangers coming up to me, commenting on baby, starting conversation, and then us bonding over pacifiers vs. thumbs and the type of formula we use.  Where did you get that cart seat cover?  Oh I love that little hat! 

Then all of a sudden, I became closer to all my friends who had already crossed over into the motherhood group.  At the same time, I became distanced - not because I wanted to be - from some of my friends who had not.

The real shocker to me, however, was when I opened up my facebook a couple weeks ago and had a friend request from someone I knew.  Someone I knew very well.  Someone who didn't seem to like me in high school; someone who I just wanted to accept me.

She became a mom just months after me.  Immediately we were swapping labor stories, discussing diaper habits, and chuckling over sleepless nights.  Strangely, she wasn't the first, but perhaps the most shocking. 

All of a sudden it's "we should get together for lunch" and "we'll have to have play dates in the upcoming years". 

Just a little over a year ago, I felt so out of touch.  Most of my friends were one extreme or the other - responsible parents, who mingled with other mommies, and crazy partiers who I just didn't seem to click with.  (Don't get me wrong.  Some mommies are crazy partiers and vice versa, too.  I make a generalized reference.)  Now I'm comfortable.  I'm settled.  I have a support system, and people to call and laugh with, or cry with - whatever a day full of being a mom calls for.

So this Christmas, I am thankful for my bundle (gift!) of joy, and the bliss of acceptance into the coolest group in the world - the group of moms.

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Joslyn Panka Solomon & Nicholas Solomon - Realtors

Century 21 Moline Realty

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Ken Cook
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You know, I've been reading your blog for months. It's usually very good. This one got me to subscribe. Now, take this life lesson with you and realize that other people get in touch with other groups and are just as passionate about those as you are "the mommy group". But never as passionate as you are about the reason you are in the mommy group :)

Dec 03, 2008 01:31 AM #1
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Ken, thank you!  It's wonderful to hear that, especially since I've had some serious writer's block when it comes to this blog.  I got Sally's email and knew I HAD to write this up!

Thank you so much.  :)

Dec 03, 2008 01:40 AM #2
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Regina P. Brown
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Joslyn, congrats on adapting to the hardest 24/7/365 job in the world!  You are very blessed.

Join my NEW group for professionals who work from their home office at http://activerain.com/groups/virtualoffice

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Dec 03, 2008 02:24 AM #3
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Vanessa Stalets
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Joslyn, you made me teary as I remembered that moment 18+ yrs ago when I became part of that group too! You eloquently describe the amazing journey called Motherhood. Hang on girl, the ride can get bumpy, but it is ALWAYS the best ride of your life! Hugs big time!!

Dec 03, 2008 06:59 AM #4
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Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
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What a wonderful 'gift' you have!  The joy of motherhood is like no other experience in the world I can compare.

Now...wait until your little one grows up....yup, the joys of motherhood :) :)

Dec 04, 2008 01:06 PM #5
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Regina - That's the truth, isn't it?  You can't even comprehend until you have one.

Vanessa - Thanks!  So far, it's the best.  :)  Sometimes crazy, sometimes frustrating, but the best.

Sally - I wish I could keep him little.... it's all happening too quickly already.

Dec 06, 2008 01:10 AM #6
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Debra Kukulski, Broker Associate
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What could be a better gift? Wonderful article and congrats on your new little bundle of joy:-)

Dec 08, 2008 11:44 AM #7
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Joslyn, enjoy your new found group - as it lasts a lifetime!  Congratulations on your baby too - what a beautiful little one. 

Your Raleigh Realtors

Dec 08, 2008 12:01 PM #8
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Joslyn- firstly welcome to the club, the Mummy club that is. I have just found this little yuletide contest and your post speaks to me the most. Mine will be of a similar vein, but 2 years on. Enjoy enjoy, enjoy and merry Christmas Mommie!

Dec 08, 2008 01:08 PM #9
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Christine OShea
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Joslyn, what a wonderful post, I hope you win.  Congratulations on becoming a mom, it is the most wonderful feeling in the world and one you will never forget (even 24 years later)

Dec 08, 2008 01:44 PM #10
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Marian Gregor-Ann
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Hi Joslyn, Mothers do indeed belong to an elite group. You have become the recipeint of the gifts of unconditional love, unconditional acceptance. Congratulations.

Dec 08, 2008 05:35 PM #11
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Thank you for sharing this with all of us! Happy Holidays!

Dec 08, 2008 07:11 PM #12
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Liz Moras
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Joslyn..........congratulations on entering the 'world' of motherhood!  Its a life altering experience.......that in is in some ways both exclusive and inclusive........for sure there is something about having a child that changes your perception of yourself and your world forever.........by the blessings it brings..........comfort you and bring you joy........!...

Dec 14, 2008 11:54 AM #13
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p.s. love the backdrop ..........looks like gorgeous silk.........:-)

Dec 14, 2008 11:55 AM #14
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Joan Whitebook
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What a beautiful baby -- and what a joy.  congratuations.  It is amazing how some of those silly "likes" and "dislikes" from high school or college fade away as we all face the joys and sorrows of life together as we mature.  Enjoy your bundle of joy.

Dec 14, 2008 12:52 PM #15
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Great post Joslyn.  I too found that motherhood gave me a place of belonging.  My oldest turned 19 in October and I thank God every day for giving me the gift of motherhood.  Enjoy your bundle of joy.

Dec 15, 2008 01:37 PM #16
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Hi Joslyn - Congratulations on your new baby!  Thanks for entering this contest!

Ann

Dec 15, 2008 07:09 PM #17
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Joslyn~

What a great thought! You wrote..."am thankful for my bundle (gift!) of joy, and the blissof acceptance into the coolest group in the world - the group of moms."...and I could be heard...on this wintry night...along with 8 tiny reindeer singing....YAY!!!!!

Dec 18, 2008 09:18 AM #18
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Kathy Kooyman
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Joslyn ~ You are so right, I have three and each one was a gift but especially the last as she was not planned.  Two times I was scheduled to have my tubes tied and two times I backed out and then by the grace of God, I was given one more beautiful baby.  I understand exactly how you feel.

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